Showing posts with label dad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dad. Show all posts

Saturday, June 20, 2026

Is it Possible To Legitimately Honor Your Parents Without Losing Your Marriage? Yes, Of Course. Don't Be Silly.

Sure, there's a good balance, believer. 

As a flawed parent, I've opted to continue in following Christ cuz that's the smartest thing to do. Not in spite of my failures do I follow Him, not despite the circumstances, but because of my many failures do I follow Him -- and because I love the Lord who has had zero failures. 

It's wise for any of us to follow and stay close to Him and His family.

CAN WE LEARN FROM THE CONSEQUENCES OF DISHONORING PARENTS? YES.

See EPHESIANS 6:2-3

God commands us to honor our father and mother and promises that a life of respect and obedience brings His favor and blessing.

01. DISHONOR REVEALS A REBELLIOUS HEART INSIDE

Those who reject the authority God placed over them often struggle to surrender to the authority of God Himself.

02. DISHONOR DAMAGES MULTIPLE RELATIONSHIPS

Disrespect, resentment, and contempt can wound the very relationships God designed to nurture and guide us.

03. DISHONOR FORFEITS GOD'S INTENDED BLESSING

God associates honor toward parents with a life that goes well and enjoys His gracious favor.

04. DISHONOR DEVELOPS A PATTERN OF THE WRONG KIND OF PRIDE

A person who refuses parental instruction often rejects wisdom and suffers unnecessary consequences.

05. DISHONOR HURTS AND GRIEVES THE HEART OF GOD

I don't care what your parents did, what you did, what your kids did, what your uncle did, or what your friends did.

I don't even care where you've been.. or who you've been hanging with. You can be changed by God if you want to be.. even if you've tried to change yourself multiple times via sheer willpower and it just didn't work. God can grant you true repentance and saving faith -- He can change you in a nanosecond because of the death of Jesus on the Cross and because of His resurrection. Be born again. #DareToHonorAndBelieveInYourHeavenlyFather

Saturday, May 30, 2026

One Day My Dad Stopped Calling Me...

...but he still remembers all our names when we call or visit him. That's a good thing. 

One day, it just ceased, the kind calls from dad. Nobody was upset on either end at all.

This is interesting and yet sad! Man, you can be having a phone conversation and not realize it was the last one where he called you. 

So true. One day, your dad will call you for the very last time, and neither of you will even know it is the final phone conversation.

My mom does the calls now. I hear him and Christian music in the background. He still brings up Jesus and the Rapture (the term is in the Latin Bible)! About 2 years ago dad called to play the organ for me on my birthday. Yeah, he did that from time to time and enjoyed doing that when we visited. 

My mom cares for him. They've been married for almost 70 years now. She feels it and sometimes tears up at times! 

You could be enjoying many things here and not at all know it's the last time you will do that. One day, you could be breathing the very last oxygen that you take in and not know this is it. Hey, lungs are a blessing too. Thank and praise the Lord every day you wake up. He has a good plan to inquire about. We've got to be ready for anything, believer, especially for this day. It's possible to become ready.  

Does your dad call or do you call? But how this halting of calls with people's dads? Well, he perhaps.. might have already slipped off into eternity.. like all dads end up doing. Bottom line, people wouldn't die at all if it weren't for sin. This world now isn't at all like what it was intended to be like. Dumb choices were made, sin entered. 

So sorry for your loss if that is the case with your parents. (My dad is still with us. Last week I got a call and I looked down and it was from his phone. Surprised, I answered it "Hi, Dad!" but it was my mom cuz she left her own phone in her car).

I'm so grateful we have had my parents around for many years! I'm going to keep on praying for, and calling them because I love them!

They had such high hopes for how he'd visit and share with his grandkids, and for how we'd all turn out to go bless so many people.

He was tough (could be too tough sometimes when we were too loud, cutting us in two with his belt -- made is run behind the car one time), but I miss my dad. What dad is perfect, especially during blackout drinking days?

Life will keep moving onward (my dad did point me to a perfect Father out on 2 long 10-speed bike rides, and then later on I pointed him to Christ and he got born again at my church where he and my mom visited for a movie "Distant Thunder"). 

But your dad's voice will slowly become a memory you wish you could hear again. If he's still alive and can hear, you might call him to remind him of some stories.

The man who once stayed awake at night worrying about you all, who worked long and silently to give you a better, well-rounded life with many trips, will not always be there on the other side of the phone.

So answer your parents' calls when you can, and check on them often.

Go sit with him a little longer when you can visit. Remind him of stories he used to tell. Listen to his stories, even the repeated ones that he can remember. 

We had honest disagreements about decent leaders (even 47), but his memory released all of that. Honesty is good when respectful. Talk to him again, because one day, you will miss the moments you once thought were so ordinary.

In the end, we never regret loving our parents too much. Did you? 

The brevity of life is astounding to me. We only regret the time we thought we still had.

One day, my dad, Kim, stopped calling me.
Not because he stopped loving me...or stopped loving us as a family. Nope. 

Not because he forgot our names.
But because age often has a quiet way of thinning a man’s hearing and recall-ability and strength even, while somehow leaving his love with him.
  • Now, when we call him, he still remembers us.
  • He still brightens at familiar voices.
  • He still reaches for old camp stories hidden deep in the fading corners of Tom Sawyer memories.
And it makes me think about something most people never realize until it is a bit too late:

One day, your father too will speak to you for the very last time, and neither of you will even know it is the final conversation.

No music will play, perhaps (my dad has Christian hymns playing today. He daily loves to sit out on his patio -- outdoors with camp and sports has been a large part of his life).
No warning lights will flash.
Life will simply keep moving forward, as it always does, until suddenly the ordinary becomes sacred in hindsight. God loves all dads and He  understands them. 

The flawed but hardworking man who at times stayed awake at night (Kim), worrying about us…
The man who quietly carried a lot of stress, who was depressed at times (as many Germans struggle with), and with great pressures that you never fully saw or felt (cuz he shielded the family)..
The man who worked really long hours when he would have rather headed on the road home, who sacrificed silently.. even those bottles and the Olympia beers in cans, who planned family trips, paid all the bills, who was disappointed that we didn't cut our hair much, or go to UCLA, who fixed some house problems, and tried to build a better life for those he loved..

..will not always be there on the other end of the phone. Your Heavenly Father is there for you if you'd call out. 

Whether you're a dad, a son, or someone else (living in no matter what country.. choose to live all out (as a bold witness out in the world but not of it) for the Lord! Your Father is worthy. Or should I say live all in (with intimate closeness of devotion, in God's will and Church) - yes, 100% for his glory.

"Live every day as though it were your last day, because one day it will be." ~ Greg Laurie

And somehow, we always think there will be more time for his calls. Am not sure how much more.
-More conversations.
-More visits.
-More holidays there with him. (Did I tell you how he loaned us his prize automobile? He felt that.
-More chances to say what mattered.
But life is astonishingly brief. Scripture says, “You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes” (James 4:14. It's good for everyone to be ready). The older I get, the more hauntingly true that feels.

So answer his calls when you can. Sure, he plays with his phone these days -- but he might call one more time?

Sit with him a little longer when you visit.

Tell .. don't ask him so much about the ole stories he used to tell when you were young. And when he repeats them again, as he might, listen anyway. One day you may ache to hear those same stories just one more time.

We did not always agree on everything. We had honest disagreements about hair and politics, and personal decisions, and the best direction to take. But polite respectful honesty is not the enemy of love. In the end, memory has a strange way of super-softening arguments and magnifying affection.

What remains is not the debate.
What remains is the person a bit longer.

I have also noticed something sobering in Scripture and in life itself: sometimes a godly generation is followed by a wandering one, only for God to raise up faith again in the next. The Bible shows this painful pattern repeatedly. One generation walks closely with God, the next drifts, and another generation rediscovers what was nearly lost. Judges says, “There arose another generation after them who did not know the Lord” (Judges 2:10). It is a reminder that faith must be personally embraced, not merely inherited.

And yet grace still pursues families across generations.

In the end, I do not think anyone regrets loving their parents too much.

The real regret is usually quieter than that.

It is the time we assumed we still had.
The visit we postponed.

The call we meant to return tomorrow.
The conversation we thought could wait.

One day, his phone grows silent. Did you keep a few voicemail messages?

And you would give almost anything to hear that familiar voice once more.

There are moments in life that feel painfully ordinary while they are happening, only to become sacred in memory later.

Many sons and daughters have hugged their father goodbye, ended a conversation, listened to one final prayer, or heard one last piece of advice without realizing it would be the final time on this side of eternity.

Ever wondered about some of the final quietly moments in the Bible?

• Joseph and Jacob — Jacob blessed Joseph and his sons before dying. Joseph surely knew his father was weak, but no child is ever fully prepared for the final words of a father. Jacob’s blessing and final conversations are recorded in Genesis 48–49. Soon afterward, “Jacob breathed his last and was gathered to his people” (Genesis 49:33).

• Solomon and David — King David gave final charges and fatherly counsel to Solomon before his passing. David urged his son to walk in God’s ways with courage and obedience: “Be strong, therefore, and show yourself a man” (1 Kings 2:1–3). Solomon likely understood his father was nearing death, but those became the last recorded words between them.

• Isaac and Jacob — Isaac blessed Jacob before his death, not realizing how fractured and painful the family story would become afterward (Genesis 27–28). Jacob then departed, and the family was never the same again.

• The Prodigal Son’s older brother — In Luke 15, Jesus leaves the story open-ended. The father pleads with the older son to come inside and rejoice. Scripture never records another conversation between them. Christ intentionally leaves the ending unfinished, perhaps reminding us not to undervalue or waste opportunities for reconciliation while we still can. When you have them, do what God says. 

• Jesus and Joseph — Joseph disappears entirely from the Gospel record before Jesus begins His public ministry. The Bible never records Joseph’s death, but many believe Joseph likely died before the crucifixion because Jesus entrusted Mary to the Apostle John (John 19:26–27). Somewhere in the hidden years of Nazareth, Jesus likely spoke His final earthly words with His earthly dad, to His adoptive father, without much fanfare or warning because the Gospel message focuses on getting right with your heavenly Father through Christ.

Christian testimonies are filled with similar moments:

• Billy Graham often spoke tenderly about his mother and father and later reflected on the brevity of earthly life. Near the end of his life, he said: “Someday you will read or hear that Billy Graham is dead. Don’t you believe a word of it. I shall be more alive than I am now.” Though spoken about death itself, his words remind us how temporary earthly conversations really are. We can only pick them up again later if we all choose Jesus as Savior and go to His heavenly home.

• Jim Elliot wrote before his martyrdom: “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.” Many missionary families parted ways, never imagining their last goodbye would truly be their final earthly conversation. I can't imagine how his wife, Elizabeth, felt when, surprisingly, at such a young age, he was killed. 

• Elisabeth Elliot reflected often on her loss after the death of her youthful husband Jim Elliot and wrote words that also apply to parents and family today: “The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances.” Many believers discover after loss that ordinary conversations were actually holy gifts left with them.

• Charles Spurgeon once said: “Nothing puts life into men like a dying Savior..” when repentance and saving faith are involved. The Bible teaches this. Spurgeon frequently reminded believers that life is vapor-like and relationships should never be neglected while time remains.

• Corrie ten Boom and her family were thrown into a KZ concentration camp. She deeply treasured the final memories she had with her father before his death during the horrors surrounding the Holocaust. She later wrote: “There is no pit so deep that God’s love is not deeper still.” Her reflections carried the ache of cherished final conversations.

Maybe you are young or middle-aged. The older we each grow (and the years roll by pretty quickly), the more we realize this deep down:

Most final conversations do not at all sound dramatic. They sound more ordinary.

“Drive safely, stay safe.”

“I love you.”

“Please call me later.”

“I'm off soon. I’ll see you next weekend.”

And then heaven interrupts the schedule we Christians assumed we still had.

Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”

Perhaps part of wisdom is this:

Do not postpone expressing love.

Do not delay reconciliation. Is the ball in your court so to speak or were you rejected and sent away?

Do not assume there will always be another conversation, cuz there might not be.

One day, without realizing it, somebody will hear your own voice for the last time.
And you will hear theirs.

Scripture contains many deathbed blessings, final prayers, biblical prophetic declarations, songs, warnings, and last testimonies from believers before they departed to be with the Lord.

And there is a striking difference between the last words of many unbelievers in Scripture versus the hope-filled final words of God’s people. Have you ever seen videos of believers passing verses those horrible passings of people who rejected Christ, or simply put, deciding off?  

The dying words of believers are often filled with peace, worship, blessing, confidence, forgiveness, and anticipation of eternity.

Death does not silence the believer’s hope or voice.. it's just heard in a different context (heaven).
It often magnifies it (on earth, what people recorded or remember)

Here are some of the most moving final recorded words of believers in Scripture:

• Jacob (Israel) — “I wait for Your salvation, O Lord!”
(Genesis 49:18)

Even while blessing his sons and nearing death, Jacob’s heart was fixed on God’s salvation.

• Joseph — “God will surely visit you.”
(Genesis 50:24–25)

Joseph died believing God would keep His promises and bring Israel out of Egypt.

• Moses — Moses’ final recorded words were blessings over the tribes of Israel and praise to God:
“There is no one like the God of Jeshurun.”
(Deuteronomy 33:26)

Then Moses went up the mountain and died in the presence of the Lord.

• Joshua — “Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve… but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
(Joshua 24:15)

Joshua’s farewell speech called God’s people to covenant faithfulness.

• David — “Although my house is not so with God, yet He has made with me an everlasting covenant.”
(2 Samuel 23:5)

David’s final recorded words rested not in his own perfection, but in God’s covenant mercy.

• Stephen — the first Christian martyr —

“Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.”

“Lord, do not charge them with this sin.”

(Acts 7:59–60)

Like Christ Himself, Stephen died praying forgiveness for his enemies.

• Paul — “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”
(2 Timothy 4:7)

Paul faced death with triumphant assurance, knowing “there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness.”

• Simeon — after seeing the infant Christ —

“Lord, now You are letting Your servant depart in peace.”

(Luke 2:29)

Simeon could die peacefully because his eyes had seen the Savior.

• Jesus Christ — the greatest final words ever spoken:

“It is finished.”

“Father, into Your hands I commit My spirit.”

(John 19:30; Luke 23:46)

The cross was not defeat. It was the completion of redemption.

Even outside the Bible, many believers faced death with astonishing peace and hope:

• Dwight L. Moody reportedly said near death:
“Earth recedes; heaven opens before me.”

• John Wesley said:
“The best of all is, God is with us.”

• Martin Luther said shortly before dying:
“We are beggars. This is true.”

• Richard Baxter declared:
“I have pain, but I have peace.”

• John Knox reportedly said:
“Live in Christ, live in Christ, and the flesh need not fear death.”

• Charles Spurgeon said near the end of his life:
“Jesus died for me.” Then He rose from the dead!

• John Newton, the former slave trader who wrote “Amazing Grace,” said:
“My memory is nearly gone, but I remember two things: that I am a great sinner, and that Christ is a great Savior.”

How different this is from the hopelessness often found in those who reject God.

For the believer, death is not annihilation.

It is departure.

It is going home.

Paul wrote:

“To be absent from the body [is] to be present with the Lord.”
(2 Corinthians 5:8)

And again:

“For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is gain.”
(Philippians 1:21)

The last recorded sounds from many saints are not despair, but worship.

Not terror, but trust.

Not emptiness, but expectation.

The world says death is the end.

The Christian says death is the doorway into the presence of Christ.

Q: Why is it that one godly generation that believes in God seems to often leapfrog over another generation that doesn't? Check it out in the Bible. It happens, but doesn't have to. 

If you see some hypocrisy in a believer's life, don't excuse it or let them do that, but do keep your focus on the non-hypocrite--Jesus Christ. Too many sons get in trouble focusing on all the flaws of believers. 

Parents, and kids -- learn to hate hypocrisy, please. Jesus does! There seems to be patterns we can find throughout Scripture is that spiritual passion is not automatically inherited. A godly father can have a rebellious son, and sometimes the grandson returns wholeheartedly to the Lord again.

Faith often seems to “leapfrog” over a generation.

Not because God fails.
Not because truth changes.
But because every generation must personally choose whether it will walk with God.

The Bible repeatedly shows that spiritual heritage is a blessing, but not a guarantee.

Here are several examples:

• Samuel → ungodly sons → faithful descendants among Israel

Samuel was one of the godliest men in the Old Testament, yet his sons “did not walk in his ways” (1 Samuel 8:3). They were corrupt judges who took bribes and perverted justice. Their compromise became one reason Israel demanded a king.

Yet generations later, many in Israel still returned to the Lord through prophetic revival and covenant renewal.

Even a godly father cannot force spiritual life into his children.

• Hezekiah → Manasseh → Josiah

This may be the clearest biblical example of spiritual leapfrogging.

Hezekiah was one of Judah’s most faithful kings. He trusted God deeply and led national reform (2 Kings 18:3–6).

But his son Manasseh became one of the most wicked kings in Israel’s history. He promoted idolatry, sorcery, child sacrifice, and filled Jerusalem with bloodshed (2 Kings 21:1–16).

Then came Manasseh’s grandson, Josiah.

Josiah became one of the greatest reformers in Scripture. When the Book of the Law was rediscovered, he humbled himself, tore his clothes in repentance, and led Judah back toward the Lord (2 Kings 22–23).

A godly grandfather.
A wicked son.
A godly grandson.

Grace reached over a dark generation.

• David → Absalom and Adonijah → later faithful descendants

David loved God deeply, yet several of his sons became proud, immoral, rebellious, or power-hungry.

Absalom attempted to overthrow his own father.
Adonijah tried to seize the throne unlawfully.

Yet through David’s lineage eventually came righteous kings, reformers, and ultimately the Messiah Himself.

God’s covenant mercy outlasted family failure.

• Asa → Jehoshaphat → mixed generations afterward

The kings of Judah repeatedly alternate between revival and rebellion across generations. One king destroys idols; the next rebuilds them. One generation seeks God; another forgets Him.

The books of Kings and Chronicles almost read like spiritual whiplash.

• The wilderness generation → Joshua’s generation → the Judges generation

One of the saddest examples appears in Judges 2.

Joshua’s generation witnessed God’s miracles firsthand. But afterward:

“There arose another generation after them who did not know the Lord nor the work which He had done for Israel.”
(Judges 2:10)

Then later, during periods of oppression, another generation would cry out to God again.

Revival.
Drift.
Repentance.
Revival again.

This tragic cycle repeats throughout biblical history.

Why does this happen so often?

  1. Every generation must personally repent and be born again spiritually because Jesus said "You must be born again" -- yes call out to the Son of God.

No one inherits salvation genetically.

A child can inherit Bible knowledge, church attendance, morality, traditions, and even ministry influence — but not a regenerated heart.

God has children, not grandchildren.

Ezekiel 18 emphasizes individual responsibility before God.

  1. Comfort often weakens spiritual urgency.

The generation that fought battles often clings tightly to God. The next generation may inherit blessings without remembering the cost.

The parents prayed desperately because they knew brokenness, poverty, war, addiction, persecution, or hardship.

The children sometimes inherit peace without inheriting dependence upon God.

This happened repeatedly in Israel after seasons of prosperity.

  1. Familiarity could breed spiritual indifference.

Sometimes children raised around truth become overly familiar with holy things.

What once amazed the parents becomes “normal” to the next generation.

Church becomes routine.
Prayer becomes ceremonial.
Truth becomes background noise.

Yet sometimes the grandchildren rediscover what was lost and treasure it again with fresh conviction.

  1. God often revives what almost died.

Throughout Scripture, God delights in restoring ruined altars, reviving cold hearts, and awakening forgotten truth. Jesus raised the dead, and he can still do that today. 

Perhaps you are spiritually dead inside or are not really sure. I personally don't know where all of my loved ones stand spiritually, how could you or I?  God alone sees hearts and knows. Please be sure -- he has an assurance for you. 

What are some Bible verses about assurance?

How can I have assurance of my salvation?

How can I stop questioning my salvation?

If you doubt your salvation, does that mean you are not truly saved?

What does “full assurance of faith” mean (Hebrews 10:22)?

The spiritual story is rarely neat and linear.

Sometimes a praying grandmother shapes a grandson more deeply than anyone realizes. Sometimes the seeds planted by faithful parents bloom decades later.

It happens in families today too.

A grandfather walks with God sincerely.

His children drift into compromise or worldliness.

Then a grandson or granddaughter suddenly hungers for truth again and returns wholeheartedly to Christ.

And sometimes the pattern reverses entirely.

But it does not have to happen this way.

Psalm 78 gives God’s heart clearly:

“That the generation to come might know them, the children who would be born, that they may arise and declare them to their children, that they may set their hope in God.”
(Psalm 78:6–7)

God desires generational faithfulness, not generational collapse. How many friends do you have that would say you are definitely loyal to your parents and to God? Doesn't that matter most? Sure.  

The answer is not despair.
The answer is prayer (with the right address attached, to the Father in the Name of Jesus). Think of your primary example, of His truth, of repentance, real humility, and persevering love staying tight with.

What are intentional dad's / parents? 

The anniversary of a Dad's death is not easy I hear. "Dad was a complicated man, to say the least."

I wouldn't be easy, but are you ready for when your dad might die? Well, any of us Christians could get raptured out instead. Hopefully! 

Who is God the Father? 

What does God have to say to single fathers?

What is a spiritual father? If your adult kids won't have you around much, you can still be a spiritual father of sorts for young Christians in need. There is a good way to disciple others, and a bad controlling way too. 

What does it mean that God is father to the fatherless?

What does it mean that God is the Father of mercies?

Why is Jesus referred to as the only begotten of the Father?

Why was a father's blessing so highly valued in the Old Testament?

What does it mean that God is our Abba Father?

Why did Jesus ask the Father to “let this cup pass from me”?

What does it mean that Satan (a real fallen angel personality) is the father of lies (John 8:44)?

Does a son bear any responsibility for the sins of the father? Nope, and dads do sin from time to time. Some more than others?

Do you want to live a long life? Be smart and honor your father and mother. My dad did that regarding my grandfather, his dad. 

What does it mean that God is the Father of lights (James 1:17)?

According to the Bible, Jesse was a farmer and sheep breeder who lived in Bethlehem. He was an important figure in biblical history—not only was he the father of Israel's second king, but he was also the son of Obed (making him the grandson of Boaz and Ruth). Because of this lineage, the "son of Jesse" became a common nickname for King David, and "the root of Jesse" is frequently used meaning: the one Messiah.

What does it mean to be a godly father? Why really would you want to be any other kind of dad? Really?

What does the Bible say about overbearing or controlling parents? Are there some dads like this? Sure, there are. Stop it. Many dads get blamed for this by their lost church-going kids who want more control, but it's not always the case. 

Never underestimate what God can do through one faithful believer in a family line.

One praying parent.
One repentant son.
One surrendered granddaughter.
One faithful grandfather.

God can restart a spiritual legacy at any point in the family tree. KnowGod.org

Jesus is your perfect friend in hard times. 

"But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. So I was rescued from the lion’s mouth. The Lord will rescue me from every evil deed and bring me safely into his heavenly kingdom. To him be the glory forever and ever. Amen." (2 Timothy 4:17–18)

I sometimes weep in the night. The loss of loved ones is hard, but there is grace for believers. And Christian ministry is can be relationally tough at times. I can't imagine what it would be like for PKs (preacher's kids, but I've heard a bit). Paul wanted Timothy his son in the faith to grasp this early cuz he explained five things:

  • 2 Timothy 4:10: “For Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica.” Evidently, Demas had been a faithful partner because even in Colossians 4 it says, “Luke the beloved physician greets you, as does Demas.” Now he’s gone. Paul is forsaken by Demas.

  • See the same verse: “Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia. Luke alone is with me” (2 Timothy 4:10). Once, there was a bigger team. Now it’s down to Paul and Luke. 

  • 2 Timothy 4:14–15: “Alexander the coppersmith did me great harm.. for he strongly opposed our message.” Do you experience loneliness, or abandonment? Have you had opposition and painful slander from the outside or from the inside of your family, your business, or church?

  • 2 Timothy 4:16, “At my first defense no one came to stand by me, but all deserted me.” Maturity shows up on time when ya don't feel like it. Nobody showed up.

  • 2 Timothy 4:20: “Erastus remained at Corinth, and I left Trophimus, who was ill, at Miletus. Do your best to come before winter.” What has taken away your Christian friends at least for a time? Strategic deployments, sickness interruptions of partnership, seasonal changes?  

The last words of Atheists:  

Roman emperor Julian (361–363 – who tried to end Christianity, You have won, O Galiean.”

David Hume (1711–1776) – an atheist, while dying in utter despair, “I am in the flames!”

Thomas Scott (1808–1878), an atheist, said, “Until this moment I thought there was neither a God nor a hell. Now I know and feel that there is both, and I am doomed to perdition by the just judgement of the Almighty.”
Aleistair Crowley (1875–1974), One of England's most wicked men, “I am perplexed. Satan get out.”

Caesar Borgia – Italian nobleman, politician, and cardinal: “While I lived, I provided for everything but death; now I must die, and am unprepared to die.”

Talleyrand Perigord (1754–1838 a French statesman / diplomat) – "I am suffering the pangs of the damned!”

Victor de Riqueti, Marquis de Mirabeau (October 5, 1715, Pertuis – July 13, 1789) – “Give me laudanum that I may not think of eternity.”

Thomas Hobbs (1588–1679, English philosopher) – “If I had the whole world, I would give it to live one day. I shall be glad to find a hole to creep out of the world at. About to take a leap into the dark!”

Thomas Payne – Leading atheistic writer in American colonies: “Stay with me, for God’s sake; I cannot bear to be left alone, O Lord, help me! O God, what have I done to suffer so much? What will become of me hereafter? I would give worlds if I had them, that The Age of Reason had never been published. O Lord, help me! Christ, help me! No, don’t leave; stay with me! Send even a child to stay with me; for I am on the edge of hell here alone. If ever the Devil had an agent, I have been that one.”

Sir Francis Newport (1st Earl of Bradford, February 23, 1620 – September 19, 1708) – “Oh, that I was to lie a thousand years upon the fire that never is quenched, to purchase the favor of God, and be united to Him again! But it is a fruitless wish. Millions of millions of years would bring me no nearer to the end of my torments than one poor hour. Oh, eternity, eternity! forever and forever! Oh the insufferable pangs of hell!”

Sir Thomas Scott – Chancellor of England – “Until this moment I thought there was neither a God nor a hell. Now I know and feel that there are both, and I am doomed to perdition by the just judgment of the Almighty.”

Cesare Borgia – "When I lived, I provided for everything but death; now I must die, and I am unprepared to die." 

Judas Iscariot – "I have sinned in that I have betrayed innocent blood." He then went out and hanged himself.

Voltaire – Leading atheist – “..“I am abandoned by God and man! I shall go to hell!” He said to his physician, Dr. Fochin: “I will give you half of what I am worth if you will give me six months of life.” When he was told this was impossible, he said, “Then I shall die and go to hell!” His nurse said: “For all the money in Europe I wouldn’t want to see another unbeliever die! All night long he cried for forgiveness.”

Robert Ingersoll – American writer and orator of the Golden Age of Free Thought: “O God, if there be a God, save my soul, if I have a soul!” Or some say: “Oh God, if there be a God, save my soul, if I have a soul, from hell, if there be a hell!”

David Hume – an atheist philosopher famous for his religious skepticism … He cried loud on his deathbed, “I am in flames!” It is said his desperation was a horrible scene.

Napoleon Bonaparte – French emperor who … brought death to millions to satisfy his … selfish ambitions for world conquest. “I die before my time, and my body will be given back to the earth. Such is the fate of him who has been called the great Napoleon. What an abyss between my deep misery and the eternal kingdom of Christ!”

Charles IX – French king. Urged on by his mother, he gave the order for the massacre of the French Huguenots, in which 15,000 souls were slaughtered in Paris alone and 100,000 in other sections of France, for no other reason than that they loved Christ. … He finally died, bathed in blood bursting from his veins. To his physicians, he said in his last hours: “Asleep or awake, I see the mangled forms of the Huguenots passing before me. They drop with blood. They point at their open wounds. Oh! That I had spared at least the little infants at the bosom! What blood! I know not where I am. How will all this end? What shall I do? I am lost forever! Oh, I have done wrong.” …

David Strauss – Leading representative of German rationalism who spent a lifetime erasing belief in God …: “My philosophy leaves me utterly forlorn! I feel like one caught in the merciless jaws of an automatic machine, not knowing at what time one of its great hammers may crush me!”

Josef Stalin – Soviet revolutionary and politician. In a Newsweek interview with Svetlana, his daughter, she told of his death: “My father died a difficult and terrible death … God grants an easy death only to the just. At what seemed the very last moment, he suddenly opened his eyes and cast a glance over everyone in the room. It was a terrible glance, insane or perhaps angry. His left hand was raised, as though he were pointing to something above and bringing down a curse on us all. The gesture was full of menace…the next morning he was dead.”

Anton Levey – The author of the Satanic Bible, a high priest of the Satanic worship religion. His dying words were: “Oh my, oh my, what have I done, there is something very wrong.” 

(from :Banner of Truth" with a few explanations).

The Final words of those who were (by faith) right with their heavenly Father.
from the cross are also a cornerstone of his recorded words, emphasizing themes of forgiveness, salvation, and trust:
  • "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do." (Luke 23:34)
  • "It is finished." (John 19:30)
  • "Father, into Your hands I commit My spirit." (Luke 23:46)
The Apostle Paul – “For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the Righteous judge, shall give me at that day; and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing”.

Martin Luther – "Our God is the God from whom cometh salvation. God is the Lord by whom we escape death." 

Augustus Toplady (wrote hymn "Rock of Ages") – "I enjoy heaven already in my soul. My prayers are all converted into praises."

Richard Baxter - "I have pain—but I have peace, I have peace." 

John Knox - uttered piercing final words and then died, "Live in Christ, die in Christ, and the flesh need not fear death."

Joseph Everett was dying, he said, "GLORY! GLORY! GLORY!" and continued exclaiming "GLORY!" for over twenty-five minutes until he was whisked away by angels (said Billy Graham)

August Strindberg - a Swedish dramatist who died May 14, 1912, left a legacy of forgiveness and redemption by dying with a Bible clasped tightly to his chest, saying, "It is atoned for."

Edgar Allen Poe was said to have lived an erratic life of lies and drunkenness. Yet, he died in 1849 at the age of 40. He had been found praying in a street near death—"Lord help my poor soul!"

Stephen was killed by stones as a martyr for Jesus while praying, "Lord lay not this sin to their charge."

Friday, May 8, 2026

Qs: What kind of mother do you have? What kind of person or parent are you.. parent?

You were blessed with a mom. 
Think about her and this - do you thank her? The way you treat your mother and family members is, for the most part, the way that you will be treated. 

Eternity is before us.

There have been times when I've had to say I'm sorry. Admit it quit it and repent. Not always easy but it's necessary (text I'm going to see humility). Some people never voice those words upwards or outwards -- cowardice! Godly conduct grows out of godly character.

It's nimrodic to believe in karma, but I believe that we each will reap what we sow. We pray that sinners will get saved and changed!

Listen, the children watch their parents daily and see how they treat their other family members, their parents and other people. 

Have a right spirit with the Holy Spirit. They hear your tone, they see your reactions. They know your attitudes and hear many of your words. 

May I ask you some questions for the purpose of self-reflection? Do I have your permission to? Are you a parent? Family dynamics are a direct result of the principles and behaviors taught and modeled by parents. 

God frequently addresses the responsibility of children (small and big) and parents to obey Him. Come to Christ! Read through the Bible. 

We are to tend and nurture, to listen, to biblically instruct, and love our families while we have them around. That's limited, life here is brief.

Children are highly perceptive of their parents' actions, tone, stoney or warm relationship together, attitudes, actions and words.

The way that you treat God -- love Him. The way you treat your mom, the way you deal with your parents is to be humbly-straightforward, respectful, good and kind. That's the way that you will be treated, Madame.. or Sir. 

Eternity is before all of us! 

Why believe in karma when it's off? I believe that we each reap what we sow because the Bible teaches this. 

Our children watch a lot -- the see the example that us set before them, good or selfish. They see our attitudes and hear si many of our yelling words.. or gentle hopefully.

Yes, the scriptures clearly teach that we each often reap what we sow (Galatians 6:7). The attitude, the respect shown (even when not all things said are so great), then honor, the patience, and the mercy we show toward our parents frequently shape the kind of relationships we experience ourselves later on in life.

Hey bro, love and respect your mother, please. Quit hurting her heart! 

Believe all she says that's true and biblical -- hang on to it! Why would she not want to help you progress properly? 

Parents, help them if they are willing to progress properly in the Lord! 

A mere inner hunch, a guess, the inner feelings, the speculations and personal opinions are worth only about a nickel. 

Are you greedy, lustful, hardhearted, lukewarm, and self-seeking? Stop that! 

I've seen so many decent men fall hard.. as they go for the gold, the glory and/or the girls.. or boys? Stop that. Why give the gospel a black eye, so to speak!? Holy is happy!

Listen, if you don't gain dominion over your mind and fleshly nature when you're young, it's going to get bigger and more horrific for you later on. 

How disciplined and courageous are you? Self-control begets self -control. Lack of self-control begets just begets more lack of self-control. Praying for wisdom and making the right decisions begets more right decisions that will follow. Those postitively affect others lives! No man is really an island. What we decide and do causes ripples. Leadership is influence. We all influence for good or bad. Do so wisely for God!

Are you consistently blameless, in touch vertically, honest and above reproach (and that doesn't mean perfect or without blemish)? Do you exaggerate, fully or partially lie, or withhold the truthful words that could warn people when they're needed and in danger! 

Do you ever say: "I'm sorry, I was wrong (or I wronged you). I repent before God and don't want to be arrogant." If not, then your character is so ugly, so repelling, and far from what it should be -- winsome. Why live so hideously with that stench of hubris? 

Do you have godly character or the world's inferior character? What will you do with that?

"Conduct is what we do, character is what we are. Conduct is the outward life. Character is the life unseen, hidden within, yet evidenced by that which is seen. Conduct is external, seen from without; character is internal -operating within." ~ E.M. Bounds 

Make every effort to seek the Lord and His will for you first and your family.. and supplement your Christian faith with virtue daily -- have godly character!

Think of all the money you'd save if you never drank or got drunk!

Our children are watching us closely—learning from all they see.. from our words, our tone, our reactions, and the way we treat those who raised us. Whether for good or for harm, we are quietly modeling for the next generation what honor, love, forgiveness, and respect look like.”

"Then Jesus told his disciples, 'If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?'" John 3:24-26

We do not believe in karma, but we do believe the biblical principle that a person reaps what he sows (Galatians 6:7). The way we speak to and treat our parents often plants seeds that influence how others—including our own children—will one day treat us. I don't want to hear "depart from Me, I never knew you." Children learn not only from what we teach them, but from what they watch us live.

Also, check out the meaning and context of these Scriptures:

  • “Honor your father and your mother” — God
  • “Whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” — God
  • “Train up a child in the way he should go…” — God

 “A man ought to live so that everybody knows he is a Christian… and most of all, his family ought to know.” ~ often attributed to D. L. Moody

Many single godly women are wisely taught to watch closely how a man treats his mother because if that couple ever gets married, then that's how he'll end up treating her. So true!

A wise and godly woman pays close attention to how a man speaks to and treats his mother and family. The character revealed in the home is often the character carried into a marriage and most people get married at some time or another. 

While God’s grace can truly convict, regenerate, and transform a person (sanctify), patterns of honor, patience, kindness, humility, and respect toward your parents frequently become the same attitudes shown later on toward a spouse and children.

Thus far what is your master passion, what you talk about dream about the most? What have your inner motives been about?

One of the clearest windows into a man’s inner character is often seen in how he treats his mother. A man who consistently shows honor, gentleness, gratitude, and respect to others in the home is far more likely to carry those same good qualities into a marriage. Likewise, harshness, dishonor, selfishness, and contempt towards your mom and dad ..left unrepentant, can eventually surface in other close relationships as well. How long will you let that weird bitterness eat away at you when you too are so imperfect. Not to forgive your parents, others, and God (who has never sinned) is like a rat eatting down the poison while hoping that other one dies. 

This harmonizes with the Word:

  • “By their fruits you will know them.” — God, in the Bible
  • “Honor your father and your mother.” — God, in the Bible
  • “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger… be put away from you… Be kind to one another.” — God, in the Bible

How you treat your mother is how you will be treated. Eternity is before us, and time here is brief! 

These cautions and admonitions are true. Go with these principles of observable character to learn what not to be and what to be. Some wise people choose to repent deeply and change through the transforming work of Jesus Christ. I wish all would! Not all will. 

We've been given the so-called golden rule here, it's a Sermon on the Mount principle -- do unto others as you want done unto you and don't do what you don't want done to you. 

Where does God teach this?  He said, “Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.

13 “You can enter God’s Kingdom only through the narrow gate. The highway to hell[a] is broad, and its gate is wide for the many who choose that way. 14 But the gateway to life is very narrow and the road is difficult, and only a few ever find it.

15 “Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves. 16 You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act. Can you pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? 17 A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. 18 A good tree can’t produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t produce good fruit. 19 So every tree that does not produce good fruit is chopped down and thrown into the fire. 20 Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.

21 “Not everyone who calls out to me, ‘Lord! Lord!’ will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter. 22 On judgment day many will say to me, ‘Lord! Lord! We prophesied in your name and cast out demons in your name and performed many miracles in your name.’ 23 But I will reply, ‘I never knew you. Get away from me, you who break God’s laws.’" Matthew 7:12-23

The Bible of course, has never taught karma.. which is understood in Hinduism and Buddhism. It's the belief that a person’s actions determine the conditions of their future lives through reincarnation. That won't happen. 

God says, "it is appointed for man once to die" in Hebrews 9:27.

That highlights the inevitability of physical death for every human, and the certainty of divine judgment that will soon follow, emphasizing the need for spiritual preparation today!

Hebrews 9:27 kjv: "And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment".

Hebrews 9:27 niv: "Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment".

Scripture rejects both reincarnation and the idea that salvation or eternal destiny can be earned through human effort. Will power ain't enough, but there is power enough in the name of Jesus. 

Yes, the Bible presents something altogether different to us all: a holy God who rules sovereignly over all His creation, a moral universe where actions carry consequences, and a Savior who offers kind mercy to us sinners who could never save ourselves.

May I say it again: Hebrews 9:27 states this plainly, "And just as it is appointed and destined for all men to die once and after this comes certain judgment," 

There is no endless cycle of death and rebirth over and over again. Each person lives only one earthly life here, and then they stand before a holy, fiercely righteous God (perfect). Human destiny is not shaped by karmic energy.. the force, or "cosmic balance," but by the righteous judgment and the sovereign mercy of the living God.

At the same time, Scripture repeatedly teaches us the principle of sowing and reaping. All of our choices matter. Sin bears consequences too, and righteousness bears fruit for God's glory. What have your iniquitous patterns been like thus far? Job observed this reality when he said, “Those who plow iniquity and sow trouble reap the same” (Job 4:8). Proverbs 11:18 adds, “The wicked earns deceptive wages, but one who sows righteousness gets a sure reward.” The Apostle Paul in Galatians 6:7 also declares with solemn clarity, “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.”

Yet even here, biblical truth differs sharply from "karma." The law of sowing and reaping operates under the mighty hand of a personal, sovereign God, not under an impersonal energy force. I need energy to work all day, but I hate how the world misuese that term! 

Scripture never teaches that people mechanically earn future blessings through moral performance while here. God Himself governs justice, mercy, rewards, and judgment according to His perfect omniscience.. with wisdom and righteousness.

Ecclesiastes 12:14 says, “For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.” The Judge is not karma at all -- he is an all knowing, all-powerful Person. The Judge is God.

This distinction becomes especially important when speaking about salvation with others. Karma says people ultimately receive what they deserve. The gospel says none of us truly want what we really deserve. Jesus went to the cross in my place--it was substitutionary. Paul in Romans 6:23 tells us, “For the wages of sin is death.” Mr. Isaiah 64:6 humbles every human heart when he says, “All our righteous deeds are like a polluted garment.” Filthy rags and I won't elaborate too far--it's gross! Even our best efforts cannot erase our guilt or those unseen (by man) sins that we didn't even recognise we were doing before a perfectly holy all-seeing God.

That is why Christianity is not a religion of self-salvation. Eternal life is not achieved by balancing moral scales. Can earn salvation, not today, not tomorrow, and not on any other day!

It is received as a gift of grace through faith in Jesus Christ. If it's not recieved freely, then you don't have salvation. Paul in Ephesians 2:8–9 proclaims, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.”

The cross of Christ at Calvary stands in direct opposition to the world's karma. Karma says you must bear the full weight of your own deeds here. The gospel declares that Jesus Christ bore the judgment sinners deserved. Paul in Second Corinthians 5:21 reveals the glory of this great exchange: “For our sake He made Him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God.”

This is the wonder of free grace from God. He does not merely give people what they have earned. In Christ, He offers forgiveness to all who are guilty, and mercy to the undeserving, and eternal life to all who repent and believe in Jesus.

Still today for you and me, the principle of sowing and reaping remains deeply true in the Christian life. Paul writes in Galatians 6:8–9:

“The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

A farmer does not plant thorns and expect to gain wheat. In the same way, what a person plants, tends, and cultivates in thought, in word, and in conduct eventually bears some sort of fruit. Have you produced smelly, bad, rotten fruit?

A life sown to bitterness, to the world, to lust, to greed, to pride, or to rebellion just produces sorrow and destruction. A life fully surrendered to the Holy Spirit produces love, holiness, peace, and eternal reward. Paul in Galatians 5:22–23 describes the Spirit’s fruit as “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.”

Your kids need to be thoroughly taught about these! Even then, all believers can understand that every good thing (gift) ultimately comes from God’s grace. 

"Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows." James 1:17 niv

Paul in Philippians 2:13 says, “For it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.” Smart Christians do not boast in themselves. Any genuine righteousness in us is evidence of God’s free gift and transforming work.

Jesus Himself acknowledged the moral consequences of stupid human actions independent from His will. In Matthew 26:52 He warned, “All who take the sword will perish by the sword.” In Luke 6:37–38 He taught that mercy, forgiveness, and generosity often return blessings: “For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” 

What do these truths reflect of God’s intelligent moral order in this world? They don't reflect karma. They are expressions of divine wisdom and justice governed by a living God who sees the hearts of every human.

The Bible’s teaching about relationships also reaches far deeper than mere reciprocity too. I once heard that the Golden Rule is this: He who gets all the gold rules. Not so fast in Matthew 7:12 Jesus tells us something better:

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”

Christ was not teaching a "become the top boss," or a self-help principle or some social philosophy. He was calling people to Himself, to wise service and active, sacrificial love. The world says, "Get all you can, can all you get and then sit on the can." The world says, “Treat people as they treat you. Get em back.” Jesus says, “Treat people the way you would want to be treated.” The difference is profound.

Remember the old neg-versions? False religious systems often phrase such morality negatively:

  • Confucianism: “Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you.”
  • Buddhism: “Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.”

Good things to say -- and I wish those two guys always put out the truth! But Jesus speaks taking it beyond that -- positively and proactively. He calls His followers not merely to avoid harming others, but to actively pursue love, kindness, mercy, and goodness toward others. Serve, help and win them. 

Jesus' teachings flows from the very heart of our Heavenly Father God. When we see Jesus we see the Father is what He explained to his disciples. Jesus later summarized the entire Law with two commands: love God fully and “love your neighbor as yourself” (sure, cuz you already do love yourself, Sport. Matthew 22:37–40). 

Then, on the night before the cross, He raised the standard even higher:

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34–35).

The measure is no longer mere human fairness at all. The measure is the self-giving love of Christ Himself.

And yet even this command drives us back to the Father's grace. Left to ourselves, we are too selfish, too proud, too depraved, too broken, too sinful to love this way consistently. God's Golden Rule is not some ladder by which people work on and climb up into heaven. It is the fruit of a regenerated, transformed heart. Only those who have been forgiven by Christ (born agian spiritually) can truly begin to love as Christ loved.

The appeal of karma is certainly understandable in this world gone creepy and mean. People long for real justice. They see so much of false justice. Where did capital punishment go for murderers and rapists when there is real evidence? Children keep getting trafficked and raped too! 

Deep down, humanity knows that evil should not go unanswered and goodness should really matter. Scripture agrees with that longing, but it points us beyond lame karma to something infinitely greater: the righteous judgment of God and the redeeming grace of Jesus Christ. He will soon set things right on earth! 

The Christian hope is not that we can purify ourselves through endless effort or future lives. Our hope is that Christ died for sinners and physically rose again from the dead. Through Him, guilty people can be reconciled to God, made into new creations, and given eternal life.

As Second Corinthians 5:17 declares:

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”

And that is the great difference between karma and the gospel. Karma says, “Earn your way.” Jesus says, “It is finished” (John 19:30).

As the hymn writer Augustus Toplady wisely wrote:

“Nothing in my hand I bring,
Simply to Thy cross I cling.”

Or as Charles Spurgeon once said:

“Grace is the opposite of merit. Grace is not only undeserved favor, but favor shown to the one who has deserved the very opposite.”

The gospel does not minimize justice. It fulfills justice at the cross while extending mercy to all who trust in Christ. Sadly many won't. 

To be a good parent, opt to live pure, live honest, live considerate, live holy, and authentically godly. 

To be a godly father is far more than simply helping yourself to (righteous or sinful) pleasures and thus bringing children into this world. Most men can biologically father a child, but a godly father reflects the heart of the heavenly Father who is kind and giving. From the very beginning, fatherhood was entrusted by God as a sacred stewardship to us guys. After creating Adam and Eve, God commanded them ..us people to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28). Yet God never intended fathers merely to provide materially or biologically. He calls us to lead spiritually, to love sacrificially, and to model Christ faithfully, starting within the home.

A godly father takes responsibility for his actions or nonactions, for his words, or for his silence. He first walks closely with God himself. Before he can lead his children spiritually, he must personally know the Lord. 

You can't be a good leader until you are a good follower of God ..who is good. Children quickly recognize whether Christianity is genuine or merely some lame religious routine. If a father treats God as optional, his children will often do the same. But when they see a father treating his parents rightly, praying sincerely, repenting humbly, worshiping joyfully, and obeying Scripture seriously, they witness living faith instead of empty talk. Proverbs 20:7 says, “The righteous who walks in his integrity—blessed are his children after him!”

A godly father deeply loves and honors his wife consistently no matter what he feels like. One of the greatest gifts a father can give his children is to faithfully love their mother. Children learn much about marriage, security, tenderness, and forgiveness simply by watching how Dad treats Mom at home and out of the home. Ephesians 5:25 commands, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” A father who speaks the truth with gentleness (not his truth, my truth or their truth -- God's truth), and shows patience, and asks forgiveness when he wrong.. and honors his wife .. he teaches his children powerful truths that no "preachy sermon" alone could ever communicate.

A godly father understands that providing financially is very important, but it is not enough. First Timothy 5:8 makes clear that a man should work hard and provide for his household, yet Scripture also places upon fathers the responsibility of spiritual leadership. Deuteronomy 6:6–7 teaches us that God’s Word is to be taught diligently to children throughout daily life. A faithful father prays alone for with his children and prays with them. He talks with them about Scripture, encourages obedience to Christ, and helps shape their hearts, not merely manage their outward behaviors.

Godly fathers recognize that children learn more from what they observe than from what they are told. Little eyes watch everything. A father may say honesty matters, but if he lies casually, his children absorb hypocrisy. He may speak about worshiping God, yet if sports, entertainment, money, or comfort always take priority, children learn what truly rules his heart. Paul told believers, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1). Every father is already leading by example, either toward Christ or away from Him.

A godly father also serves others selflessly. Jesus said of Himself, “The Son of Man came not to be served but to serve” (Matthew 20:28). Fathers reflect Christ when they quietly help others without seeking applause. Children who grow up watching their father serve widows, help neighbors, care for the hurting, and give generously often carry those same values into adulthood. Compassion is more often caught than taught.

Consistency is another mark of godly fatherhood. Children thrive where there is stability, honesty, and trustworthy character. A father who is unpredictable in discipline, harsh in anger, or careless with promises creates confusion and insecurity. Ephesians 6:4 warns fathers not to provoke their children to anger, but to bring them up “in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Godly discipline is never cruel, impulsive, or vindictive. It is loving correction designed to shape wisdom, self-control, and godly character.

A godly father also guards his own heart carefully. Addictions, lust, drunkenness, uncontrolled anger, and worldly compromise damage not only the man himself but often generations after him. Ephesians 5:18 calls believers not to be controlled by wine or sinful desires, but to be filled with the Holy Spirit. A father who runs to Christ in weakness teaches his children where true strength is found.

At the center of godly fatherhood is humble submission to God’s authority. The world admires self-rule and independence, but Scripture honors men who willingly bow before the Lord. Even Jesus lived in joyful submission to His Father’s will (See John 5:19; 8:29). A godly father understands he is not the ultimate authority in his home. He himself lives under the authority of God’s Word.

And finally, a godly father leads like a smart shepherd. Not foolishly with pushy domination, pride, or selfish control... but with courage, wisdom, integrity, humility, and agape love. He goes first in real repentance. First in earnest prayer. First in selfless service. First in zealously seeking God (yes with red-hot spiritual passion). Joshua declared, “As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD” (Joshua 24:15). That is the heartbeat of a godly father. Care for your family -- don't neglect them or treat them tough when that is so uncalled for. 

A good dad will lead his family toward Christ, and away from sin, and repeatedly into truth. He protects his home from all physical and spiritual danger. He shepherds rather than manipulates or hyper-controls. He listens and hears, as well as instructs. Act like a man.. men! That's what God in the Bible says to us. He becomes the kind of man his children can trust and safely follow because he himself is closely following Jesus the Chief Shepherd.

No earthly father does this perfectly. Every Christian father falls short in many ways. Yet the hope of the gospel is that God uses imperfect men who humbly repent, trust Christ, and depend daily upon His grace. A godly father is not a flawless man. He is a forgiven man who loves God sincerely, walks in humility, and continually points his family toward Jesus Christ.

“As a father shows compassion to his children, so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him.” Psalm 103:13

And perhaps no earthly picture of fatherhood is greater than this: a man whose children can more easily understand the love of their heavenly Father because of the grace, truth, strength, and tenderness they consistently experienced in Him.

Remember when Jesus invited Thomas to not only see his scars, but to also touch and feel those scars so that Tom would be convinced of Christ’s bodily resurrection (John 20:27).

Get right in the light, before you're left in the dark to face something far worse. Anyone who does not know the Lord possessing a red-hot passion for Him and a sense of urgency regarding biblical evangelism.. something is flat-out wrong with that person. They are not the good example they need to be, that those around them really need them to be! 

We all should be excited to see God soon! What kind of rewards do you want from the ultimate Rewarder who is completely fair -- completely just? He will indeed reward everyone according to their words and works, whether good or bad. Thoughts of the Great White Throne Judgment and the judgment seat of Christ should be sobering.

Paul warned Timothy that the last days would be "perilous times." Does that remind you of today?Paul warned Timothy that the last days would be "perilous times." Does that remind you of today? "You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times.

2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred.

3 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good.

4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God."

Paul to Timothy describes the last days:

“Disobedient to parents… without natural affection…”

This includes sons and daughters who reject, despise, abuse, or somehow neglect their mothers.