Thursday, May 28, 2026
Keep growin' and knowin' (learnin' what's so not merely to know). Keep earnestly seekin' Jesus because you love Him and want to be faithful and fruitful.
Wednesday, May 27, 2026
What is that disrespect about? It is basic info for you.
"Do you think disrespect is an insult? It is not really. Don't ever take it personal. It is information."
Are we parents to thank an adult moron for this needed information?
That info given should tell you this brilliant impolite person in front of you has bery poor character, poor judgment, or deep insecurity. It tells you they are not really your people. Probably never was.
Just must move on. Shake the dust off your feet. Advance with rhe Lord to those who are open to truth.
Ever see a lion get angry when a sheep disapproves of its roar? It simply keeps walking. Be more like the lion of a tribe of Judah. Be yourself. Let your roar not go silent.
Treat rude unjust disrespect not as a wound, but as a compass that points you away from the wrong people.
What that old man said contains a measure of practical wisdom, but a Christian must filter every proverb through Scripture. The Bible does not teach prideful detachment, bitterness, or contempt for people. Yet it does teach discernment, endurance under mistreatment, and knowing when to step away from hardened rejection.
Jesus Himself was despised, rejected, mocked, falsely accused, betrayed, and dishonored. The apostles experienced the same. A mature believer learns not to be ruled by wounded pride, while also recognizing when someone’s behavior reveals the condition of their heart.
What speaks directly to this topic?:
“If the world hates you, you know that it hated Me before it hated you.” — John 15:18 (NKJV)
“Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake.” — Matthew 5:11
“A servant is not greater than his master. If they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you.” — John 15:20
“When He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously.” — 1 Peter 2:23
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” — Romans 12:21
“As much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.” — Romans 12:18
Doesn't mean you need to hang out like best friends when you have zero in common. When there's respect, you'd at least have rhe kids in common.
“Do not give (spiritual) dogs what is holy; and do not throw your pearls before (spiritual) swine..” — Matthew 7:6 #emph.mine
Jesus was not at all teaching hatred of people there, but discernment, hatred of evil thinking and behavior. There comes a point when truth is continually trampled over, mocked, and rejected. We aren't a cowtow
That connects with Christ’s instruction to His disciples from back in the day: Have you lived and shared the gospel?
“And whoever will not receive you nor hear your words, when you depart from that house or city, shake off the dust from your feet.” — Matthew 10:14
And The Apostle Paul eventually practiced this principle:
“Since you reject it.. and judge yourselves unworthy of everlasting life, behold, we turn to the Gentiles.” — Acts 13:46
The believer’s response is not vengeance against pitiful lame brain people, self-pity, or I'm-the-boss kinda arrogance.. cuz we have one Top Boss. It is sorrow mixed with peace. You continue loving idiotic people as well as others who hold up the Palm, praying for them, speaking truth when appropriate and welcomed, but you never forcing yourself or his message on to anyone.. into places where Christ is continually despised and your witness is continually trampled on. I'm not saying anyone was pressuring or forcing anything.
Even within families, Jesus warned this type of tension and pain would happen:
“A man’s enemies will be those of his own household.” — Matthew 10:36
And:
“For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother..'” — Matthew 10:35
Not because Christ creates evil, but because truth exposes the condition of hearts.
What judgment begin with me judging my own heart and mind. Yes, at the same time, Scripture also warns us believers to examine ourselves humbly before God assuming all opposition is persecution for righteousness. Of course not all rejection and ill treatment is persecution:
“But let none of you suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evildoer, or as a busybody in other people’s matters.” — 1 Peter 4:15
Sometimes people reject us because we are zealous with a sense of urgency, or were harsh, proud, controlling, self-righteous, or lacked Christlike gentleness. A godly man asks the Lord honestly: “Is this rejection because of me or cuz of Christ, or because of something sinful or fleshly in me?”
If your conscience is totally clear before God, You might not have done anything wrong so then you just entrust the matter to Jesus. Doing my best, I commit the rest. That's all we do.
Need some relevant Christian edification on this subject:
From Charles Spurgeon:
“If to be hated by the world is to be like Christ, then count it no strange thing.”
From A. W. Tozer:
“The true follower of Christ will not ask, ‘If I embrace this truth, what will it cost me?’ Rather he will ask, ‘Can I afford to ignore this truth?’”
From Dietrich Bonhoeffer:
“Judging others makes us blind, whereas love is illuminating.”
That quote is important because reborn Christians must never drift into some stupid superiority complex (even if those surrounding you do). You know what I mean that better than thou attitude “lion versus sheep” mentality. Jesus is called the lion of the trube of Judah, not you. Scripture likens God’s people sheep too.. And those aren't the smartest animals around. The goal is not ego-strength but Christlikeness. As you obey the Lord, he will empower you to continue witnessing for him.
From Corrie ten Boom:
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
And from Oswald Chambers:
“Whenever we are in the dark spiritually, it is because there is something in us which will not obey.”
That includes refusing to forgive.
So the biblical balance is this:
- Do not be stopped or crushed by disrespect.
- Do not idolize human approval.
- Do not retaliate in the flesh.
- Do not become cynical or proud.
- Continue loving, positively influencing, and praying.
- Exercise discernment about the hardened rejection of real heathen.
- Leave room for God to work.
- Sometimes the wisest thing is a quiet distance and peaceful entrusting of the matter to the Lord.
When your job of raising young ones is finished, consider it done. They are God's problem, not yours. Gracious Jesus was multiple times rejected by Spiritually blind fools, yet He continued on with his mission that the Father gave to him. He continued walking in truth, mercy, dignity, and obedience to the Father. That is the pattern for us believers.
In Scripture, honor is never treated as optional. God presents respect as something noble, righteous, and fitting, while disrespect reveals something dark within the human heart. To respect another person is to recognize the value, dignity, position, or wisdom God has allowed them to carry. It is closely tied to humility, gratitude, reverence, courtesy, and honor. Disrespect, by contrast, refuses to give proper honor where honor is due. It belittles, dismisses, mocks, or devalues people made in the image of God.
The Bible commands believers to “give honor to whom honor is due” (Romans 13:7). Respect is not merely a cultural custom; it is part of godly character. Throughout Scripture, four groups especially are to be treated with honor: elders, authority figures, the Lord Jesus Christ, and people in general.
Older people are to be respected because age often brings wisdom, experience, and perspective. God commanded His people, “You shall rise before the gray headed and honor the presence of an old man” (Leviticus 19:32). A society that mocks or discards its elderly reveals hardness of heart. Paul instructed young Timothy not to speak harshly to older men, but to appeal to them respectfully, as a son would speak to his father (1 Timothy 5:1). Respect for elders is, in many ways, respect for the wisdom God can give through years of life.
The Bible also teaches respect for authority. Civil leaders, parents, faithful church leaders, and others entrusted with responsibility are to be treated honorably. This does not mean authorities are perfect or beyond accountability, but God is a God of order, not rebellion. Even difficult authorities are not an excuse for sinful disrespect. Scripture says servants were to show respect not only to kind masters, but also to harsh ones (1 Peter 2:18). This reflects the heart of Christ, who remained righteous even when treated unjustly.
Above all, Jesus Christ deserves the highest honor from every human being. Yet when He came into the world, many responded to Him with contempt, rejection, and hatred. In His own hometown He was dishonored and dismissed. In the parable of the vineyard tenants, the beloved son sent by the owner represents Christ Himself. Rather than respecting him, the wicked tenants cast him out and killed him (Matthew 21:33–40). Humanity’s rejection of Christ was the greatest act of disrespect ever committed, and Scripture warns that those who harden themselves against God’s Son will answer to God Himself.
The Bible also teaches that every human being possesses dignity because mankind was created in God’s image (Genesis 1:27). Even unbelievers are not to be treated with contempt. Christians are commanded to show kindness, gentleness, and honor toward all people. First Peter 2:17 summarizes this beautifully: “Honor all people. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king.” Respect should mark the believer’s speech, conduct, and attitude, even when sharing truth with those who disagree.
The problem of disrespect often becomes especially visible in the home. Disrespectful children are not born that way accidentally. Scripture teaches that foolishness is bound up in the human heart because of sin (Psalm 51:5; Romans 3:23). Children must therefore be lovingly trained, corrected, and guided toward wisdom. Parents are not merely called to manage behavior, but to shepherd hearts.
Under the Old Testament law, persistent rebellion and hardened dishonor toward parents were treated with terrifying seriousness (Deuteronomy 21:18–21). This shows how deeply God values order, obedience, and honor within the family. A rebellious household eventually weakens an entire society. Proverbs says, “A child left to himself brings shame to his mother” (Proverbs 29:15). Loving discipline, though painful at times, helps rescue children from the destructive path of selfishness and rebellion.
Children primarily learn respect in two ways: through loving correction and through example. Parents who speak respectfully, listen carefully, honor grandparents, and treat others with dignity are quietly teaching their children how to live. Hypocrisy destroys this lesson. A father who demands honor while acting dishonorably confuses the child. Respect must be modeled before it can truly be expected.
Wise parents also understand the importance of consistency. Empty threats, uncontrolled anger, and endless arguments weaken authority and create confusion. Children need loving boundaries, clear expectations, and dependable consequences. Discipline should not be cruel, explosive, or humiliating, but steady, truthful, and rooted in genuine care for the child’s soul.
At the same time, children should know they are heard and valued. Respectful parenting is not weakness. It means treating children as image-bearers of God while still maintaining God-given authority. When parents listen patiently and respond wisely, they teach children how respectful communication works.
Modern culture often celebrates self-expression without self-control and entitlement without humility. Many children are raised to believe life revolves around their feelings, preferences, and desires. Scripture teaches the opposite. Human beings exist for God’s glory, not for self-worship (Colossians 1:16). Philippians 2:3 commands believers to reject selfish ambition and instead humbly value others above themselves.
Respect ultimately grows out of humility. It requires us to acknowledge that we are not the center of the universe. It reminds us that other people matter, that authority matters, that truth matters, and above all, that God matters.
A respectful child is far more likely to become a respectful adult, but some never do. And a respectful adult is far more prepared to bow before His higher Authority, the Lord, with reverence, gratitude, obedience, and worship.
Monday, May 25, 2026
12 habits of a Godly man
As I look across this rapidly changing America, I do not believe the deepest crisis is political, economic, or technological. At its core, it is spiritual.
So much delusion! So many crazy beliefs are ruling minds like we've never seen before. Listen, you don't want to be given up to a depraved mind as has literally happened with some seared folk.
We are witnessing confusion about truth (all truth is God's true), a confusion about personal identity, a confusion about what a real marriage is, confusion about morality.. what baby is a real human, and even a confusion about what it means to be a man or a woman today. Scripture warned us this would happen.
And so many people are calling evil good. Stop it! “Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil” (Isaiah 5:20). When a culture loses its moral compass, it eventually loses its stability as well.
A godly man is not defined by cultural trends, social media approval, or ideological slogans. He is not harsh, arrogant, self-absorbed, or domineering. Neither is he passive, cowardly, irresponsible, or morally compromised. Biblical manhood is not brutality on one side or softness without conviction on the other. It is Christlike strength clothed in humility.
And no, a godly man does not look like a biological male competing dishonestly against women in women’s sports. That is not courage. It is confusion at best, and in many cases unfairness disguised as virtue. God created mankind “male and female” (Genesis 1:27), and His design is neither outdated nor oppressive. It is wise, purposeful, and good.
It's true. I was lost as a lizard without even one clue. Why did I do what my fleshly nature and the world kept telling me to do! It was bad, and I was really bad -- And I really enjoyed bad. Man, why start reaping all the horrible consequences from that kinda sideways lifestyle?
What does it mean to sow the wind and reap the whirlwind (Hosea 8)?
Is “you reap what you sow” even biblical?
What does it mean that the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases?.. Just that! You are loved Mr or Mrs Sinner-Person! No slight intended at all, really.
How are people destroyed from a lack of Bible knowledge (Hosea 4:6)?
What does Numbers 32:23 mean when it says, “Be sure your sin will find you out"? Well, in the original Hebrew, it basically means that your sin will indeed find you out, Mister Sinner-man (No putdown, I too was one and am now a saved sinner. Am not better than, never was, but better off? Sure.)
Frank W. Boreham: "We make our decisions, and then our decisions make us."
Anne Frank: "Our lives are fashioned by our choices. First we make our choices. Then our choices make us".
We all make some daily choices good or bad, wise or foolishly, but in the end, our choices make us. Destination included. They send us forever to where we chose to go. And guess what.. not to choose is to choose.
Tiger Woods: "We all make decisions. But in the end, our decisions make us."
There could be a searing, a hardening and that could happen even in a church when there's not proper ressponse. There's a line one can cross where they won't want to turn. or allow a needed possitive change.
I, Kurt, came to faith in Jesus Christ during the Jesus Movement of the 1970s, and in many ways, I sense echoes of that same season once again. There is a spiritual hunger returning to America. Bible sales have risen. Christian media platforms are growing. Conversations about truth, purpose, masculinity, and faith are resurfacing. But perhaps most striking of all is the growing number of young men searching for something deeper than entertainment, pornography, political outrage, or empty ambition.
Many guys feel weary of being told that masculinity itself is the problem.
For years, words like “toxic masculinity” and “patriarchy” have often been used so broadly that even biblical strength, leadership, courage, and responsibility became suspect. Young men were frequently told that to be gentle, they must become weak, and to be loving they must abandon conviction. But Scripture never presents manhood that way.
The Bible calls men to courage with tenderness, strength with compassion, leadership with sacrifice, and conviction with humility.
A recent report from The New York Times noted an unusual demographic shift: young men in America are increasingly showing greater religious interest than their female peers. Whether every statistic holds long term remains to be seen, but there is little doubt many young men are searching for solid ground again. They are hungry for meaning, discipline, responsibility, and truth.
Deep down, many men do not want to drift through life addicted to comfort and entertainment. They want purpose. They want a mission worthy of sacrifice. God built men to carry responsibility, protect others, work diligently, and walk faithfully.
The Apostle Paul gives a concise but powerful description of biblical manhood in 1 Corinthians 16:13–14:
“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.”
That short passage contains an entire philosophy of godly masculinity.
Be watchful. Be strong. Be meek. Consistently act in love.
A godly man stays awake spiritually. He pays attention to what enters his home, his mind, and his heart. He understands that the greatest dangers are not always physical. Sometimes the greatest threats arrive through compromise, deception, addiction, bitterness, pornography, greed, pride, or moral passivity.
He guards his family because he first guards his own soul. "Love.. always protects." With protecting them, we start by prayerfully protecting our own ear gates and eye gates. Can Jesus make this a bit easier for you when everywhere we go we're surrounded by ads even from individuals on social media? Yes, He can.
We don't feed lust, we starve it to death.
Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”
A husband who never notices his wife’s loneliness, a father absent from his children’s lives, or a man consumed by selfish ambition while neglecting spiritual realities is not truly watchful.
The Christian man must be alert, prayerful, discerning, and engaged.
Stand firm in the faith.
Truth matters. Doctrine matters. Conviction matters.
A godly man does not constantly bend with every cultural wind. He lovingly stands on the truth of God’s Word even when it becomes unpopular. He leads spiritually not merely by words, but by example.
He says, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15).
Far too often, women have carried the spiritual weight of the home while men remained disengaged. But God calls husbands and fathers to lead with humility and consistency. That does not mean acting superior. It means taking responsibility.
You've told your wife and kids many times that you love them. Try that again. Pray with your family.
Open the Bible.
Go to church faithfully.
Repent quickly when you sin.
Ask forgiveness when you fail.
Lead not as a tyrant, but as a servant.
The greatest leaders in Scripture were rarely self-promoting men. Moses was called the meekest man on earth (Numbers 12:3). Yet he confronted Pharaoh. David wrote worship songs, but also faced Goliath. The Apostle Paul wept openly, yet endured beatings, prison, and persecution for Christ.
Biblical strength is never separated from humility.
Be strong in the Lord.
Our culture often confuses strength with aggression. But Jesus Christ, the strongest man who ever lived, described Himself this way: “I am gentle and lowly in heart” (Matthew 11:29).
That is astonishing.
The One who created galaxies welcomed children, touched lepers, washed feet, and allowed Himself to be crucified for sinners.
True strength is controlled strength.
Meekness is not weakness. It is power surrendered to God.
A raging man with no self-control is not strong. Proverbs 16:32 says, “He who rules his spirit is better than he who takes a city.”
The truly strong man remains faithful when temptation whispers. He remains honest when dishonesty would profit him. He remains calm when anger would be easier. He remains pure when lust saturates the culture around him. He keeps his word when breaking it would be convenient.
Anyone can follow impulses. Character requires surrender.
Let all that you do be done in love.
Without love, strength becomes cruelty.
Without truth, love becomes sentimentality.
Biblical love is neither weak nor self-centered. It is sacrificial.
Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends” (John 15:13).
Ephesians 5:25 commands husbands, “Love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.”
That kind of love is costly and it feels real costly.
It means remaining faithful to your marriage vows when emotions fluctuate. It means listening when you are tired. It means protecting your children. It means apologizing sincerely. It means working hard. It means showing tenderness without embarrassment.
A godly man is not emotionally dead. Christ was not emotionally dead. Jesus wept at Lazarus’ tomb (John 11:35). He welcomed little children. He defended the vulnerable. He confronted hypocrisy. He served the undeserving.
He was both lionhearted and compassionate.
That is biblical masculinity.
One elderly Christian businessman once told me a story I have never forgotten. During a severe financial collapse decades ago, he lost nearly everything he owned. Friends abandoned him. Business partners disappeared. For a season, it appeared his life’s work had completely unraveled.
But every morning before sunrise, he would quietly open his worn Bible at the kitchen table while his family still slept. His wife later said she often heard him praying softly, “Lord, I do not understand what You are doing, but I trust Your character.”
Months became years. Slowly, God rebuilt what had been lost, though not always in the ways he expected. His greatest testimony later was not financial recovery, but spiritual transformation. He said, “I discovered that when God is all you have, you finally realize God is all you ever truly needed.”
Psalm 37:25 proved true in his life: “I have been young, and now am old; yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken.”
Another story comes from the life of George Müller, the great Christian known for caring for thousands of orphans in England. There were mornings when there was literally no food left for the children. Yet Müller gathered them for prayer anyway.
On one famous occasion, after thanking God for food that had not yet arrived, a baker unexpectedly knocked on the door with fresh bread because he “felt led” to help. Moments later, a milk cart broke down outside the orphanage, and the driver gave the milk away before it spoiled.
Skeptics mock such stories, but Müller’s life consistently testified to God’s faithfulness through decades of ministry.
Hebrews 10:23 says, “He who promised is faithful.”
The missionary Jim Elliot, who was killed while trying to bring the Gospel to the Huaorani people of Ecuador, once wrote these famous words:
“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”
That is not the language of weakness. That is eternal perspective.
And C. S. Lewis wisely observed:
“Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.”
Faithfulness becomes visible when circumstances become difficult.
Anyone can praise God when prayers are answered quickly. But mature faith clings to Christ when heaven seems silent, when suffering lingers, when temptation intensifies, and when the future remains unclear.
That kind of steadfastness shines brightly in a drifting culture.
America does not merely need stronger politics, louder personalities, or trendier churches. It needs men and women transformed by Jesus Christ. It needs fathers who pray. Husbands who remain faithful. Young men with conviction. Young women with wisdom. Christians who love truth more than applause.
The need of the hour is not performative religion, but genuine repentance and spiritual awakening.
And revival has always begun when ordinary believers humbled themselves before God.
2 Chronicles 7:14 still speaks with prophetic clarity:
“If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.”
Now is the time for Christian men to rise up prayerfully, not in pride, not in anger, not in self-righteousness, but in holiness, in courage, in real humility, in truth.
As Billy Graham once said, “When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. When character is lost, all is lost.”
Okay, So What Are Some Habits of a Godly Man?
(Here's some Verses drawn from Proverbs and the whole counsel of Scripture)
1. He guards his heart carefully
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” — Proverbs 4:23
A wise, godly man knows that the battle for his life begins in the mind and heart. What he feeds into his mind will eventually shape his heart's desires, his decisions, and his direction. We each reap what we sow to. A godly man is willing to die to self -- he does not casually consume trashy poison through entertainment, bitterness, lust, pride, or unbelief. He watches over his soul like a shepherd watches over sheep in wolf country.
In an age where people guard their phones with passwords but leave their hearts spiritually unguarded, Proverbs calls men back to vigilance. A godly man understands that compromise rarely arrives with sirens blaring—it slips in quietly through unchecked thoughts and tolerated sins.
John Owen famously warned:
“Be killing sin, or sin will be killing you.”
Jesus echoed this truth when He said, “Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8).
2. He speaks words that heal instead of wound
“A wholesome tongue is a tree of life.” — Proverbs 15:4
His words do not become weapons of destruction. He knows that the tongue can either breathe courage into weary people or crush them beneath careless speech. A godly man refuses sarcasm that humiliates, gossip that divides, or angry words that scorch relationships.
Instead, his speech carries grace, truth, wisdom, and restraint. He understands that some people are barely holding themselves together, and one sentence can either strengthen them or deeply injure them.
My former Frisco Texas pastor Chuck Swindoll wisely observed this:
“Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you react to it.”
Scripture says:
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying” (Ephesians 4:29).
A godly man leaves conversations cleaner, calmer, and more hope-filled than he found them.
3. He walks in integrity when nobody is watching
“The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.” — Proverbs 20:7
Integrity is who you are when applause disappears.
A godly man does not wear Christianity like a public costume while privately entertaining compromise. He is the same man in secret that he appears to be in public. He keeps his word. He pays honestly. He tells the truth. He refuses hidden corruption.
In today’s world, image management has replaced character formation for many people. But God is not impressed with curated appearances. Heaven sees the hidden life.
Charles Spurgeon said:
“A man's life is always more forcible than his speech.”
The Bible says:
“He that walketh uprightly walketh surely” (Proverbs 10:9).
Children may forget many sermons, but they rarely forget hypocrisy—or authenticity.
4. He plans wisely instead of living recklessly
“The thoughts of the diligent tend only to plenteousness.” — Proverbs 21:5
A godly man is not lazy, impulsive, or careless. He understands that wisdom thinks ahead. He counts the cost. He prepares. He works diligently. He is flexible enough to learn, humble enough to adjust, and wise enough not to confuse recklessness with faith.
The book of Proverbs repeatedly contrasts diligence with slothfulness. Wisdom is not frantic panic—it is steady faithfulness over time.
The late John MacArthur often emphasized that spiritual maturity involves disciplined obedience to the word, not emotional instability.
Proverbs says:
“Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise” (Proverbs 6:6).
Many ruined lives did not collapse overnight. They slowly drifted through years of unwise decisions, unmanaged desires, and neglected discipline.
5. He shows mercy to the poor and needy
“He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD.” — Proverbs 19:17
A godly man notices hurting people.
He does not become hardened by endless bad news or insulated by selfish comfort. He reflects the compassion of Christ. He understands that generosity is not merely about money—it includes attention, kindness, patience, dignity, and practical help.
Jesus consistently moved toward the broken, not away from them.
Hudson Taylor said:
“Christ is either Lord of all, or He is not Lord at all.”
Scripture teaches:
“Whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?” (1 John 3:17).
A hard heart toward suffering people often reveals a deeper spiritual problem.
6. He leaves a godly influence wherever he goes
“A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children.” — Proverbs 13:22
A wise man thinks beyond himself.
His greatest inheritance is not merely financial—it is spiritual. Long after his voice is gone, his example still speaks. His prayers echo in future generations. His integrity becomes a shelter for his family. His faithfulness leaves footprints others can follow.
A godly man realizes that every private decision eventually casts a public shadow.
D. L. Moody once said:
“The Bible was not given for our information but for our transformation.”
Psalm 112 describes the righteous man this way:
“The righteous shall be in everlasting remembrance” (Psalm 112:6).
7. He fears the Lord above all else
“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom.” — Proverbs 9:10
This is the foundation beneath every other virtue. Biblical manhood does not begin with toughness, money, muscles, or status—it begins with reverence for God.
The fear of the Lord is not terror that drives a man from God, but holy awe that draws him near in humility and obedience.
A. W. Tozer wrote:
“What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.”
8. He receives correction with humility
“He that regardeth reproof is prudent.” — Proverbs 15:5
A foolish man is offended by correction. A wise man grows from it.
Godly men remain teachable. Pride resists instruction, but humility receives it. Mature believers do not pretend they have arrived spiritually.
Proverbs says:
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend” (Proverbs 27:6).
9. He chooses his companions wisely
“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise.” — Proverbs 13:20
Who surrounds a man will shape a man.
A godly man understands the influence of friendships, media, mentors, and environments. He does not casually attach himself to destructive influences.
My former California pastor, Chuck Smith Sr. often emphasized the importance of staying close to believers who stir your heart toward Christ rather than toward compromise.
1 Corinthians 15:33 warns:
“Evil communications corrupt good manners.”
10. He controls his temper
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty.” — Proverbs 16:32
Strength is not found in explosive reactions but in Spirit-controlled restraint.
Anyone can lose control. Wisdom remains steady under pressure. A godly man does not excuse sinful anger as “just how I am.”
My former So Cal Pastor Greg Laurie has said:
“A hot temper can undo a lifetime of good.”
James 1:20 reminds us:
“The wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”
11. He works diligently and avoids laziness
“The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing.” — Proverbs 13:4
A godly man is dependable. He works wholeheartedly unto the Lord. He understands that laziness slowly destroys purpose, relationships, opportunities, and spiritual vitality.
The Protestant work ethic historically rooted itself in verses like Colossians 3:23:
“Whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord.”
According to research from Barna Group, many practicing Christians report struggling with spiritual consistency and intentional discipleship in daily life, reflecting a broader cultural drift toward distraction and passivity rather than disciplined spiritual formation.
12. He pursues knowing his first love better, (Jesus) and His wisdom more than worldly wisdom or applause
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom.” — Proverbs 4:7
A godly man would rather be wise than merely impressive.
He knows that social media popularity, applause, and worldly recognition fade quickly. But wisdom from God preserves, protects, and guides a man through life’s storms.
There ya have em -- my 12. I think God has more in the Bible. Let's go find more about being godly men. Missionary Jim Elliot once wrote this (shortly before his martyrdom):
“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.”
What does it mean to be a godly husband?
A real godly man loves God with all his mind, heart, and soul. The godly man's life reflects that love of the Lord. He will love a healthy church, not a sicko church, and there sure are a lot of those.
What is the biblical pattern of church leadership with some godly men in there?
Who were the sons of God and daughters of men in Genesis 6:1-4?
Like Christ, the godly man will shun sin and follow after righteousness. He will, in the power of the Spirit, seek to keep God's law and live at peace with all people if possible.
Dude, have you ever desired to become a man of God without any spiritual compromise or lame excuses?
That's 12. Perhaps you can give me some more from the Bible? I would love that. Now, hhere's an old hymn that describes us guys and says:
“Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it,
Prone to leave the God I love.”
Prone to doesn't mean we must wander. Let God's Holy Spirit and His word give you victory over sin, Satan, the flesh, and this world. When guys fall, it's normally in three areas: over -- the gold, the glory, or the girls (or nowadays over other guys and that's also serious).
We don't have to, none of us need to, take a foolish stride from our Master's side! There are lyrics I love that go: Come Thou Fount -- it remains painfully honest. Even godly men are weak apart from the sustaining strong grace of Christ. Biblical manhood is not sinless perfection—it is humble dependence upon the Lord Jesus Christ, daily repentance, growing obedience, and persevering faith. When we are tempted, it's dealing with a real human need, and guess what.. God says He'll meen all our real needs, so why not just go to Him early.. daily.. all day depending upon Him!?
The world tells men they must be dominant, self-centered, emotionally numb, and proud. Scripture calls men to something far deeper: holiness, courage, servant-hearted leadership, truthfulness, compassion, self-control, and faithfulness to Christ.
The strongest men in God’s eyes are not the loudest men in the room. They are the men who quietly walk close with God when nobody sees or notices.
Dudes, I double-dog dare ya to start thinking and behaving like real men. Don't live all woke, just really wake up.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with real men acting like real men.
Jesus was and is the ultimate man—defending the weak, loving children, and serving others (yet not so much that he ain't there with his family much).
Men should know and emulate Him. Now is the time for men to step into His plan for them, to step up, to grow up, and be who God has called them to be. The Bible (the Owner's manual) tells us how. I think when more do this, a broader spiritual awakening (a 5th one even) in America with genuine revival has a chance to take place. Together, let's pray for this.
“Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong.” — 1 Corinthians 16:13 KnowGod.org
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Think back for a sec. Do you remember Israel's greatest King's final words? David's last words to his son Solomon are found in: 1 Kings 2:2–3, yep, his final charge to Solomon is:
“I am going the way of all the earth. Be strong, therefore, and show yourself a man. And keep the charge of the LORD your God: to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, His commandments, His judgments, and His testimonies, as it is written in the Law of Moses, that you may prosper in all that you do and wherever you turn.”
Dare ya if I may to follow David and Solomon's King!
"..in the faith, act like men, be strong. Do everything in Love." (1 Corinthians 16:13,14).
Sup with Social IQ, emotional IQ and showing Mercy? Children, parents, grandparents need to have a clue on grace. (Part 2)
Memorize this basic truth no matter who you are:
Legalism tries to control people outwardly; grace changes people inwardly through the Holy Spirit.
I want to diligently warn all people (especially real Christians) against becoming “grace killers”—critical, rigid, controlling Christians who major on externals while forgetting the mercy they themselves desperately need from God.
1. God's Grace Frees People from Performance-Based Christianity. What Does That Have To Do With S-IQ Or EQ?
Many Christians live exhausted lives trying to earn acceptance—from God and from others.
But grace says:
- You are accepted in Christ.
- Salvation is a gift.
- Spiritual growth is not produced by pressure and shame.
- God changes people from the inside out.
Key verses:
“For by grace you have been saved through faith… not as a result of works.” — Ephesians 2:8–9
“It was for freedom that Christ set us free.” — Galatians 5:1
“Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.” — 2 Corinthians 3:17
I very strongly oppose “performance-oriented bondage.” That's mere religious and lame.
2. Grace Gives Room for People to Be Different
I strongly emphasize is that mature believers learn not to force everyone into their personal mold.
Grace recognizes:
- Not every believer grows at the same pace.
- Christians differ in personality, convictions, culture, and maturity.
- Many issues are preferences—not biblical absolutes.
- Unity does not require uniformity.
This is directly connected to your earlier question about letting adults be themselves.
May I say it?.. Grace-filled Christians stop obsessively policing every non-essential issue in others’ lives.
Listen, one of the fruits of grace this way:
“You can expect to spend less time and energy critical of and concerned about others’ choices.”
That is deeply connected to biblical maturity.
Key passages:
“Who are you to judge another servant? To his own master he stands or falls.” — Romans 14:4
“Accept the one who is weak in faith, but not for the purpose of passing judgment on opinions.” — Romans 14:1
“Let all that you do be done in love.” — 1 Corinthians 16:14
“With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love.” — Ephesians 4:2
3. Grace Is Truth Wrapped in Love
I don't teach spiritual compromise with sin or doctrinal error.
Rather:
- Grace tells the truth without cruelty.
- Grace corrects without humiliation.
- Grace restores instead of crushing.
- Grace remembers its own need for mercy.
This reflects how Jesus Christ dealt with people.
“The Law was given through Moses; grace and truth were realized through Jesus Christ.” — John 1:17
Notice: not grace without truth, and not truth without grace.
I want to often.. warn all people that some Christians sadly become experts in confrontation but amateurs in compassion.
4. Legalism Produces Pride and Judgmentalism
My I identify legalism as one of the top enemies -- one of the great enemies of grace. The devil and his thugs want you ligalistic.
Legalism says:
- “God loves you more if you perform.”
- “Spirituality equals external conformity.”
- “Everyone must live exactly like me.”
Grace says:
- “We are saved and sustained by God’s mercy.”
- “Transformation comes through the Spirit.”
- “The Christian life is relational, not merely rule-centered.”
He describes legalists as people who become “judge and jury” over others.
Key verses:
“Having begun by the Spirit, are you now being perfected by the flesh?” — Galatians 3:3
“Mercy triumphs over judgment.” — James 2:13
“Knowledge makes arrogant, but love edifies.” — 1 Corinthians 8:1
5. Grace Produces Humility
People who truly understand grace become softer, kinder, and humbler because they know:
- They are forgiven sinners.
- Everything they have is undeserved.
- They themselves require ongoing mercy.
Thus grace destroys spiritual superiority.
“What do you have that you did not receive?” — 1 Corinthians 4:7
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” — Ephesians 4:32
6. Grace Changes How We Handle Differences
Please believers, learn to distinguish between:
- Essential biblical truth
vs. - Personal preferences and secondary opinions
Mature Christians learn:
- not every disagreement requires combat,
- not every difference is rebellion,
- not every conviction is universal law.
Romans 14 becomes foundational here.
The chapter repeatedly teaches believers not to despise or judge one another over disputable matters.
“Let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.” — Romans 14:19
We love Chuck Swindoll. He was my great pastor up in Frisco for some years and he taught so well on this subject:
“Grace is free, but it is not cheap.”
“Legalism is a killer. It kills grace, spontaneity, and joy.”
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.”
“We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”
“God’s grace is given to people who do not deserve it.”
“The church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints.”
Here is a fresh paraphrase harmonizing his teaching with Scripture:
God is kind. His grace-filled believers stop trying to play the Holy Spirit in other people’s lives. Because they themselves have been forgiven much, they become slower to condemn, slower to control, and quicker to show mercy. They learn to distinguish eternal truth from personal preference. Instead of crushing others under expectations God never imposed, they point people toward Christ with humility, patience, tenderness, and truth. Grace does not weaken holiness—it changes the atmosphere in which holiness grows. Fear and legalism may pressure outward behavior for a season, but only grace transforms the heart.
Mercy and Compassion
- Luke 6:36
- Colossians 3:12–14
- James 3:17
- Micah 6:8
Patience with Differences
- Romans 14
- Galatians 6:1
- 2 Timothy 2:24–25
Speaking Truth Graciously
- Ephesians 4:15
- Colossians 4:6
- Proverbs 15:1
Freedom from Legalism
- Galatians 5:1
- Colossians 2:20–23
- Romans 8:1
Real Christians who truly understand God’s grace biblically become safer, softer, humbler, gentler, kinder people.
Not weaker.
Not compromising.
Not morally careless.
But:
- less controlling,
- less condemning,
- less rigid,
- less self-righteous,
and more like Christ.
Because the more deeply a person understands how merciful God has been toward them, the more graciously they will treat other imperfect people.Showing mercy with God's grace and letting other adults simply be themselves is related to that so called: Social IQ and emotional IQ. People show Christians the respect in allowing them to be who they really are when they are out to help and not hurt anyone they come in contact with. Show others kind respect as well.
Mercy, grace, and allowing other adults to be themselves are deeply connected to both social intelligence (Social IQ) and emotional intelligence (EQ). In biblical terms, these qualities reflect Christlike maturity—understanding people accurately, responding with compassion, and trusting God rather than trying to control everyone around us.
1. Now What In The World Exactly.. Is Social IQ?
Social IQ is the ability to understand how people think, feel, and behave in relationships, and to interact wisely and appropriately.
A person with strong social intelligence:
- Reads people accurately
- Respects boundaries
- Knows when to speak and when to remain silent
- Avoids unnecessary conflict
- Shows tact and sensitivity
- Accepts that others have freedom to make their own choices
The Bible calls this wisdom, discernment, and walking in love.
“The wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits.” — James 3:17
2. What Exactly Is Emotional IQ (EQ) -- it is real?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to:
- Recognize your own emotions
- Regulate your reactions
- Understand the feelings of others
- Respond with patience and compassion
Biblically, EQ includes:
- Self-control
- Patience
- Gentleness
- Kindness
- Compassion
These are the aspects of the fruit of the Spirit that you and I need in our lives (Galatians 5:22–23).
3. Here's How Mercy Relates To Social And Emotional Intelligence
Mercy is compassion in action toward people who are weak, flawed, or difficult.
Mercy says:
- “I see your faults, but I choose compassion.”
- “I will not treat you as harshly as you deserve.”
- “I understand your struggles.”
- “I will be patient with your imperfections.”
A merciful person has both high Social IQ and high EQ because they:
- Understand human weakness
- Control their own frustrations
- Respond with kindness
- Avoid harsh judgment
The Bible repeatedly connects spiritual maturity with mercy.
“Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.” — Matthew 5:7
“Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” — Luke 6:36
4. How Grace Relates to Social and Emotional Intelligence
Grace is giving others kindness, acceptance, and patience they have not earned.
Grace says:
- “I choose to treat you better than you deserve.”
- “I will give you room to grow.”
- “I know I also need grace.”
A gracious person:
- Does not demand perfection
- Is slow to criticize
- Gives others time to mature
- Corrects gently
This requires emotional maturity and relational wisdom.
“Let your speech always be with grace.” — Colossians 4:6
“Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” — Colossians 3:12–13
5. Please Treat Others Gently With Respect, And Let Other Adults Be Themselves
One of the clearest signs of mature Social IQ and EQ is recognizing:
You are not the Holy Spirit in another person’s life.
Adults are accountable to God for their own choices.
Letting others be themselves means:
- Respecting their God-given freedom
- Avoiding controlling behavior
- Accepting differences in personality and preferences
- Trusting God to work in their hearts
- Loving them without trying to dominate them
This does not mean approving sin or abandoning truth. It means speaking truth in love and then entrusting people to God.
“Speaking the truth in love.” — Ephesians 4:15
“Each of us will give an account of himself to God.” — Romans 14:12
6. Why Controlling Others Reveals Low Emotional And Social Intelligence
People with low EQ often:
- Become irritated when others are different
- Feel threatened by lack of control
- Try to micromanage people
- Overreact emotionally
- Confuse their preferences with God’s commands
People with mature EQ and Social IQ understand:
- Everyone alive is indeed imperfect, but God is patient
- Change in a real believer ..takes time
- God works differently in each person
- Love is patient
“Love is patient and kind.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4
7. Jesus Still Is The Perfect Example
Jesus Christ demonstrated perfect emotional and social intelligence.
He:
- Showed mercy to sinners
- Extended grace to failures
- Spoke truth without cruelty
- Corrected without humiliating
- Allowed people to choose whether to follow Him
When the rich young ruler walked away, Jesus told the truth and let him leave (Mark 10:17–22). He did not manipulate or pressure him.
8. Practical Godly Wisdom For Me
Mature believers can learn to say these words:
- “I can love you without controlling you. I am sorry if I ever have tried to. Forgive me if I have. Have I?”
- “I can tell you the truth and leave the results to God.”
- “I can extend grace because God has extended grace to me.”
- “I can show mercy because I also need mercy.”
This is emotional maturity, relational wisdom, and Christlike love.
9. Here's Some Memory Verses
- James 3:17
- Matthew 5:7
- Luke 6:36
- Colossians 4:6
- Colossians 3:12–13
- Ephesians 4:2, 15
- Romans 14:4, 12
- Galatians 5:22–23
- 1 Corinthians 13:4–7
- Proverbs 19:11
“A man’s discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression.” — Proverbs 19:11 (NASB)
10. What Quotes On This Are biblical?
Charles Spurgeon:
“To be like Christ is to be full of grace and mercy.”
Andrew Murray:
“Humility is the bloom and beauty of holiness.”
C. S. Lewis:
“Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have something to forgive.”
Chuck Smith Sr. said:
“Where God guides, God provides; where God leads, He gives the grace to follow.”
Mercy and grace are the spiritual expressions of high emotional and social intelligence.
- Mercy feels another person's weakness and responds compassionately.
- Grace gives kindness that is not deserved.
- Social IQ understands how to relate wisely to others.
- Emotional IQ governs your reactions and attitudes.
- Maturity allows other adults to be themselves while speaking truth in love and trusting God with the outcome.
Absolutely—Christian grandparents have both a wonderful privilege and a solemn responsibility to pass on God’s truth to their grandchildren, especially as those grandchildren grow old enough to understand spiritual realities.
We Have A Sacred Holy Stewardship
The Bible presents each generation as responsible for declaring God’s truth to the next generation.
“One generation shall praise Your works to another, and shall declare Your mighty acts.” — Psalm 145:4
“We will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD.” — Psalm 78:4
“Even when I am old and gray, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim Your might to another generation.” — Psalm 71:18
Grandparents occupy a uniquely influential role. They often possess:
- Spiritual experience
- Hard-earned wisdom
- Greater patience
- Historical perspective
- Credibility born of a tested life
What parents teach through daily instruction, grandparents often reinforce through seasoned testimony.
Remember The Biblical Example of Lois
The clearest biblical example is Lois, the grandmother of Timothy.
The Apostle Paul the Apostle wrote:
“I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice.” — 2 Timothy 1:5
And:
“From childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.” — 2 Timothy 3:15
Lois helped shape one of the most significant pastors and leaders in the early church.
Teaching Truth While Respecting The List Or Saved Parents
Grandparents and parents should teach biblical truth. Yes, and ordinarily we should do so in a way that honors the primary role of the child’s parents.
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord.” — Ephesians 6:1
Parents bear the first responsibility for raising children in the Lord (Deuteronomy 6:6–7; Ephesians 6:4). Wise grandparents support rather than undermine that role.
When parents are believers, grandparents can reinforce and enrich what is already being taught. When parents are not walking with God, grandparents may become a crucial secondary influence, though they should still seek to act with humility and respect whenever possible.
What Grandparents Should Teach
As grandchildren mature, grandparents can lovingly teach:
- Who God is
- The reality of sin
- The gospel of Jesus Christ
- Salvation by grace through faith
- Biblical morality
- Wisdom for relationships
- The value of mercy, grace, humility, and truth
- The certainty of eternity
They can also share personal testimonies of God’s faithfulness through the years.
Regarding Mercy, Grace, and Letting Others Just Be Themselves
Yes, grandparents should help grandchildren understand that mature Christians:
- Speak truth lovingly
- Show mercy toward human weakness
- Extend grace to imperfect people
- Respect others’ God-given responsibility before God
- Avoid controlling behavior
- Trust the Lord to work in hearts
This is an important lesson because young people often confuse love with control or acceptance with approval. Grandparents can model the balance of truth and grace.
The Most Powerful Teaching Method Ever?: Be A Good Example
Children and grandchildren learn not only from what grandparents say, but from what they consistently observe.
A. W. Tozer said:
“What comes into our minds when we think about God is the most important thing about us.”
Grandchildren watch to see whether their grandparents:
- Pray sincerely
- Speak kindly
- Handle conflict biblically
- Forgive quickly
- Love the Scriptures
- Live with integrity
A godly example often leaves a deeper imprint than many words.
Billy Graham:
“The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children and grandchildren is not money or material things, but a legacy of character and faith.”
Charles Spurgeon:
“Train up a child in the way he should go, but be sure you go that way yourself.”
Susanna Wesley:
“I am content to fill a little space if God be glorified.”
So What's Balanced Spirituality?
Christian grandparents have a biblical responsibility to teach truth with grace and love to their grandchildren as they start to grow, as they become capable of understanding it.
They are called to:
- Proclaim God’s truth faithfully.
- Model grace and mercy consistently.
- Respect the authority of parents.
- Pray fervently for their grandchildren.
- Trust God with the results.
In essence:
Be a good example consistently. If you're a grandparent, then live pure, kind, disciplined, benevolent and pass on the good principles you've gained from your parents and grandparents. I know that they've probably taught you some good things that agree with the Bible. Christian grandparents actually have a duty to be gracious, apiritually uncompromising, and merciful with all people. Yes, and to teach what's true to grandchildren (regarding this topic and to others) when grandchildren are no longer infants?
A mercuful Christian grandparent is like a bridge between generations, carrying the torch of biblical truth and passing it lovingly to those who will one day carry it forward. Let the children and the grandchildren also carry that torch for God's glory.
In short:
Christlike maturity is the ability to show mercy, extend grace, speak truth in love, and let God—not you—be in control of other people’s lives. KnowGod.org
Can I.. can we all grow in this area? Sure. A lot changes when you become a real Christian.. regeneration is a miracle that by faith happens by Christ within!
"If I am not today all that I hope to be, yet I see Jesus, and that assures me that I shall one day be like Him. A sight of Jesus by faith is the pledge of beholding Him in His glory and being transformed into His image." ~ C.H. Spurgeon