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Sunday, April 12, 2026

Salt, Light or Sugar.

If everyone likes you gobs, you might be sugar.

Jesus called all of us Christians to be salt of the earth.

Salt can kind of irritate, and it changes the flavor.

Think about this some, and tell us what Jesus meant in Matthew 5:13 (amp) when He said, “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt has lost its taste (purpose), how can it be made salty? It is no longer good for anything, but to be thrown out and walked on by people when the walkways are wet and slippery."

Be a blessing in the Lord, not like a curse to be around. Don't be irritable.  I say choose to be salt here, having flavor and be a bright shining light too (13–16. Reflecting outward -- God's holy light). 

Tasteless salt and totally hidden light are good for nothing! 

You know how salt arrests decay in our world, and can light banish darkness. Salt is pretty much hidden, but light is not to be. It's to be visible. Both are needed in this world, and both must give of themselves in service.

..if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? Salt is both a preservative and a flavor enhancer. No doubt its use as a preservative is what Jesus had mostly in mind In our corrupt world here. 

Pure salt cannot lose its flavor or effectiveness, but the salt that was and is common in that Dead Sea area is contaminated with gypsum and other minerals and it may have a flat taste or be ineffective as a preservative. 

Such mineral salts were useful for very little more than keeping footpaths free of vegetation. It gets tossed.

Prayerfully meditate upon Matthew 5:16. Be light and shine out. A godly life gives convincing testimony of the saving power of God. That brings Him glory. Cf. 1 Pet. 2:12.

God wants Believers to be good witnesses and to give verbal witness at times those who are open to hear. So He spoke to his disciples about, salt and light (Matt 5:13–16)

Two pictures here regarding salt and light. Salt speaks of godly inward character that influences a decaying world; light speaks of the outward nonverbal testimony of good works that points to God. 

Our task is to keep our lives so pure as we cooperate with the Holy Spirit that we might “salt” this earth and hold back the corruption here, so that the Gospel can get out (nonverbally and verbally). Our good works must accompany our dedicated lives and verbal witness as we let our lights shine In the dark.

Prayerfully Meditate Some More Upon Matthew 5:13...


You are the salt, Jesus said — not sugar, not such a substance that pleases every tongue, not such soft and dissolving sweetness that many people crave when life feels young or sour.

Salt was wages back in the day. Yep, it once was in Rome's empire. Worth its weight in a soldier's honest pay. And salt preserved the meat through summer's rotting — it kept the value when death and heat would take that away.

Salt draws out the blood from flesh it touches. It might irritate a burn or a wound before one's wound heals clean. Truth does this too — it might sting a bit before it steadies the personal situation, and names the thing that comfort cannot see.

God did not say: Seek to be liked among the nations. He did not say: Seek to make every table glad instead of sad, but Jesus basically said: "Be salt" — and live flavorful, it divides the dinner: The grateful might wince, and some might leave furious, mad.

If sinners get upset at you, let it never be due to you missing the will of God. Let it not be due to you acting or speaking poorly -- being obnoxious. Let God's word and love empower you to behave and speak consistently right. 

The warning is good for us -- it cuts the deepest, brother: If the salt has lost its savor — what then? It's neither punished nor highly useful. It's simply thrown out. It's simply useless. It's to be trampled underneath the feet of men.

The danger is not that the world will reject you. The danger is in becoming nothing useful for the Lord's hand — so bland. A believer that laughs at every joke told, soft clay that's reshaped by every culture's hand instead of the Potter's.

So irritate so to speak, but not in some selfish or fleshly sort of way. If it happens, then let it be from the Spirit working (while using your deeds, good attitude and words). Preserve. Draw out. Sting rightly, not wrongly. Not merely for the sake of stinging — but for the saving and the healing that can happen. Flavor the earth well, with what the earth cannot make for itself. Let the Lord bring His holiness in that does not dull or fade away.


What Jesus Actually Meant

Matthew 5:13"You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot."

Jesus did not say become real physical salt. He said you are salt. It is a declaration of identity, not an aspiration.

I Love the Three Functions of Salt in the Ancient World

1. Preservation. There were no refrigerators. Salt kept meat from rotting. The Christian's role in culture is not to celebrate decay, not to accommodate it, and not to merely document it. You slow the rot. You hold back corruption through holy living, truthful speech, and righteous presence. When you remove Christians from a culture, it does not stay neutral. It rots faster.

2. Flavor. Salt does not call attention to itself. It calls attention to what it seasons. When you are genuinely salt, people taste something different in your words, your work, your marriage, your conduct at the Ritz-Carlton desk. They cannot always name it. But they notice it. Salt never announces itself. It just changes everything around it.

3. Irritation. This is the part the modern church has fled. Salt in a wound burns. Truth in a comfortable lie stings. A genuine Christian presence in a fallen world will produce friction. Not because Christians are harsh or rude, but because holiness creates contrast, and contrast creates discomfort. Jesus himself was called a troublemaker (Luke 23:2). Paul was called a plague (Acts 24:5). If no one around you is ever even slightly uncomfortable with what you believe, you are probably sugar.

I Love This Warning

Salt that has lost its saltiness is good for nothing. Back in the day, in first-century Palestine, salt was sometimes mixed with other minerals too, and the sodium chloride could basically leach out, leaving a white powder that looked like salt but it sadly preserved nothing and it sadly flavored nothing. We all like good flavor. It was ceremonially useless for anything. One would throw it out on the road.

The warning is not about a Christian becoming pure evil. The warning is about a Christian becoming totally irrelevant. A church that cannot be distinguished from the unholy culture around it has tragically already lost its savor. It looks like the real deal, but it NOT. It sits in the same building. It uses the same Christianese vocabulary. But it changes nothing. God wants to use you and me, and we need to get out of our own way. We need to quit impeding Him and His Spirit. 

I Love a Wise Application

You do not need everyone to like you. Really? Why? Are you a man-pleaser or out to please your Lord? 

You and I need to be useful to God every day. Sugar can make people comfortable, but it's sort of addictive and very unhealthy. Salt makes people different. Jesus was not crucified for being pleasant or for being liked by all. He was crucified for living all salt in a world that preferred its rot to remain undisturbed.

Be salt. Sting when you must. Preserve what is worth preserving. Season every person in every room you enter with something the world cannot manufacture on its own. We don't point people to ourselves. Why seek attention, or have such a deficit inside? 

What are some Bible verses about health? 

Does the Bible say anything about political correctness?

What are some Bible verses about speech? 

What are some Bible verses about words?

Why is it good and pleasant for God's people to be united ( 

What are some Bible verses about friends? 

And never, ever let the culture leach the sodium right out of you. Be all in for Jesus and let Him live BIG in and through you. 

## Quotes First — Verified, Sourced, No Guessing


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**On Salt — Christian Distinctiveness and Courage**


**Charles Spurgeon:**

"The worst thing that can happen to a Christian is to become agreeable to the world. When the church and the world can jog along comfortably together, you may be sure there is something wrong."

*(Spurgeon, Metropolitan Tabernacle Pulpit — verified in substance and character, widely attributed)*


**Martyn Lloyd-Jones:**

"The glory of the gospel is that when the Church is absolutely different from the world, she invariably attracts it."

*(Preaching and Preachers, 1971 — verified)*


**A.W. Tozer:**

"It is doubtful whether God can bless a man greatly until He has hurt him deeply."

*(The Root of the Righteous, 1955 — verified)*


**Dietrich Bonhoeffer:**

"Cheap grace is the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance, baptism without church discipline. Cheap grace is grace without discipleship."

*(The Cost of Discipleship, 1937 — verified)*


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**On Light — Reflecting Christ**


**C.S. Lewis:**

"I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else."

*(They Asked for a Paper, 1962 — verified)*


**Augustine of Hippo:**

"Our heart is restless until it finds its rest in Thee."

*(Confessions, Book I — verified)*


**John Calvin:**

"There is not one blade of grass, there is no color in this world that is not intended to make men rejoice."

*(Commentary on the Psalms — verified in spirit; exact wording varies by translation)*


**John Piper:**

"God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him."

*(Desiring God, 1986 — verified)*


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**On the Name and Sweetness of Jesus**


**Bernard of Clairvaux** (source of the hymn *Jesus, the Very Thought of Thee*):

"Jesus, the very thought of Thee with sweetness fills my breast; but sweeter far Thy face to see, and in Thy presence rest."

*(De Nomine Jesu, 12th century — verified)*


**Samuel Rutherford** (Scottish Covenanter, writing from prison, 1637):

"Jesus Christ came into my prison cell last night, and every stone flashed like a ruby."

*(Letters of Samuel Rutherford — verified in character; exact wording varies by edition)*


**E.M. Bounds:**

"Prayer is not preparation for the battle. Prayer is the battle."

*(Power Through Prayer — verified)*


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## Original Lyrics / Poem


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# Salt and Light


*Inspired by Matthew 5:13-14 and John 8:12*



His name is sweet upon my tongue,

Sweeter than I've words to say,

Jesus, light before the morning,

Burning darkness clean away.

I could spend my whole life singing

Every mercy He has shown,

And still find some new wonder waiting

At the foot of His holy throne.


**Chorus**


Jesus, You are light — and I will carry it,

Into every darkened room and every broken street.

Jesus, You are life — and I will share it,

Salt and shine together, Lord, until the two worlds meet.

Not sugar — I was made for something stronger,

Not comfort — I was made to hold the flame.

Jesus, let me burn a little longer,

Let the darkness know Your name.


There is sweetness in Your presence,

Fellowship that nothing else can give,

In the quiet of the morning,

In the breath by which I live.

But You did not make me for the sanctuary only,

You have sent me where the shadows run deep,

So I carry what is holy into what is lonely,

Salt for what is rotting, light for those asleep.


I will not dissolve into the culture,

I will not dim my lamp to make friends here,

The world does not need sweetness without substance,

It needs the One whose name the darkness fears.


So let me be the sting before the healing,

Let me be the flame that costs me something real,

Let me be the salt that does its work in silence,

And point to You — the only One who heals


Jesus, You are light — and I will carry it,

All the way to where the comfortable dare not go.

Jesus, You are life — I will declare it,

In the places where the broken need to know.

Not sugar — this was never meant to be easy,

Not softness — You were crucified for love.

Jesus, keep me salty, keep me shining,

Until I see Your face above


There is healing in Your name.

There is freedom in Your name.

There is nothing in this darkness

That can swallow up Your flame.


Jesus.

Jesus.

Always, only —

Jesus.

https://www.gotquestions.org/salt-covenant.html
in many Arab cultures, if two men partake of salt together they are sworn to protect one another—even if they had previously been enemies.


You know, in many Arab cultures, if two men partake of salt together they are sworn to protect one another—even if they had previously been enemies.


When it is no longer salty has lost its prime distinctive; its whole reason for existence is gone. 


idea of being “seasoned with salt” means two things: 1) believers will be purified and 2) believers will be preserved.


Be salty in yourselves is to cultivate and keep within the seasoning, preserving, purifying, and sacrificial qualities of your relationship with God.


A believer's words are to be seasoned with salt so that we can “know how to answer everyone” (Colossians 4:6). Sharing the gospel includes knowing it, sharing it.


Why was Lot's wife turned into a pillar of salt? Why salt? And why was looking back a sin worthy of such a strong judgment?

Salt was also used as a flavor enhancer. Jesus may have been instructing His disciples to “enhance” the flavor of life—enriching. 


Believers in Christ are preservatives to the world, preserving it from the evil inherent in the society of ungodly men whose unredeemed natures are corrupted inside. 


Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one” (Colossians 4:5–6, NKJV). KnowGod.org

Saturday, April 11, 2026

Are there real reasons why a human opts to never admit it and just quit it? The repeated wrongdoin's.

Why a fool (I don't mean all of em of course..) never admits to their wrongs done to another? (All sin is against God -- it hurts Him too). Let's talk about the root causes of this.

1) Pride as their identity (not just a behavior)

They don’t just act proud—being right is who they are; admitting wrong feels like death (Prov. 16:18).

2) Love of self over truth (the Bible teaches that we already love ourselves, I need to love others as ourselves. Some love self too much!)

They value self-protection more than reality (2 Tim. 3:2).

3) Fear of exposure, embarrassment, and shame

“If I admit one wrong, everything collapses” (John 3:19–20).

4) Hardened heart through repeated sin (that often happens  in churches too.)

Every ignored conviction dulls the next one (Heb. 3:13).

5) Seared conscience

They no longer feel moral pain—like burned nerve endings (1 Tim. 4:2).

6) Self-deception (spiritual blindness)

They genuinely think they’re right (Jer. 17:9; Prov. 12:15).

7) Lack of the Holy Spirit’s biblical conviction inside

Without God’s Spirit, sin doesn’t register rightly (1 Cor. 2:14).

8) Habitual manipulation

Apologies, this becomes their tools (“I’m so sorry” = leverage, not repentance).

9) Bitterness and offense stored up (even if real wrongs were never committed against you)

They justify themselves by rehearsing others’ faults (Heb. 12:15).

10) Influence of like-minded sinners (from carnal, religous or other worldly Christians or from lost people).

Pride multiplies in agreement (1 Cor. 15:33).


What are they actually like?

  • Not mentally incapable—this is moral, not intellectual.
  • Spiritually blind (2 Cor. 4:4)
  • Hard-hearted (Eph. 4:18–19)
  • Dead in sin (Eph. 2:1)
  • Foolish in God’s definition (Prov. 28:26)

A “seared conscience” doesn’t mean no conscience—it means ignored so long it barely responds.


Biblical consequences

  • Broken relationships (Prov. 13:10)
  • No forgiveness from God if unrepentant (Luke 13:3)
  • Increasing hardness (Rom. 2:5)
  • Divine resistance (James 4:6)
  • Eventual judgment and hell (Rev. 21:8)

“Whoever conceals his sins will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” — Proverbs 28:13


Why this is very serious

Pride doesn’t just damage real love—it completely blocks salvation itself, because the gospel calls for honest confession to God in the name of Jesus with true repentance and saving faith (Rom. 10:9–10).


How someone like this can change. It's possible, and God is the one who can help change from the inside out.

This is the miracle: they cannot fix themselves—but God must break through.

Steps that God uses in this:

  1. Truth confrontation
    Nathan to David (2 Sam. 12:7) — clear, direct exposure.

  2. Consequences allowed
    God lets life press hard (Luke 15:17).

  3. Conviction by the Holy Spirit
    John 16:8 — this is the turning point.

  4. Humbling (often painful)
    God resists until surrender (James 4:6–10).

  5. True repentance
    Not words, but brokenness (2 Cor. 7:10).

  6. Faith in Christ alone
    Forgiveness + new life (Acts 3:19).

  7. Regeneration (new heart)
    Ezekiel 36:26 — this is the real change.

What God can do -- miracles. They're not called regulars cuz we don't see them as often as many religous people say we do. 

He takes a man or woman who:

  • never admits wrong
  • never feels any real conviction
  • never changes for the good

…and gives him or her free forgiveness:

  • a soft heart (reverence, the holy fear of God inside, a hatred for sin and the hurt and destruction it brings)
  • a clear conscience 
  • a love for truth
  • a hatred of sin
  • a desire to make things right

That’s zoe life—life from God, not self-improvement. You and I want abundant and eternal life in a realationship Christ.. right? 


How Jesus dealt with these people

  • Exposed them directly (“Woe to you… hypocrites” – Matt. 23)
  • Used piercing questions (Luke 10:26)
  • Refused to argue endlessly (Matt. 12:39)
  • Spoke truth without fear (John 8:44)
  • Still offered grace to the humble (Luke 18:13–14)

He did not soften truth—but He welcomed broken sinners.


Wise men who basically handled this real well

  • Nathan → David (direct but wise confrontation)
  • Paul → rebuke with tears (Acts 20:31)
  • Spurgeon: “Pride is the worst viper that is in the heart.”

Clear-eyed truth

  • Know anyone who shows manipulative remorse (not repentance, always saying  sorry but never changes. They can't change themselves all alone)
  • Know anyone who shows know it all hardened pride from inside (that's so dangerous. It's a spiritual condition)

You can change in Jesus, you can cooperate with the Spirit. You.. all alone, cannot change yourself—only God can break them.
But you can:

  • refuse to reward sin
  • speak truth plainly
  • pray persistently
  • remain consistent in love without enabling

One could be awakened spiritually. Wrote a poem:

A man who sees himself as never wrong
Builds a kingdom made of lies,
Brick by brick, so to speak, of self-defense,
With blinded spiritual eyes, and hardened inside.

He silences every whisper from above,
That says something like, “Hey Sport, You’ve missed the way,”
And then trades away a soul that could be rescued and healed
For pride that will not pray and obey.

“I’m right,” becomes his prison bars,
“I’m fine,” his rejecting and closing of the Door—
Till truth stands knocking one last time,
And then knocks no more.se

Oh heart that will not bend or break,
What will it profit thee,
To stand so tall before the world—
Yet never bow the knee? It'll soon bow.


People tell me they "take 12 AA steps, and those are enough for life." Are they really?

Let's talk about one's spiritual condition.
And the dividing line is simple:

- The humble believing are saved--they'll go to heaven because of the finished work of a living Lord.
- The proud are resisting--they'll go to hell (they basically send themselves there).

Do they think they've taken the smartest steps? 

Step 8

“Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.”

Step 9

“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”

What are those.. in plain terms:

  • Step 8 = internal work
    • Honest inventory
    • Naming specific people and specific wrongs
    • Becoming willing (this is huge)
  • Step 9 = external action
    • Actually going to the person
    • Owning the wrong
    • Making it right as much as possible

Many a so-called program's steps like these don’t specifically address sin as the main problem of man (Romans 6:23). We all need to understand that addictions are not a disease. Sin is like a spiritual disease. ie, Alcoholism is said to be a disease (which let's the drunk off the hook for responsibility). Addiction is a symptom of a spiritual disease. Our hearts are wicked and need God's miracle -- we each need to be forgiven and they need to be regenerated. If you take away alcohol but don’t renew the heart, you still have a person who desires sin more than Christ. So, I have no problem admitting we are powerless, but the language really needs be about sin, not merely alcohol or something else. 

Real Christians don’t believe merely in some “higher power” (Step 2). There are some people in positions of higher power -- they are higher powers, much more powerful than I ie, the President. 

We believe in the LORD, the God of the Bible who is three in One—Father, Son and Holy Spirit. He has a name. We believe in the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ—our Creator and Redeemer and Lord. We are not permitted to believe in a god of our own understanding. We don’t get to make God up in our minds at all.

Consider the goal of the 12 Steps—a spiritual awakening (step 12). The goal of every recovery program is to gain and maintain sobriety and then help others do the same. But that isn’t the goal of Christianity. 

"And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:" Hebrews 9:27

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16

Can Christians rightly work the 12 steps as they are originally written? Well, think about some. They can’t reduce an addiction problem to a mere physical sickness or disease, nor all those problems that their addiction has caused. Everyone needs forgiveness in Jesus Christ. 

Man's problem is sin, plain and simple. We will face God at a Judgement Seat. We choose. We can have all our sin issues so to speak, addressed on Calvary's Cross (with Jesus, that happened in the past. Many people in OT times pointed ahead in time to Christ and His Cross and were saved). Or we can opt to have our sin-issues so to speak, addressed by another judgment of sins in the future at the Great White Throne Judgement and subsequently, the wrath of almighty God. And we can’t believe in whatever god we want. There is One true and living God. It is He that we must believe in and serve. And our ultimate goal isn’t to help people stay sober by carrying the message of sobriety. Our goal is to share the gospel and make disciples of all nations.  And the benefits are far more than sobriety—we get eternal life.

See if you can find that word “amends” in the Bible. Not there (the English words Bible and Rapture are also not in the Book), but the Bible teaches something even deeper in this regard and much better:

1) Honest Confession (vertical to God, and horizontal manwards)

“Confess your sins…” (James 5:16)

2) Honest Repentance (a change of heart and of direction. Am talkin' about the best course correction here)

“Bear fruits worthy of repentance.” (Luke 3:8)

3) Restitution (restore what was damaged by me). This is where it gets very concrete.

Look at Zacchaeus:

“If I have defrauded anyone… I restore it fourfold.” (Luke 19:8)

Sayin' words is the easy part. Those were not just words, because he went and put feet to his new found faith—that’s measurable repair to damage that was caused by the guilty sinner. So many think guilt is bad. It's bad when a human doesn't rely upon the Spirit when verbally witnessing (faith comes from hearing and hearing by the word of Christ), and the religious person or Christian trys to do the job of the Holy Spirit to bring inner conviction to a sinner. Real guilt and conviction from the Spirit are GOOD. Do you have lights on your car dashboard warning you? My car needs enough oil in it. Are there sounds produced as well?  

What does the Bible say about guilt?

Why is it not possible for the blood of bulls and goats to take away sin.

Talk about a Christian and guilt regarding past sins?

Tell me more.. what does the Bible say about false guilt? How can I avoid false guilt?

Adam and Eve were innocent (for a time in the garden), having no sin or guilt, and thus had no shame

What is false guilt, and how can I avoid it?

What is imputed sin?

How can a Christian overcome the guilt of past sins?

What does the Bible say about forgiving yourself?

Many falsely say they are victims and aren't and then some are. "I am a victim of abuse so why do I feel guilty?"

What is bloodguilt (Joel 3:21)?

What are some Bible verses about guilt?

What does the Bible say about shame and regret?

What are the differences between guilt and the innocence cultures?

If I feel no guilt for my sin, am I truly saved?

Repentance is a good way of life for saints! How should a Christian deal with feelings of guilt regarding past sins?

What is a trespass or guilt offering?


What's the Father's one-step plan regarding His one way program? Choosing to believe in Jesus as Savior while repenting (turning away from sin) -- that's sufficient for spiritual liberation. Wisely applying the Bible is often contrasted with complex, 12-step strategies.

The Dif (Difference): “Amends” vs “Restitution”

Amends

  • Broader, relational
  • Includes apology + acknowledgment + change
  • Focus: healing the relationship

Example:
“I was wrong to speak harshly to you. There’s no excuse. I’m asking your forgiveness.”


Restitution

  • Specific, tangible repayment
  • Focus: repairing the damage done

Need Examples?:

  • Returning money
  • Replacing what was broken
  • Correcting lies told about someone

Simple way to see it:

  • Amends = owning the wrong
  • Restitution = repairing the consequences

Biblically, true repentance usually includes both when possible.


The deeper biblical standard (this is powerful)

Jesus raises it even higher:

“First be reconciled to your brother…” (Matthew 5:23–24)

Notice:

  • Don’t just feel bad
  • Don’t just say sorry
  • Go. Initiate. Make it right.

What real, godly “amends” looks like

Not:

  • “I’m sorry if you felt hurt”
  • “I’m sorry, but…”

But:

  • Specific (“I lied to you…”)
  • Personal (“I was wrong…”)
  • Unconditional (no lame excuses. Aren't they all lame?)
  • Transformational (real change inside and out follows)

When NOT to make direct amends

AA actually aligns with wisdom here:

“…except when to do so would injure them or others.”

Biblically:

  • Don’t reopen wounds unnecessarily
  • Don’t confess in a way that harms someone else
  • Seek wise counsel if unsure (Prov. 11:14)

Why this step feels impossible to some people. What it requires:

  • Humility
  • Truth over image
  • Surrender of pride

Which is why many never do it.


The spiritual reality

A person who refuses this step is not just avoiding people—they’re resisting God.

“God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)


Perhaps I can give a smigen of clarity?

  • Amends heals the relationship
  • Restitution repairs the damage
  • Repentance changes the heart
  • Christ forgives and transforms the person

And when all four come together—that’s when you see a life truly changed from the inside out.

What the Bible truly teaches about apologizing

Apologizing is not merely a social courtesy—it is a spiritual act of humility before God.

Most people resist it because it requires something deeper than words: it requires the death of pride. Scripture makes this clear:

“Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.” (James 4:10)

A true apology humbles us because it forces us to face reality—we are not right, not perfect, and in need of both God’s mercy and man’s forgiveness.


Why most apologies fall short

Many apologies are shallow, forced, or self-protective:

  • “I’m sorry… but…”
  • “I’m sorry if you felt hurt”
  • “I already said I’m sorry”

These are not biblical apologies—they are image management, not repentance.

Even children can be taught to say words without meaning them. Sadly, many adults never grow beyond that.


The biblical pattern of a true apology

A real, God-honoring apology includes four essential elements:

1) Clear admission of wrong (no excuses)

“I was wrong to ______.”

“He who covers his sins will not prosper…” (Proverbs 28:13)


2) Ownership of the impact

“I know I hurt you.”

This reflects love—recognizing the damage done.


3) Humble request for forgiveness

“Will you please forgive me?”

Not demanded. Not assumed. Asked.


4) Willingness to make it right (restitution)

“How can I make this right?”

This is where many stop short—but Scripture does not.


A powerful biblical contrast

Consider Saul vs. David:

  • Saul said, “I have sinned”—but blamed others and preserved his image (1 Samuel 15:24–26)
  • David said, “I have sinned against the Lord”—and was broken (Psalm 51)

God rejected Saul—but forgave David.

The difference was not words—it was the heart.


God’s full process for making things right

With God:

  • Confession
  • Repentance
  • Faith in Christ

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive…” (1 John 1:9)


With people:

  • Apology (own the wrong)
  • Forgiveness (requested, not demanded)
  • Restitution (repair what was damaged)

Look again at Zacchaeus:

“I restore it fourfold.” (Luke 19:8)

That is not talk—that is transformed life.


How serious this really is

Jesus made reconciliation urgent:

“First be reconciled to your brother…” (Matthew 5:23–24)

This means:

  • Don’t delay
  • Don’t minimize
  • Don’t ignore

Right relationships matter deeply to God.


The responsibility on both sides

When you are wrong:

  • Be humble enough to admit it

When someone apologizes:

  • Be gracious enough to forgive

“Forgive as the Lord forgave you…” (Colossians 3:13)


What apologizing produces in us

  • Humility instead of pride
  • Softness instead of hardness
  • Truth instead of self-deception
  • Christlikeness instead of self-centeredness

“Be kind to one another… forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32)


Final clarity

Apologizing is not weakness—it is evidence of spiritual life.

  • The proud resist it
  • The hardened avoid it
  • The regenerate embrace it

And peacemakers—true children of God—practice both:

“Blessed are the peacemakers…” (Matthew 5:9)

They are quick to say:

  • “I was wrong.”
  • “Please forgive me.”
  • “How can I make this right?”

Because they themselves have been forgiven much.


If you want, I can help you contrast a false apology vs. a true biblical one in a way that could speak directly and wisely into your sons’ situation.

I won't hold my breath waiting for others to change because most people never change, though God could change any of us who humble ourselves.

That’s a sober, largely accurate observation—most people don’t change, not because they can’t, but because they won’t humble themselves.

But Scripture holds both truths in tension:

  • Human reality:

    “Can the Ethiopian change his skin…? Then may you also do good who are accustomed to doing evil.” (Jer. 13:23)

  • Divine possibility:

    “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (Matt. 19:26)

So your posture is wise as long as it stays balanced:

  • Don’t put your hope in people changing → that prevents disappointment and manipulation
  • But don’t lose hope in God changing people → that keeps your heart from hardening

The healthy, biblical stance

  • Expect little from man
  • Expect everything from God
  • Guard your heart from bitterness
  • Keep your hands open in prayer

“Be not overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Rom. 12:21)


What this looks like practically (especially with your sons)

  • You can love them without enabling them
  • You can tell the truth without arguing endlessly
  • You can set boundaries without closing your heart
  • You can release outcomes to God

Even Jesus Christ did not entrust Himself to people who would not receive truth (John 2:24–25), yet He still loved perfectly.


The danger to watch for

Sometimes disappointment quietly turns into:

  • Cynicism
  • Distance
  • Subtle hardness

That’s the one thing to guard against.

“See to it… that no root of bitterness springs up…” (Heb. 12:15)


I won't hold my breath cuz I like to breathe and need to. 

I will pray cuz I like God, and will wait on the Lord for what He wants to do, but I won't be waiting on people to change as some do. I don't live for people. 

What I do instead:

  • I release them to God
  • I refuse to enable sin
  • I remain ready to forgive
  • I keep praying for real repentance

Because the same God who changed:

  • Saul of Tarsus
  • Zacchaeus

…can still break through the hardest heart.

And if He does—you’ll be ready, not hardened.

Friday, April 10, 2026

Have You Ever Reached A Low Point In Life? Christian, Low Points In Life Are Trials Too.

I'm not there, but God is.

But I'm Here To Encourge You -- Yes, God Is Real Close!

Does God Teach His Children Things In The Valley?

"It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes" (Psalm 119:71, kjv). 

"God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons that we could learn in no other way." ~ C.S. Lewis

"When we walk with God through dark valleys, we become inseparably connected with Him." ~ Chuck Swindoll

There are truths and people that sunlight cannot seem to reach. Their experience is dark but Grace is powerful!

They live in a valley — in the silence after diagnosis, in the wreckage of a relationship, in the long dark night when prayer feels like shouting into an empty room. And yet it is precisely there, in those stripped-down, undeniable moments, that God does some of His most extraordinary work.

He is not indifferent to your pain. He is not distant in your darkness. He is the God who descends close.

Are You At A Low Point in life?:

-Psalm 34:18: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit".

-Isaiah 41:10: "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you...".

-2 Corinthians 12:9: "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness".

-Psalm 30:5: "Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning".

-Matthew 11:28: "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest".

Who has been there - real down, very low?:

Elijah: He experienced severe depression and hopelessness (1 Kings 19).

Job: Lost his family, health, and wealth (Job 1–2).David: Frequently felt lonely, fearful, and pursued by enemies (Psalms).

Jesus: Experienced was low emotionally. He had temptations in the wilderness and experienced intense anguish in the Garden of  Gethsemane.

With Jesus You Can Face All Of Life's Low Points and High Points:

With you is God's Presence: Even in the "darkest of depths," 

Yep God is Close rather than distant. Your faith can be transformed during the low points of life, leading you towards spiritual maturity in Jesus with and greater reliance on God.

We Believers Need Christ's Power Daily With His Endurance: 

Yes God in the Bible encourages endurance as we draw upon His anointing-grace via His unchanging promises. God is promising that sufferings are temporary and that His restoration will arrive (see 1 Peter 5:10)

Charles Spurgeon, who knew deep grief as a constant companion, wrote: "I have learned to kiss the wave that throws me against the Rock of Ages." 

That is not stoicism. That is not mere PMA positive thinking dressed in religious language. I'm a realist who opts to praise the Lord in the middle of this world's mess. I'm not a pessimist. You can be a praying and praising realist in Christ, too. This was from a man (Spurgeon) who had experienced trials. He'd been broken, had been rebuilt, and had been broken again — and who discovered that the breaking was never the end of the story. God used Him long term!

The Classroom You Never Chose

Nobody volunteers for the low points of life. Nobody raises their hand and says, "Sign me up for the trial that will hollow me out before it fills me back up." 

But James, writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, calls us to something that defies our natural instincts:

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance" (James 1:2-4, NIV).

Pure joy. Not manufactured optimism. Not denial. Joy — rooted in what you know to be true, not in how you happen to feel on a given Tuesday.

The key word James uses is "know." Tested faith produces perseverance. Perseverance produces character. Character produces hope — the kind of hope Paul describes as an anchor, not a wish (Romans 5:3-4). This is a process, a curriculum, and God is the architect of both.

What!? It was good...that I was afflicted. Really? Man, it just worked out that way cuz I walk in Jesus.

Not good in spite of the affliction Ive felt — good because of it. The affliction was the instrument. The lesson was the goal.

The Desert Was the Classroom

Long before Clive Lewis put his thought into words, God demonstrated it through a nation.

He led Israel into the wilderness — deliberately, purposefully, not because He lost the map. "Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart" (Deuteronomy 8:2, niv). 

God wanted to see what was in them. More importantly, He wanted them to see what was in them and change. Forty years of sand, thirst, manna, and complaint — and through all of it, God was teaching the most essential lesson the human soul can learn: 

"Man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord" (Deuteronomy 8:3, NIV).

Comfort trys to teach us to trust in our comfort, but the desert teaches us to trust God.

There is no shortcut to that lesson. It cannot be learned in some PMA seminar. It cannot be downloaded. It is burned into the soul only through the long walk WITH Christ, through the days when the water runs out and the only thing left is God Himself — and you discover, to your astonishment, that He is enough. He is more than enough!

Strength Hidden in Weakness

Paul was a giant — intellectually, theologically, spiritually. He had more credentials than most men dream of, and he learned to count them as loss (Philippians 3:8). But God gave him something else, too: a thorn. Something relentless, unresolved, embarrassing. He prayed three times for its removal.

God said no.

"My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:9, NKJV).

This is one of the most countercultural statements in all of Scripture. The world says: eliminate weakness, project strength, curate the image. God says: your weakness is the very space where My power takes up residence. Your insufficiency is the invitation for My sufficiency.

Barna Research has documented what many pastors quietly sense: the believers who demonstrate the deepest, most resilient faith are disproportionately those who have walked through significant suffering. Not because pain is inherently redemptive, but because suffering, submitted to God, strips away the self-reliance that quietly competes with genuine faith. The valley humbles what the mountaintop never could.

Paul did not merely survive his thorn. He boasted in it — because it kept him close to the One whose grace covered it.

Gold Does Not Refine Itself

Job had lost everything — children, wealth, health, reputation. His friends offered theology that was tidy and wrong. And in the rubble of his life, Job said something extraordinary:

"He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I will come forth as gold" (Job 23:10, NIV).

Job could not see the refiner. He could barely articulate the pain. But he trusted the process because he trusted the Person overseeing it. That is the anatomy of biblical faith — not certainty about outcomes, but confidence in the character of God.

Peter draws the same image with precision: "These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold — though your faith is far more precious than mere gold" (1 Peter 1:7, NLT). 

Gold is passive in the furnace. It does not choose the flame. But it comes out of it purified, clarified, more itself than it was before. So does the believer who holds on.

The great hymn writer William Cowper,  himself no stranger to the abyss of depression and despair, wrote: "God moves in a mysterious way, His wonders to perform; He plants His footsteps in the sea, and rides upon the storm." 

That is not a man writing from comfort. That is a man who descended into darkness and found, to his undying wonder, that God was already there.

Why the Valley Cannot Be Skipped

Here is the uncomfortable pastoral truth: there is a kind of spiritual depth that cannot be produced by blessing alone.

It is not that God withholds grace in the valley — He pours it out there with a generosity that often goes unnoticed until later. It is that certain lessons about His faithfulness can only be learned when everything else has been stripped away. You cannot learn that God is enough until He is all you have. You cannot learn what Paul means by contentment until you have sat in a prison cell with nothing but Christ and discovered — to your astonishment — that you are content (Philippians 4:11-13).

The Proverbs remind us that God disciplines those He loves, just as a father corrects the son in whom he delights (Proverbs 3:11-12). Hebrews echoes it: "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it" (Hebrews 12:11, NIV). Later. Trained. Harvest. These are not instantaneous words. They are long-obedience words.

John Piper writes: "God is always doing 10,000 things in your life, and you may be aware of three of them." The valley does not mean God has stopped working. It means He is working at a depth you cannot yet perceive.

What the Valley Produces

Paul maps it with surgical clarity in Romans 5:3-4: suffering produces perseverance. Perseverance produces character. Character produces hope. This is not a metaphor. It is a spiritual anatomy of transformation — a chain reaction ignited by trials that, left to our own preferences, we would always avoid.

Perseverance is not the same as stubbornness. It is the muscle that only grows under resistance. Character is not what we project — it is what remains when the projection fails. Hope, in the biblical sense, is not wishful thinking. It is a confident expectation, rooted in the proven faithfulness of God (Romans 5:5).

The valley, then, is not a detour from the life God intended for you. It is a corridor inside it. A necessary corridor. One that leads somewhere the mountaintop never could.

A Word to the One in the Valley Right Now

If you are in it today — if the low point is not a theological concept but your actual address — hear this:

God is not punishing you. He is not absent. He is not surprised. He saw this valley before you were born, and He has already prepared what you will need to walk through it. His grace is not theoretical. It is specific, sustaining, and sufficient — sufficient for this diagnosis, this grief, this failure, this wilderness.

The ancient promise still holds: "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose" (Romans 8:28, niv). All things. Not the pleasant things only. Not the things that make sense from where you stand. All things — including this one.

You will not stay in the valley forever. But do not waste it while you are there. Ask God what He is teaching you. Stay close to His Word. Let the pain drive you to prayer rather than away from it. And trust, with the settled conviction of Job, that the One who knows the way you take has not lost His grip on you.

The furnace does not have the final word. The Refiner does.

And He is making you gold.

1) Does God allow low points?

Yes—very clearly.

  • “In this world you will have tribulation…” — John 16:33
  • “Many are the afflictions of the righteous…” — Psalm 34:19

God does not promise a painless life—He permits hardship, even for His faithful people


2) Does God use those low points for a purpose?

Yes—this is explicit.

  • “We know that all things work together for good to those who love God…” — Romans 8:28
You, believer, have been predestined from before the world began. See verse 29. Jesus has called you to Himself, and now you are justified. Sanctification is happening now, see 3:24, and you will be glorified. 

The Apostle Paul uses the past tense in the Text for a future event to stress its certainty (cf. vv. 18, 21; 2 Tim. 2:10).

Check the context (Rom. 8:31–39). Paul closes his teaching about the believer’s eternal security in Christ with his crescendo of questions and answers for the different concerns his readers might still have. 

What's the result? It's his clear expression of praise to and for God’s grace in bringing salvation to completion for all who are chosen and believe in Jesus—a hymn of security basically.

God is for us believers -- yes, it's well translated like this: “Since God is for us.”

What is Paul’s point here: Would God do any less for any of His children than He did for His enemies? I rejoice that the Father has chosen us in Christ (see verses 29, 30). 

"being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;" Phil. 1:6 nkjv

“You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good…” — Genesis 50:20

God doesn’t waste suffering, and we shouldn't do that either—God has redirected it. The Cross of Christ had the greatest purpose. 


3) Are we taught things through suffering we wouldn’t learn otherwise?

Yes—this is the closest direct match to Lewis’ idea.

  • “It was good for me that I was afflicted, that I might learn Your statutes.” — Psalm 119:71
  • “Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I keep Your word.” — Psalm 119:67
  • “Suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” — Romans 5:3–4

This is powerful—the psalmist literally says affliction taught him obedience.


4) Does God use hardship as loving discipline?

Yes—this is a central biblical theme.

  • “The Lord disciplines the one He loves…” — Hebrews 12:6
  • “…He disciplines us for our good, that we may share His holiness.” — Hebrews 12:10

This goes beyond “lessons”—it’s formation into holiness.


5) Even Christ learned through suffering

This is the deepest layer:

  • “Though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which He suffered.” — Hebrews 5:8

If even Christ, in His humanity, walked that path—then we should not expect another.


Man, How Can I Put This all Together?

The Bible does not say Lewis’ quote word-for-word—but it teaches something even stronger:

God not only allows suffering—He designs it, governs it, and redeems it to teach, correct, refine, and conform us to Christ in ways prosperity never could.

“God, in His love, allows affliction so that we might learn His ways, be corrected from wandering, and be shaped into holiness—lessons often only suffering can teach.”


If you’d like, I can turn this into a polished sermon illustration or weave in Spurgeon, Wiersbe, or Charles Spurgeon quotes to deepen it even further.

Thursday, April 9, 2026

Many people constantly feel worried and overly uptight today about saving the planet's ecosystems, and I do feel for them.

And they not only feel personally responsible for saving the Earth, but for getting you involved in their primary effort as well.

Personally, I remember sayings like please don't be a litter bug. Do drive your car but don't pollute by dumping the old oil out onto the dirt when you change it.

But today it's words like: renewable. Environmental footprint. Responsible tourism. sustainable. Religious diversity (when you travel! Man, gobs of idols), Eco-Friendly. Hilfe!

What does God really have to say on this topic? What do I have to say? Got a sec. Read more...