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Tuesday, February 3, 2026

Today, Are You A Friend Or A Foe.. Of God? Hey Sport, There Is No Neutral Ground Spiritually. Nope, Not When the King of kings Said It.

Are you a close friend who experientially knows the Lord in a personal sort of way, or still a real enemy of God? 

"For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son." Rom. 5:10

Outside at So Cal high schools, Lonnie Frisbie used to preach this:  “Jesus said, ‘You’re either for Me or against Me.’”

..explaining in other words, you’re either God’s friend or God’s enemy. I have some friends who made a good decision and got saved after praying with Lonnie there. Have you yet seen the movie Jesus Revolution.. cuz in Dana Point, Laguna, Costa Mesa, that was pretty much my experience during the 70s?

But whaaat!? I’m certainly not one of those Jesus Freaks that I used to mock while playing volleyball outside. I was raised in the Roman Organization there, so does that mean I’m against God?

Nobody I know really wanted to be against God ever.. even though we used His name to cuss with. So in a small town home meeting nearby after a short Bible study.. I repented and became one of those "born agains" a real Christian.

If you’re not a friend of God, then guess what.. by default, you’re an enemy of God as the Bible describes you. Romans 5:10 says, “For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son” (nlt).

The Apostle James said that “whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God” (James 4:4 nkjv).

So, where do you really stand spiritually? Have you also repented of sin and received God's free forgiveness? Have you turned to, accepted, and received Jesus.. or just put that off?

Are you a friend of God through Christ today, or perhaps running from Him? If you are not the friend of Jesus Christ, then guess what.. you indeed can come into a relationship with Him by simple faith. You can have all your sins forgiven. You can go to Heaven when you die instead of splitting that real place called Hell wide open.

Nothing bad about going to Heaven and knowing early that you will enter.. be accepted there.

Are you saved as the Bible uses that word saved? That can happen right here and now. Jesus died on the cross for your sin, and then He rose from the dead. There were many eyewitnesses after He came out of that dank hole in the ground.

Jesus stood in the gap if ya will, for you and for me. We all have sinned against God the Father, says the Bible. Jesus died in your place and in my place (it was a physical death at Calvary, a substitutionary death due to sins committed in the body.. that you and I committed cuz He never sinned once).

Listen, if you’ll turn from your own sin and believe in Jesus, you too can be forgiven and know having an assurance of salvation inside, Yep, gettin' all the doubt out.. without any doubt. You'll know inside that you're going to Heaven when you die. Now is good. Start a close friendship with God today!

Why was Abraham called a friend of God (Isaiah 41:8)?

What does it mean that friendship with the world is really enmity with God?

What does the Bible say about real friends?

What does the Bible say about finding peace of heart and mind?

Why did Jesus say to believers, “I have called you friends” in John 15:15?

What does it mean to be an enemy of God?

What even is true friendship?

How can I tactfully evangelize my real friends and family members without driving them away from God? How can I have God's power to live the life and share the gospel with a sense of urgency?

Because Jesus Christ (of the Bible) really cares.. He boldly shares. He uses Christians in our day. He loves people like we should love all types of people.. and He respects their decisions. We too should and boldly share the gospel.. leaving the results up to God. He is the only One who can save a person. 

I love how Christ never courted ambiguity or any foggy non-clearity. Where eternal destinies were concerned, He refused to speak in half-tones or therapeutic Hallmark-type comforting vagueness. His words were to the point, yet gracious, but they were never evasive. He wasn't there to merely trigger people with the truth or dilute and water down the Message.. but several were offended by what He said. 

Do you speak with the sword of the word? Not that any of us want to religiously divide or maim people with the Scriptures like those Pharisee-types used to do (and still do in our day). 

In a world that prefers gray over black and white, right and wrong, great spiritual flexibility and moral soft (non)focus, Jesus draws a line as sharp as a sword:

“He who is not with Me is against Me, and he who does not gather with Me scatters abroad.”
(Matthew 12:30, nkjv)

This is not rhetoric meant to intimidate. It is truth meant to rescue. Christ exposes the myth of neutrality because neutrality, when it comes to God, is itself a decision.

What is the sword of the Spirit?

Have you ever felt triggered by God's gospel message?

What does it mean that “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks?

Can a person really overcome having a critical spirit?

Why do you need to guard your heart above all else (Proverbs 4:23)?

What does it mean to speak life?

What did Jesus mean that “by your words you will be justified? 

Taming the tongue—why is it so difficult?

How can Jesus and the Bible both be the Word of God?

What does it mean to live by the sword and die by the sword?

What or Who is the living Word?

What are the weapons of righteousness in 2 Corinthians 6:7?

How can the Word of God divide soul and spirit (Hebrews 4:12)?

What is the meaning of the two-edged sword coming out of Jesus' mouth?

I double-dog-dare ya to rightly/kindly/wisely/tactfully use the sword of the Spirit without watering it down!

What did Jesus mean by coming to bring a sword in Matthew 10:34?

What is the helmet of salvation (Ephesians 6:17)?.. we all need that most!

Why did Jesus say, “I did not come to bring peace” (Matthew 10:34)?

Why did Jesus tell His disciples to sell a cloak and buy a sword?

What does the Bible say about spiritual warfare?

What was Jesus' message to the church in Pergamum in Revelation?

What is the full armor of God?

What is the breastplate of righteousness (Ephesians 6:14)?

What does it mean that the Word of God is living and active and sharp?

Is There A Crisis, So To Speak, That Reveals The Inner Heart Condition?

Matthew 12 marks a decisive rupture in the public ministry of Jesus. Up to this point, He had proclaimed the gospel of the kingdom—God’s promised reign arriving in history through the presence of the King. His miracles authenticated His message. His compassion adorned His authority. Blind eyes opened. Demons fled. Broken lives were restored.

Then came the moment that forced the nation to choose.

“Then one was brought to Him who was demon-possessed, blind and mute; and He healed him, so that the blind and mute man both spoke and saw.”
(Matthew 12:22, NKJV)

The crowd felt the weight of it. This was no ordinary miracle. Messianic hope surged:

“And all the multitudes were amazed and said, ‘Could this be the Son of David?’”
(Matthew 12:23, NKJV)

That question—Could this be the Messiah?—hung in the air like thunder before a storm.

The Pharisees responded not with humility, but with hostility:

“This fellow does not cast out demons except by Beelzebub, the ruler of the demons.”
(Matthew 12:24, NKJV)

Unable to deny the work of God, they demonized the Worker back in the day. They still do.

Truth Has a Logic That Unbelief Cannot Escape

Jesus answered their accusation calmly, dismantling it piece by piece:

“Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation… If Satan casts out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then will his kingdom stand?”
(Matthew 12:25–26, NKJV)

Evil does not undermine itself. Darkness does not drive out darkness.

Then Jesus tightened the net:

“And if I cast out demons by Beelzebub, by whom do your sons cast them out?”
(Matthew 12:27, NKJV)

The argument collapses. Their theology caves in under its own inconsistency.

Finally, Jesus states the unavoidable conclusion:

“But if I cast out demons by the Spirit of God, surely the kingdom of God has come upon you.”
(Matthew 12:28, nkjv)

The King had arrived. The kingdom was no longer theoretical. It stood before them in flesh and blood.

Why Jesus Has Eliminated the Middle Ground -- He Lays Reality Out Clearly

There was a timing.. a precise moment that Jesus declared this:

“He who is not with Me is against Me.”

Why so absolute? Because the stakes are ultimate.

To receive Jesus as Messiah required repentance—a change of mind about righteousness, authority, and salvation itself.

“Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.”
(Matthew 4:17, NKJV)

Jesus taught that He alone is the Way.. The only entrance for people into God’s Kingdom. It's not earned, it was not achieved by external law or rule-keeping, but by inward regeneration by faith. Have you experienced this total transformation inside? In the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5–7), Jesus exposed a righteousness deeper than mere moral behavior—a righteousness of the heart given as a free gift from the Father.

The proud, nonrepentant, know-it-all Pharisees could not accept this. They were so jealous. So many had gone after Christ with His sound teachings. 

To do so for them would mean surrendering their self-made piety, poser spirituality, their control, their status, and their man-made certainty. And so most of them resisted Christ with His good message.

But resistance to revealed truth is not neutrality—it is rebellion. It creates in people an even harder heart. 

John MacArthur rightly observes, “False religion is not merely wrong; it is hostile to the truth because it competes with the glory of Christ.”

Is There A Question That Still Decides Eternity?

Later, Jesus posed the question that still divides humanity in our day:

“But who do you say that I am?”
(Matthew 16:15, nkjv)

Every person answers this question—not merely with words, but with life.

Modern research echoes the ancient problem. Barna studies consistently show that many Americans admire Jesus while rejecting His exclusivity, authority, or definition of truth. He is celebrated as a moral teacher but resisted as Lord.

Yet Jesus never offered Himself as an accessory to our lives. He demands allegiance.

Billy Graham said it plainly: “Jesus Christ demands total commitment. He asks for nothing less than all.”

To be “with Him” is to gather—to align one’s life with His truth, His mission, and His authority. To refuse Him is to scatter—to drift from truth, fragment the soul, and oppose the grace meant to save.

There is no custom Christianity. No negotiated gospel. No Christ on our terms.

“Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.”
(Acts 4:12, nkjv)

Or as the old hymn goes...

“Nothing in my hand I bring,
Simply to Thy cross I cling.”

He's Given Us Time To Count the Cost -- That And Clarity Are Mercy

Jesus’ words are not cruel; they are kind. He removes the illusion of safety in indecision.

As Charles Spurgeon warned, “To remain undecided for Christ is to be decided against Him.”

Christ draws the line because love demands truth. Eternity allows no illusions.

“He who is not with Me is against Me.”

The line still stands. And grace still invites us to cross it—toward the King.


Those in Scripture Who Opposed Jesus as the Messiah

Below is a biblically faithful, sober list of individuals and groups who were against Jesus—by belief, words, deeds, or allegiance—despite varying levels of knowledge and responsibility.

Religious Leaders

  • The Pharisees – Rejected Jesus’ authority; attributed His works to Satan (Matt. 12:24; John 8:44)

  • The Sadducees – Denied resurrection and rejected His teaching (Matt. 22:23)

  • The Scribes / Lawyers – Tested Him, resisted Him, and sought His death (Luke 11:52–53)

  • Chief Priests – Plotted His execution (Matt. 26:3–4)

  • Annas and Caiaphas – Presided over His illegal trial (John 18:13–14)

Political Authority

  • Herod the Great – Sought to kill Him as an infant (Matt. 2:13–16)

  • Herod Antipas – Mocked Jesus and treated Him with contempt (Luke 23:11)

  • Pontius Pilate – Knew Jesus was innocent but condemned Him to appease the crowd (Matt. 27:24–26)

Disciples and Associates

  • Judas Iscariot – Betrayed Jesus knowingly (Matt. 26:14–16)

  • Peter (momentarily) – Rebuked Jesus’ mission and was called “Satan” for opposing the cross (Matt. 16:22–23)

  • The Disciples (at times) – Misunderstood and resisted His mission (Luke 9:44–45)

Crowds and Public

  • Many in the Multitudes – Followed for miracles but rejected Him when truth offended (John 6:66)

  • Jerusalem Crowd – Chose Barabbas over Christ (Matt. 27:20–22)

Spiritual Opposition

  • Satan – Tempted Jesus directly and opposed His mission (Matt. 4:1–11)

  • Demons – Recognized His authority but resisted His reign (Mark 1:34)

Implicit Opposition (By Silence or Fear)

  • Secret Believers – Afraid to confess Him openly (John 12:42–43)

  • Rich Young Ruler – Loved possessions more than obedience (Mark 10:21–22)

Soul-Winners Who Understood the Hour

Throughout church history, God has raised up men who refused to blur the line Jesus Himself drew. They preached Christ plainly, knowing that eternity leaves no room for ambiguity. Their voices still echo because truth does not age.

D. L. Moody once said:

“Decisions are constantly being made for eternity. And those decisions are made in time.”

Moody understood what Jesus declared in Matthew 12:30—delay is itself a verdict. Every heart moves either toward Christ or away from Him.

Billy Sunday, the fiery evangelist of the early 20th century, put it with characteristic bluntness:

“Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than going to a garage makes you an automobile.”

Sunday knew that proximity to religion is not the same as submission to Christ. One must be with Jesus—not merely around Him.

Billy Graham, whose life was spent calling millions to decision, echoed the words of Christ with pastoral urgency:

“There is no neutral ground in the universe. Every square inch, every split second, is claimed by God and counterclaimed by Satan.”

Graham preached what Jesus taught: neutrality is an illusion. The soul is always leaning—toward light or toward darkness.

He also warned:

“The greatest tragedy in life is not death, but a life without purpose.”

And purpose begins when one bows to Christ as Lord.

Greg Laurie, a modern evangelist shaped by the Jesus Movement, captures the same truth in contemporary language:

“You can reject Jesus, but you can’t avoid Him. One day every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.”

Laurie often reminds hearers:

“Being a Christian is not just believing in Christ—it’s belonging to Christ.”

That is precisely what Jesus meant when He said, “He who is not with Me is against Me.”

Even Charles Spurgeon, though not an altar-call evangelist in the modern sense, pressed the conscience relentlessly:

“To sit still and wish and hope and desire is to perish.”

And again:

“If you do not love the Lord Jesus Christ, you are in arms against Him.”

These men were not harsh. They were honest. They understood that love tells the truth, especially when eternity is at stake.

The Line Still Stands

Jesus Christ still stands before every heart, asking the same question He asked long ago:

“But who do you say that I am?” (Matthew 16:15, NKJV)

To be with Him is to repent, believe, follow, and gather.
To refuse Him—by defiance, delay, or silence—is to stand against Him.

As the old hymn so simply declares:

“Just as I am, without one plea,
But that Thy blood was shed for me..”

The invitation remains.

The line is still drawn.

The King is still calling.

“He who is not with Me is against Me.”

And today—now—is the day to choose life. Come to.. come back to God through Christ His sinless Son

Monday, February 2, 2026

When men pray, repent and biblically obey like many children do ..simply.. then God simply hears and answers like the loving, heavenly Father that He really is.

He is kind and straightforward. 

The world wants men to become perverse and diluted inside, totally misformed with the world's lies. You know, like they have no gender at all. The world wants you men to always remain silent about what's right. Not bold and confident in the Lord, but so soft yet hard-hearted i.e., competing in women's sport.. with a seared conscience, crazy thinking, and no spiritual convictions.. all clad in femine dresses, wigs and makeup.

Think like the God-man does, like Jesus Christ. He's got an excellent plan. Walk with discipline. Ask. Live principled.

Say what you mean, pray what you mean, don't be mean.... but mean what you say, and then quietly go be and do it.

Man, I feel challenged every day! May I challenge you guys to live honestly like He did and does... 

To think, pray, be, and walk like Jesus did.. and still does. With His type of benevolent attitude and masculinity. Your heavenly Father delights to bless, guide and use honest, obedient children!

Be a man whose vertical thrust prayer-wise, and horizontal messages too simply carry the clout and weight of anointing because your life is in harmony. Keep words, heart and walk in harmony! You promise based on priorities in order (not over promise, not under promise) and then you keep your word. God also does that. 

May I challenge you some?

At every age, refuse the habit of being unreliable or careless with your commitments. Pray some more (keep it simple and to the point), say less horizontally, listen up better, discern, prove all things, do more of what God wants you to do. Let your actions speak louder than your words. Cultivate a steady heart, a calm demeanor, a clear mind, and measured responses that reflect spiritual maturity in the Lord.

True masculinity is never dangerous in itself; it only becomes distorted when men absorb the world’s broken thinking and then live it out. Strength rooted in Christ is not harsh, nor is it weak. It is firm, loving, balanced, and ordered. It knows when to stand, when to serve, when to speak, and when to be silent.

God is no respecter of persons. Kind, benevolent, tenderhearted and gracious. He'll bless and use anyone who exalts and obeys His word. 

When the righteous (not self-righteous) repent and say okay God.. when they pray and obey like many children pray and obey.. today (by faith, not all religiously complicating matters), then God sees, hears and answers like the loving heavenly Father that He indeed is.

The prayers don't have to be long, but they must be smart and honest. God said he would meet all our needs, not all agreeds.

Men of God are called to strength with tenderness, courage with humility, discernment with compassion. Be spiritually alert without becoming emotionally unstable. Be sensitive to the Spirit without being ruled by feelings. Godly men are not brittle, nor are they passive. They are steady, anchored, and governed by truth.

The fallen world works hard to soften men into passivity, confusion, and irresponsibility—stripping them of conviction, clarity, and accountability. It pushes men toward dilution rather than formation, silence instead of leadership, indulgence instead of self-control, and a counterfeit compassion that feels much but stands for nothing. This is not the way of Christ.

God did not create men to be docile, directionless, or morally undefined. He formed men to bear weight, to guard what is good, to lead with love, and to live with clean consciences and holy courage.

This verse reveals the spiritual DNA of the man God designed—a man both strong and tender, courageous and compassionate, unwavering in truth and rich in love.

Jesus had, will have, and has good ideas to implement. He knows it all in advance (omniscient). 

Live in the Word and let His thoughts be yours today. God wrote them down. 

 like Jesus did. Walk like a man who knows where he’s going, what he's doing — and why.

Insert discipline, not all the drama. Principle, not mere impulse.

A real man should get all heavy with others (are you tougher on your own flesh?), but his words should weigh something really. 

If you say it, then do it. If you can’t do it, don’t say it. Scripture calls this integrity; the world calls it very rare.

As the old saying goes, “Say what you mean, mean what you say, and then quietly go do it.”

Would others say you display the fruit of the Spirit.. which is God's kind of love (and that all defined)? 

Faithfulness in the Lord, together with fruitfulness, is far more impressive to God. It's more important than being a mere flash in the pan. 

Does masculinity turn into toxic by stuborn self-will? 

Hey men, never swallow the world’s garbage-thinking and start living that out.

Sampson was strong physically. Jesus was the strongest man who ever walked the earth — and He never once raised His voice at a woman or to the weak. Never once in insecurity. He never postured for attention or apologized for saying what's so. The truth. He flipped tables for sin over like a man. He washed feet, He listened and wept at graves, and carried a cross up a hill when forsaken of men. That’s not toxicity — that’s Authority under control.

Real strength is steady and holy is happy.

It has a pulse, not some tantrum.

It has compassion, not confusion.

It has convictions, not cruelty.

A godly man is firm but never so brittle and easily triggered, tender but not weak, discerning but not suspicious, emotionally alive but not emotionally ruled. We walk by faith, not by feelings or according to the changing circumstances. He listens to the Spirit without being led by his moods. He listens to some people too, but is spiritually sensitive without being fragile. He's strong without being loud and pushy.

The world, however, prefers men to remain passive, unaccountable, and endlessly confused — too soft in backbone yet all hard in conscience. It markets a counterfeit compassion that feels everything and stands for nothing good. A kind of empathy that hugs sin, walks too close with sinners in their sinning, and abandons truth. That is not Christlike love; that is surrender dressed up as virtue. 

We saved sinners spend some time with lost sinners (to influence, witness and win) and with rebuke-able open carnal Christians too, but not too much where they start to pull us downward. 

The Bible says... 
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”
(Joshua 1:9)

Multiple studies have noted a dramatic decline in male testosterone levels over the past few decades. Sup with that — some estimate nearly a 30–40% drop since the 1980s — correlating with increased anxiety, depression, passivity, and lack of drive. What has happened? What do they feed upon?  

I know that when men are stripped of eternal purpose, clarity, and responsibility, the soul withers right along with the body. Jesus is the ultimate solution no matter the problem. 

As the poet once said,
“The strength of a man is not in how hard he hits,
but in how much he can carry without dropping what matters.”

God did not create men to drift away from Him and their calling, to ghost Him and disappear, or dissolve into ambiguity. He formed men to guard, to protect, to work and hunt for food, to build up, to lead, to bless, to self-sacrifice some, and to love with iron backbone. Adam was placed in the garden to be diligent.. to work it and to keep it (Genesis 2:15) — to cultivate and to protect. That mandate has never been revoked.

And the apostle Paul still speaks plainly, without apology, without fine print:

"BE WATCHFUL.

STAND FIRM IN THE FAITH.

ACT LIKE MEN.

BE STRONG.

LET ALL THAT YOU DO BE DONE IN LOVE." (1 Corinthians 16:13–14)

That's is not some lame Hallmark slogan; it’s a blueprint.

Watchful eyes.

Firm feet with a purpose.

Strong hands.

Tender, softened, loving hearts.

“Onward, Christian soldiers, marching as to war,”
—not hating people, but primarily warring against all the lies, passivity, and fear.

Is this is the real DNA of the man God created — not soft, not savage in a fleshly sorta way, but sanctified. Yes. 
A man who can stand tall, listen large, kneel low, love deeply, speak truth clearly.. consistently, and walk humbly with his God who empowers.

He keeps all His promises.

Choose today. Be a disciplined and principled man's man with decent scruples. No spiritual compromise, believer! Keep all your promises rather than being flaky. Under promise and over deliver rather than over promise and under deliver. Cultiate the right attitude and responses. Masculinity does not get toxic In any way unless you keep taking in garbage- thinking from the world and start acting upon that wrong thinking. Guys, be strong, loving, balanced with the right priorities and tone. Be discerning in the Lord and spiritually sensitive too. You've got this.. not too sensitive like some Snowflake wussy-puss out to feel good. 

Live biblical in the Spirit, balanced, compassionate, tenderhearted -- never hard-hearted. Don't live some lame politically correct lifestyle.

The corrupt world system wants men to be very docile, immature (on multiple levels), unaccountable, non-transparent, passive, lazy, too sweet for tea, and just filled with guile, stupid, dishonest with gobs of excuses, very confused, acting upon that suicidal type of empathy that is SO far from Christ-like compassion. 

The world wants men to be perverse, wishy-washy, faltering-flakey and diluted in their thinking. 

You know what I mean: misformed like they have no gender at all, always staying silent, and so soft but hard-hearted inside with a seared conscience and no spiritual convictions.. even clad in dresses, wigs and makeup. Minus snooty better-than-thou religious self-righteousness, let's reject all perverse types of living while witnessing and winning these valued people over to Jesus. "BE WATCHFUL. STAND FIRM IN THE FAITH. ACT LIKE MEN. BE STRONG. LET ALL THAT YOU DO BE DONE IN LOVE." 

You can discover the DNA so to speak, of 16:13 of Acts in the Bible that reveals God's loving heart for all men and women He created. Come to Him as you are today..willing for Him who accepts you to save and change you

There is a contrast between steady, faithful, fruitful (not fruity) men and those flaky, foolish wussy-like men? Man, the Bible teaches us by contrast.


I. Manly Men In the Bible Who Trusted, Prayed, And Obeyed Their Heavenly Father:

(No excuses. Strong, faithful, accountable, and God-fearing — still flawed, not perfect, but anchored in Christ)

1. Joseph (Genesis 37–50)

  • Resisted sexual temptation when no one was watching (Gen. 39:9).

  • Stayed faithful in prison, in power, and in prosperity.

  • Kept integrity before God and mercy toward his brothers.

  • Strength: self-control and forgiveness.

2. Moses

  • Led a stiff-necked people for 40 years without quitting.

  • Interceded for Israel when God was ready to judge them (Exod. 32:11–14).

  • Chose suffering with God’s people over comfort in Egypt (Heb. 11:24–26).

  • Strength: endurance under pressure.

3. Joshua

  • Took responsibility when Moses died.

  • Declared his household would serve the Lord (Josh. 24:15).

  • Led courageously in battle and obedience.

  • Strength: decisive leadership.

4. Caleb

  • Had a different spirit (Num. 14:24).

  • At 85 years old still wanted the hardest assignment (Josh. 14:10–12).

  • Strength: long obedience in the same direction.

5. David (when walking uprightly)

  • Faced Goliath when others hid (1 Sam. 17).

  • Refused to kill Saul when he had the chance (1 Sam. 24).

  • Repented deeply when he sinned (Psalm 51).

  • Strength: courage plus repentance.

6. Nehemiah

  • Built with a sword in one hand and a trowel in the other.

  • Refused intimidation, compromise, and distractions (Neh. 6).

  • Strength: focused resolve.

7. Daniel

  • Would not bow, even under threat of death.

  • Prayed openly despite the law (Dan. 6).

  • Strength: conviction without bitterness.

8. Job

  • Lost everything and did not curse God.

  • Spoke honestly, endured patiently, repented humbly.

  • Strength: perseverance under suffering.

9. John the Baptizer

  • Fearlessly confronted sin, even in kings.

  • Lost popularity, freedom, and life for truth.

  • Strength: moral clarity.

10. Jesus Christ (our First-love, and Prime Example)

  • The perfect man: filled ith strength, tenderness, truth.. willing to sacrifice and protect people.

  • Silent before accusers, fiercely honest with hypocrites, gentle with all sinners willing to change.

  • Strength: holiness truthfully expressed in love.


II. Foolish Men Who Were Flaky, Doubleminded And Didn't Live By Faith:

(Examples that warn us — Scripture shows us what never to imitate)

1. Cain

  • Refused correction.

  • Allowed jealousy to become murder (Gen. 4).

  • Failure: resentment toward God.

2. Esau

  • Sold his birthright for a meal (Gen. 25:29–34).

  • Chose appetite over inheritance.

  • Failure: impulsiveness.

3. Samson (the he-man with a repeated she-problem)

  • Strong body, weak boundaries.

  • Repeated compromise with Delilah.

  • Failure: uncontrolled desire.

4. King Saul

  • Feared people more than God.

  • Made excuses instead of repenting (1 Sam. 15).

  • Failure: insecurity and pride.

5. Absalom

  • Manipulated people and betrayed his father.

  • Chased power without patience.

  • Failure: ambition without submission.

6. Ahab

  • Passive and easily manipulated by Jezebel.

  • Abdicated leadership.

  • Failure: cowardice.

7. Gehazi

  • Lied for personal gain (2 Kings 5).

  • Failure: greed.

8. Judas Iscariot

  • Walked with Jesus as a poser, and then betrayed Him for silver.

  • Chose money over the Messiah.

  • Failure: secret sin and unbelief inside.

9. Demas

  • Abandoned Paul because he really loved the world-system (2 Tim. 4:10).

  • Failure: divided heart.

10. Ananias (and Sapphira’s husband)

  • Lied to the Holy Spirit (Acts 5).

  • Wanted reputation without reality.

  • Failure: hypocrisy.


III. Is There A Decent Takeaway?

The Bible is honest:
God uses broken men He restored — but He never excuses cowardice, duplicity, or betrayal.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom.” (Proverbs 9:10)

Strong men relying upon the Lord are not sinless men, but they are faith-filled.
They don't opt to wreck their own testimony. They are repentant men when they stumble and blow it (admitting it, and quitting it ..changing by free grace.. becomes a lifestyle for them), they are faithful, fruitful men, accountable men, and enduring men going the distance.

Weak men are not those who fall per se, cuz we've all sinned at times—but those who refuse to confess their sin and get back up to follow Jesus. They refuse to receive correction, His forgiveness, and refuse truth. All real truth is His truth. Hey, we can learn from the godly around us and even from fools ..what never to become. What never ever to prioritize ahead of what God's word says we need to prioritize. 

God in the Scriptures commands us to live aware and discerning:

“Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.” (1 Corinthians 16:13)

Guys, Acting Like Men Without Living a Double Life Is Primo

Friends, let’s never live split lives. Let’s not speak one way on Sunday and then move another strange way the rest of the week. We are to walk 24/7/365 in victory with Him. Scripture calls us to something sturdier, spiritually-muscular, something restored and whole. The apostle Paul says it plainly, without apology, hype or polish:

“Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong”
(1 Corinthians 16:13, NKJV)

These are not soft words. Paul closes his first letter to the Corinthians with a cluster of commands that assume pressure, opposition, and danger. Alertness. Endurance. Courage. Strength. These are not optional virtues. They are necessary for spiritual survival.

Paul urges courage and strength precisely because the Christian life is contested ground. Believers are not spectators; they are participants in a real conflict. As Paul explains elsewhere:

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places”
(Ephesians 6:12; see also 2 Corinthians 10:3–4)

Fear is a natural response when the stakes are high. But fear must not be the final word. Paul redirects us away from self-confidence and toward divine dependence:

“Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might”
(Ephesians 6:10)

The strength Paul commands is not bravado. It is borrowed strength.

When Paul says “be brave,” he uses the Greek word andrizesthe, drawn from anēr, meaning “man.” It literally means act like men. The Strong’s Lexicon notes that this word is used metaphorically to urge spiritual maturity in Christ and resilience from Him, drawing on the cultural understanding of real manhood exhibiting courage under pressure. This is not a call to machismo, but to moral backbone with boldness from Him.

Likewise, “be strong” comes from krataiousthe, meaning “be strengthened.” HELPS Word Studies explains it as prevailing through God’s dominating power as His strength overcomes opposition. Faith is not the absence of weakness; it is reliance on a strength beyond our own.

Scripture consistently ties courage to God’s presence. Joshua did not receive a pep talk. He received a promise:

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go”
(Joshua 1:9)

The same assurance holds for us. The Spirit given to believers is not a spirit of retreat:

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind”
(2 Timothy 1:7)

Paul’s call to courage is inseparable from standing firm in truth. Bravery is required when truth is attacked, diluted, or traded away. Corinth was fractured by division, seduced by false teaching, and compromised by moral confusion. Paul knew that faithfulness demands resolve.

Jesus Himself warned His followers to expect hardship, but never defeat:

“In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world”
(John 16:33)

Rely on the Holy Spirit's strength for consistency in your walk. Victory does not rest on our own power, ingenuity or consistency but on Christ’s calvary conquest:

“Thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ”
(1 Corinthians 15:57)

The aim of courage is not self-fulfillment or more self-confidence. It is the glory of God--being confident in Him and His unchanging promises. Paul, writing from prison, reveals the true purpose of bravery:

“That with all boldness, as always, so now also Christ will be magnified in my body, whether by life or by death”
(Philippians 1:20)

Strength and courage are instruments, not trophies. They exist so Christ may be seen.

Martin Luther basically captured this truth with enduring clarity:

And though this world, with devils filled,
should threaten to undo us,
we will not fear, for God has willed
His truth to triumph through us.

(We can sing his song: A Mighty Fortress Is Our God)

The Danger of a Divided Soul

Trust Jesus as Lord fully. Scripture warns us not only about fear, but about fragmentation. That double life. Dishonest hiding what you really are inside. James introduces a striking word: dipsuchos, meaning “double-minded,” literally “two-souled.” It appears only in his letter:

“He who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.. he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways”
(James 1:6–8; see also James 4:8)

A double-minded person is not merely uncertain; he is divided. Jesus described the same condition when He said:

“No one can serve two masters”
(Matthew 6:24)

Such instability affects character, direction, and trust. The Greek word for “unstable” carries the sense of staggering, like a drunk unable to walk straight. A man who tries to move in two directions at once goes nowhere.

Hebrews defines faith as certainty:

“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen”
(Hebrews 11:1)

None can please God without faith, but He is a rewarder of those who honestly and earnestly seek Him by faith. Certainty and duplicity cannot coexist. One mind believes; the other hesitates. It calls to mind the absurd pushmi-pullyu of Dr. Doolittle, straining forward and backward at the same time.

"By faith Enoch was taken up so that he did not see death: 'He could not be found, because God had taken him away.' For before he was taken, he was commended as one who pleased God. And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who approaches Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him." Hebrews 11:5-6

The cure for a double-life and double-mindedness of thought is not self-analysis-paralisis but saturation in truth unto good words, attitudes and deeds as the Lord directs:

“Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God”
(Romans 10:17)

Jesus encourages us to ask boldly:

“Ask, and it will be given to you”
(Luke 11:9–12; see also Luke 17:5; Mark 9:24)

The Inner War and the Way Forward

Believers are not naive about the struggle within, about the real enemies (Mr. Lu-Cifer, this World-system and their fleshly nature that tell em to do what it tell em to do independently from Chrsit). Scripture acknowledges the internal conflict. Paul describes it candidly in Romans 7:

“For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice… it is sin living in me”
(Romans 7:19–20)

Two realities coexist: delight in God’s law and resistance from indwelling sin. The battle is real, ongoing, and universal.

Yet Scripture does not leave us resigned. We are commanded to put sin to death:

“If by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live”
(Romans 8:13)

“Put to death therefore what is earthly in you”
(Deny yourself, take up your cross and follow Jesus. See Colossians 3:5; see also Colossians 3:8)

The new nature must be continually renewed:

“Put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him”
(Colossians 3:10)

We are no longer slaves to sin:

“Our old self was crucified with Him”
(Romans 6:6)

And we are genuinely new:

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation”
(2 Corinthians 5:17)

Paul ends his lament with hope:

“Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord!”
(Romans 7:24–25)

What a True Man Looks Like

The world offers competing definitions of masculinity. Strength, sensitivity, status, skill, wealth, dominance. None of these are sufficient.

The phrase toxic masculinity has become common in popular discourse, yet it is often used in ways that stray far from its original purpose. When the term is mishandled, the words toxic and masculine are treated as if they describe the same thing. The implication is no longer that certain behaviors are unhealthy, but that masculinity itself is inherently harmful. That assumption is false. Masculinity, rightly understood, is not toxic at all.

It is necessary to distinguish between what the phrase originally sought to address, how it is now frequently employed, and what Scripture teaches about maleness and manhood. In its earliest use, toxic masculinity was intended to challenge unhealthy expectations placed on men, particularly attitudes that discouraged emotional honesty, gentleness, or responsibility. Over time, however, this corrective impulse shifted into a broad critique of nearly anything associated with being male. While the Bible clearly warns against sinful conduct, it never condemns masculinity itself. In fact, strong, healthy expressions of manhood are essential to the well-being of families, churches, and cultures.

Addressing Genuinely Harmful Behavior

Originally, toxic masculinity referred to a distorted version of manhood, a caricature that equated being a “real man” with emotional numbness, aggression, and dominance. This outlook often mirrored what is now called hypermasculinity, the exaggerated image of the perpetually scowling, invulnerable tough man. Such stereotypes pressured men to suppress emotion, isolate themselves, overwork, or refuse to admit weakness or failure. Early uses of the term rightly criticized the notion that men must never show gentleness, humility, submission, or care.

Alongside this critique, the term was also applied to behaviors that genuinely harm others. The glorification of promiscuity, the objectification of women, misogyny, bullying, aggression, and posturing were correctly identified as destructive. In this sense, the original use of the term aimed to confront real moral and relational failures, not to diminish men as men.

From Corrective to Condemnatory

Over time, criticism of hypermasculinity expanded into suspicion of masculinity itself. The label toxic has been attached to men who desire to protect and provide for their families, to acts once considered chivalrous, to a preference for physical labor or athletics, and even to emotional reserve. Traits such as competitiveness, courage, confidence, or physical presence have been dismissed by some as inherently problematic.

A related example is the term mansplaining, originally meant to describe a man speaking condescendingly to a woman who is already knowledgeable. Today, it is often used to dismiss any strong or reasoned contribution from a man. Rather than engaging ideas on their merits, the label is used to silence the speaker, not because he is wrong, but because he is male.

The Drift Toward Misandry

The deeper problem emerged when criticism shifted away from specific behaviors and settled on maleness itself. The result has been a quiet but pervasive misandry, an unfair suspicion or disdain toward men and masculine traits. Instead of encouraging healthy expressions of manhood and correcting harmful ones, the culture increasingly treats anything “manly” or “boyish” as something to be restrained, mocked, or eliminated.

Boys, in particular, bear the weight of this shift. Traits such as competitiveness, risk-taking, physical energy, and noise, once understood as part of boyhood, are now often framed as defects. In many group settings, including schools and even churches, communal sentimentality and emotional expressiveness are emphasized as virtues, while roughhousing, adventure, and boldness are punished. Predictably, girls expressing typically feminine traits feel affirmed, while boys expressing typically masculine traits often feel corrected, shamed, or sidelined.

Don't Treat Real Masculinity As A Problem -- Cuz It Ain't. Ain't Never Been. 

Bad English, but good point to make. 

The Bible Clarifies All The Worldly Misuse Of So Called “Toxic Masculinity.”

When all masculine expression is treated as suspect, truly destructive behaviors become harder to address. Labels such as toxic masculinity, mansplaining, or manspreading blur the distinction between what is genuinely sinful and what is simply male. When everything is condemned, nothing is clearly corrected.

Behaviors that are truly harmful, such as promiscuity, bullying, or emotional withdrawal, are not remedied by shaming courage, competitiveness, or protective instincts. On the contrary, removing positive outlets for masculine energy often produces the very hardness it claims to oppose. When boys and men are given no honorable way to express strength, they learn to hide, resist correction, or grow resentful. The result is not healthier men, but more deeply damaged ones.

There Is A Masculinity As God Intended

Scripture affirms that what God creates is good when used as He intends:

“For every creature of God is good”
(1 Timothy 4:4)

This includes God’s design of male and female:

“So God created man in His own image.. male and female He created them”
(Genesis 1:27)

Masculinity itself is not the problem--never has been. Misuse of words regarding this is a prob. Courage can be used to rob a bank or to run into a burning building. Strength can be used to dominate others, or it can be used to serve others well. The difference lies not in the trait, but in its direction and use.

The goal, then, is not to suppress masculinity, but to cultivate it rightly. When masculine traits are shaped by godliness, two good things happen. Boys and men are given clear, positive models worth imitating, and men who live with integrity are empowered to confront genuinely toxic behavior among their peers.

A biblical vision of manhood also deepens respect for women. Scripture does not flatten the sexes into sameness. God created woman as a helper suitable for man, not as a duplicate of him (Genesis 2:18–24). Celebrating femininity requires honoring masculinity as its complement, not its competitor.

Masculinity Through the Lens of Scripture

The Bible dismantles every false notion of masculinity by condemning sin while affirming strength rightly ordered. There is no clearer picture of true manhood than Jesus Christ.

Jesus wept openly (John 11:35), yet He also drove corrupt merchants from the temple (John 2:13–16). He showed compassion (Mark 1:40–41), sensitivity (Luke 10:38–42), forgiveness (Luke 7:44–50), and humility (John 13:1–16). At the same time, He demonstrated courage (Mark 11:15–18; Luke 22:39–46), righteous confrontation (Matthew 23:13–36), moral clarity (John 4:15–18), bold proclamation (John 7:37), self-control (Matthew 4:1–11), and even playful insight (John 1:47–48).

More broadly, Scripture condemns what is truly toxic: domineering leadership (1 Peter 5:3), greed (Hebrews 13:5), refusal to rest (Genesis 2:3; Mark 6:31), sexual immorality (Romans 13:13), selfish ambition (Philippians 2:3), arrogance (Romans 12:3), and vengeance (Romans 12:19). At the same time, it commends love (John 13:34–35), mutual openness (Galatians 6:2), gentleness (Galatians 5:22–23), and peace (Romans 12:18), while also calling men to strength (Ephesians 6:10), courage (1 Corinthians 16:13), dignity (Titus 2:7; 1 Timothy 3:7), and boldness (Ephesians 3:12; Titus 2:15).

A truly biblical understanding of manhood is neither harsh nor weak. It is not toxic

Scripture gives us a better measure. Look to, focus on the living Word -- the God-man, Jesus Christ. 

Jesus, the sinless Son of Man, embodies mature manhood. He did and does. He just lived filled with the Spirit, was obedient to the Father, was constantly anchored in Scripture, committed to prayer, and willing to suffer for love=sake. He loves you and me and still has a good plan. 

“I delight to do Your will, O my God”
(Hebrews 10:9)

“I have set My face like flint”
(choices with determination matter, men. Isaiah 50:7)

“Consider Him.. lest you become weary and discouraged”
(Hebrews 12:3)

“Man shall not live by bread alone”
(Matthew 4:4)

“Rising very early.. He went out and prayed”
(Mark 1:35)

“Having loved His own.. He loved them to the end”
(John 13:1)

The Apostle Paul summarizes this stuff well:

“Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong. Do everything in love”
(1 Corinthians 16:13–14)

The following qualifications reinforce the picture painted if ya will:

(1 Timothy 3:2–4, 7; 3:8–9)

A true man of God is not childish, but does remain childlike with his simple faith walk and prayer life. 

When men pray, repent, and obey like many children pray, repent and obey (simply), then God hears and answers like the loving, heavenly Father that He really is. 

He has put away childish things (but not a childlike faith in Jesus. 1 Corinthians 13:11). He knows what is right and stands fast in it. He loves the Lord more than anything or anyone else. He loves life too, and loves those entrusted under his watch-care.

Not perfectly. But faithfully.

Not loudly. But steadily.

And always, in the strength God supplies.