Have you been thinkin' of you and your needs only, single person? Wanna become a need-meeter whose needs have been met?

There is a joy, peace and contentment in Christ, and an overflow of the Holy Spirit where God can use you to meet needs. 

And there is a challenge every man and woman faces (where if not responding wisely to the Lord, the enemy of human souls can greatly hinder to keep them from needs met, and subsequently from meeting other's needs). Hey, there is a fight that every man and woman can win! But you can't fight and win alone. We all need the Word's empowering. 

Think about this. From movies and television, to print media and the Internet, men and women are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images like never before. Have you yet been caught in the net? It is impossible to totally avoid such temptations at times, but, thankfully, not impossible to confront them and to gain victory over them in Christ! 

Listen, God loves you and has a plan for your joy and happiness. It’s with the word first. All loneliness can be ditched. Fulfillment and abundant life can be had. Eternal life too! 

Ever met someone so desperate that they scare or drive others away? Are you like a bone-dry sponge lookin’ to soak up for self, or is there living water inside?

You can be happy though single.. other-oriented and victorious. And perhaps God has called you to one day not be single. See Matthew 6:33.

So many people I meet have struggled with loneliness, emptiness, hopelessness, guilt, and many with a fear of dying. What have you been dealing with single person? There is a way for you. 

Hey single person, ask yourself this.. are you the person that you’ve been (and perhaps still are) looking for? May I ask.. Have you been looking for a so called ten (I mean in all areas), but you’re a three spiritually.. or perhaps a two in the other areas? Become what you've been looking for.. a person of good character. A vessel of honor, trustworthy and noble.  

Do you think that you need that perfect babe or hunk of a lover to completely you? Hey, you’re not a half, you are a whole person aren't you? Sure. One is a whole number and with Jesus Christ living on the inside guess what.. you are totally complete in him. He's your first love.  

Do become the kinda person you’ve been looking for. Before looking for em. Perhaps you've been looking for the Lord and didn't even know it. 

Do seek God and his will for you today. Listen, if you’re not married, don’t seek a spouse. Don't do this primarily. The Bible teaches this to us. Yes, get right in the light, before you get left all lonely out in the dark. 

The Apostle Paul said, “Because of the present crisis, I think it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you committed to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you free of commitment? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned. And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this...” 1 Corinthians 7:26-28

Jesus said, “For the Gentiles strive after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:32-34 

Opt to break bad personal patterns, bondages, and to purely sow to the Spirit to walk free first. No time for sowin' to the flesh, or to the world. Seek to know, serve and please the Lord in daily worship.. first. Daily. 

Have you only been thinking of you and your needs? Let's seen that changed!

God delights to bless, to meet needs and he can use you to impact other lives for his glory! Even many, even towns, cities and nations. Think bigger than you. Are you still single and feel like you shouldn’t be by now -- here are ten words of counsel for ya? 

Please, today look to the Lord to meet your needs, not merely half or some of your needs. I mean even for your spouse-lover, cuz by His Spirit he can guide you to the right one, in the right way, with his right timing. Live on-fire for Jesus. He is the Way and ultimate Solution for you.. the way, the truth and the life! Your only way into abundant and eternal life!  

Feel like it’s too late for you? It ain't. 

Single dude or dudette, have you been out looking for the “right person” or thinking that if you’ve already met the “right person”? 

May I ask.. Are you.. are they a born again, growing Christian. Are they apart of Christ’s Church (his Body of believers)? Why get unequally yoked up outside of God's will for you when He made you and knows best what you need and long for? 

Ask yourself.. What or who do they like to talk about the most? Christ is the ultimate Groom and he is so there for you. He can meet every need of his bride the Church. In fact it’s so easy for him to do. Now, need some verses to meditate upon, believer?

Again, Jesus said, “But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.” 

“Are you bound to a wife? seek not to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.” ~ Paul

1 Corinthians 7:12-14,20
“If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away..” Win her, please don’t ditch and or divorce her. Do NOT seek to end the marriage, seek to know and glorify God in it.

Primarily seek to know your first love, Jesus, today.. and to do his will. Man! Woman, boy or girl -- he’ll meet every need you have as you turn, trust and put him first. Yes, every one of em! Do this first--seek and sow to the Spirit instead of to the flesh. Let Jesus be Savior.. and Lord of your life..not just in theory! In practice. Do you see his Bible pattern in this for wise application -- you can! 

1 Kings 3:11-13
And God said unto him, Because thou hast asked this thing, and hast not asked for thyself long life; neither hast asked riches for thyself, nor hast asked the life of thine enemies; but hast asked for thyself understanding to discern judgment; 

1 Kings 17:13
And Elijah said unto her, Fear not; go and do as thou hast said: but make me thereof a little cake first, and bring it unto me, and after make for thee and for thy son.

2 Chronicles 1:7-12
In that night did God appear unto Solomon, and said unto him, Ask what I shall give thee…

See 1 Kings 3:13 prayerfully, in context when you get a moment (always)..
Moreover, I will give you what you did not request--both riches and honor--so that during all your days no man in any kingdom will be your equal.

Psalm 112:3
Wealth and riches are in his house, and his righteousness endures forever.

Proverbs 8:18
With me are riches and honor, enduring wealth and righteousness.

Proverbs 10:3
The LORD does not let the righteous go hungry, but He denies the craving of the wicked.

Proverbs 28:10
He who leads the upright along the path of evil will fall into his own pit, but the blameless will inherit what is good.

Ecclesiastes 10:2
A wise man's heart inclines to the right, but the heart of a fool to the left.

Isaiah 26:9
My soul longs for You in the night; indeed, my spirit within me diligently seeks You. For when Your judgments come upon the earth, the inhabitants of the world will learn righteousness.

Matthew 19:29
And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or fields for the sake of My name will receive a hundredfold and will inherit eternal life.

Mark 10:29
"Truly I tell you," Jesus replied, "no one who has left home or brothers or sisters or mother or father or children or fields for My sake and for the gospel

Luke 12:31
But seek His kingdom, and these things will be added unto you.

Luke 18:29
"Truly I tell you," Jesus replied, "no one who has left home or wife or brothers or parents or children for the sake of the kingdom of God

1 Timothy 4:8
For physical exercise is of limited value, but godliness is valuable in every way, holding promise for the present life and for the one to come. 

1 Kings 3:13
Moreover, I will give you what you did not request--both riches and honor--so that during all your days no man in any kingdom will be your equal. 

38 years -- feelin' so blessed and grateful inside. Thank you, Liney.

How was your valentine’s Day? V-day, it's all about real love! 

Man, it's now 2020 and cuz of love.. I am musing. Do remember asking Liney 38 years ago on Valentines Day to marry me. Took her out to and then we went strolling by a lake under the stars.

Was nice out. 

Glad I did! She said Yes. Most beautiful woman in the world!  

God's way is perfect. Trust Jesus.

Are you called to become married to a growing Christian? God's timing is perfect.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken." 

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Jesus is the only way to the Father. He is the Father's way for you.

It's an imperfect world here. Duh. A fallen, sin-cursed world. Meaning.. man (people) and his sin has messed it up pretty much. Jesus can forgive and fix all that. Yes, imperfect world now, perfect Savior.. so for you. Now.   

Want harmony in and out of the home? Set the right time and pray with her, husbands. Yes, earnestly with and for your wives. They have needs that you can meet, and some that you can’t meet.

Touching, tender, and top priority. It’s an intimate thang. It’s blessed of God! It's about worshipping the Lord together--you two were created for Him. 

Yep, it’s about waiting on Him. It's about helping one another too. It's about hearing both God and her voice, guys. It’s about sincere vertical candor, trust, expectation, and selfless concern for each other. We pray so He can hear us and respond with power. Christians, our main aim isn't so people around us hear us. The weird Pharisees of old primarily prayed on street corners so that others would hear them out in public and feel impressed. 

This is SO needed for couples daily -- cuz when we’re together praying or apart praying for each other (like when away working in order to pay those bills), we both need the Lord who provides, helps and guides.. to come through and answer us. What do we hear from Him. Yes, No, or Wait is what we hear (He answers every prayer). And His timing is perfect, He knows best, and He delights to bless and take part as Lord in our relationships. 

Seems like I often learn more about my wife (Liney’s) needs, 'bout her longings and her dreams when she is casually praying with me, and I am thrilled to join in for her sake. I pray that she will continue to live happy, and blessed with all needs met. God can do it--the big stuff isn't too big for Him. She has some spiritual battles that she faces at her office at times, that I don’t face or fully understand, but Jesus does. We all have some battles, believers.  

Plan a time to discuss the “First Steps You’ll Take” with your wife in this.

Impact: God uses individuals and couples to make a positive impact in this world... if and when we are praying in faith. God calls us to be a good witness at home and in the world. No room for unbelief. A frequent routine of prayer together dramatically enhances marital relations by improving marital trust..along with spiritual and physical intimacy. Be active in a healthy Bible teaching Christian church with an on-fire (saved spiritual, instead of carnal, religious or worldly) pastor. And pray a short or longer prayer before you go, so you won’t have a fight along the way. Mr. Lu-Cifer (the devil) likes to divide couples and rob them of JOY etc. 

Typical Obstacles For Some: 

• INTIMIDATION: Many men want to always come off strong with no needs. They can feel awkward about initiating prayer with their wives because some perceive her to be more spiritually mature (and some wives are). But you don’t need to be a spiritual giant to lead in this area, husbands. You just need to initiate and point to the ultimate Solution for your marriage which is Christ. The couple that prays together can stay together and give witness of His love. Saved husbands are called to be the spiritual leaders in a marriage, and saved wives are to be the spiritual challenge in the relationship--equally valued and loved.  
• BACKGROUND: Some grew up in homes where honest prayer was silent or non-existent. God is not religious so none of us need to work beads or say religious form prayers--God through His Son Jesus Christ is our only focus when we pray. Praying out loud in front of others can feel uncomfortable to some. Men, start by holding her hand. Holding hands while praising and praying silently together..and then perhaps squeeze hands when you are done, or when it’s their turn. Do graduate on to “one sentence prayers” from the silent praying--it’s good to come into agreement with each other when praying. Still feel awkward, just take baby steps. 
• SCHEDULES: Jobs, kids, travel and other life realities will get in the way. Piggyback your prayer habit onto existing routines (e.g., bedtime, driving, etc.) at least twice per week rather than setting lofty but unattainable goals. 

No need to act all hyper-spiritual, churchy weird or even spooky. Keep it plain and simple -- just start like you talk in a casual friendship. Sure, you already know how to start a conversation with your friends--so it's important to keep it that simple. Perhaps discuss the following with your wife before launching a simple prayer routine together. 

1. How will we pray? (Choose a place to start. I like to write down some basic needs -- her’s first and some things to thank the Lord for.) 
❑ Silent prayer while holding hands 
❑ One sentence prayers about shared concerns 
❑ He prays while she silently agrees 
❑ She prays while he silently agrees 
❑ Take turns praying out loud 

2. What will we pray for/about? (Mention 2-3 in each category.) 
❑ Giving Thanks 
❑ Our Needs/Concerns 
❑ Our Kids/Grandkids 
❑ Our Dreams/Goals 
❑ Family/Friends/Acquaintances 

HUSBAND, THERE’S A TIME TO GENTLY EMBRACE HER AND PRAY OVER HER PLANS AND NEEDS. 

Doesn’t have to be long or complicated at all--sometimes when she’s hurting inside.. it can be longer of course. Not loudly praying for her. It can be whispered prayers to God for her--He loves you both most, so SO MUCH and wants to see her blessed more than you do. But nothing is more intimate for a couple than that. Praying for each other's needs. 

Be United, Harmonious, Joyful, and in Prayer--Be Of The Same Mind In The Lord. 

Turn all your concerns, fears and worries into prayers. 

The Bible says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!

Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;
and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things.” Phil. 4:4-8

3. Guidelines for overcoming prayer obstacles: 
❑ Humility with faith: Act confident even if you don’t feel like it. Agree that you are just two of God’s cherished children seeking help rather than some spiritual giants hoping to inspire or impress one another. 
❑ Silence with hearing Him: Recall the Scriptures you’ve together read. When either of you doesn’t know what to say, agree to mention a topic of need and then pray silently. 
❑  Reminders: You want to stay together in love (so many don’t). You want mature spiritually--fully grow up into all that God wants you each to be. You want to be what the other needs you to be according to God’s wisdom and word. Either can “nudge” the other back on track whenever your prayer routine wanes. You can pray over the phone when away taking turns. No guilt or remorse.

Would you pray something like: Please forgive me, Jesus. I turn, trust and invite You In -- use us together for Your glory. Amen. Facebook.com/ShareJesus