Showing posts with label lonely. Show all posts
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Tuesday, December 5, 2023

The pleasures here -- SO short. The pains here -- SO short. Yeah, in comparison to eternity. Through it all why not.. we live for the pleasure and glory of the Lord!

"Yet you do not know [the least thing] about what may happen in your life tomorrow. [What is secure in your life?] You are merely a vapor [like a puff of smoke or a wisp of steam from a cooking pot] that is visible for a little while and then vanishes [into thin air]." James 4:14 amp

"Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes." esv

Christ's heart really beats for people in cities as it does for people in rural towns! Lots of broken hurting people. 

Yes, the Trinity (God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit) loves those in metropolitan and more hinterland areas! You and me. 

I did some exploring when I was in Milano, in Italy's northern Lombardy region. Some say it's an extra dusty dirty place, but it's probably not more so than other big cities. The city is actually known for all its valuable art and creative people. 

There is a huge ornate cathedral that has some poignant significant words inscribed around its entrance. 

To the right of the door is a nice sculptured wreath of roses. Beautiful! 

Underneath it says, "All that pleases us is only for a moment." On the left side is a sculptured cross of thorns with the moving words beneath posted: "All that troubles us is only for a moment." Over the top of those words comes: "Nothing is important but that which is eternal."

Solomon tried it all and learned real late that seeking meaning through abundance was only chasing the wind (Ecclesiastes 2:11).

"I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and indeed, all is vanity and grasping for the wind." Ecclesiastes 1:14

The word "vanity" that Solomon used back in his day didn’t mean the same thing it means to us today. When we think of vanity, we think of a magazine or people who’ve never met a mirror they didn’t like. But the vanity Solomon spoke of could just as easily be translated as “emptiness,” “futility,” “meaningless,” or “nothingness.” Solomon was saying, “There is nothing on this earth that will completely satisfy us: no temporal thing, no mere human relationship totally, and no pleasure.

Question. Have you ever wondered why the super wealthy or super famous often have substance abuse issues or other problems? I think it’s because they get to do what others only dream of. They accomplish a certain thing, and then they move on to the next thing. They experience another success, and then they move on to something else. They can’t keep that high they were on, so they turn to the next thing.

What fills that inner void? Solomon tried it all, and he realized that it all was meaningless. If you take God out of the picture, your life will indeed be empty, meaningless, and futile.” God the Father is love and His Son Jesus is our only Savior. Repent and invite Him in.

Remember in Ecclesiastes, how Solomon lists the various vain pursuits that are equivalent to chasing after the wind:

• All things done “under the sun,” that is, in a human life lived apart from any consideration of God (1:14)

• Pursuing wisdom and the understanding of madness and folly (1:16–17)

• Rewarding oneself with pleasure (2:10–11)

• Seeking immortality (2:16–17)

• Thinking one can control the outcome of his life (2:26)

• Envious competition with one’s neighbor (4:4)

• Trying to make a lasting name for oneself (4:16)

Solomon concluded that, apart from seeking the Kingdom of God and His righteousness (see Matthew 6:33), life here has no meaning. 

Wealth, or the lack of it, the crowds, the solitude, the pleasures, the pains.. and all the things we pour our lives into on earth simply won’t last. Our projects, our hard work, our rivalries, our alliances, and our successes—nothing will last. We can’t really hang on to the rewards of this world any more than we can grasp the wind.

A Christian has the opportunity to understand the emptiness and despair that those who do not know God daily grapple with. There must be some empathy, some outreach. The world “under the sun,” meaning apart from God, is frustrating, cruel, unfair, brief, and “utterly meaningless.” But with Christ (enjoying relationship), life here is but a shadow of the glories to come in a heaven that is only accessible through Him.

Our earthly pleasures in the country, in the cities, and in medium-sized towns are all so brief. 

Sure, that expensive vacation is over way too soon. 

That fashionable suit is so last season.. very quickly and then it wears out like other rusty, perishable, temporal things. 

All the fun widgets, gadgets, and devices (that constantly need software updating) go in a trash bin. 

The ice cream cone melts before, in or on you.. or sometimes it just drops on the city sidewalk. 

Likewise, people may believe that their personal pain will never stop, that the haunting of loneliness is here to stay, that the intense pressures of their daily lives will have no end. 

But someday both the earthly pleasures and the pain of this life will be over. 

Photo by Mi Pham

"How do you know what your life will be like tomorrow? Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone." nlt

You know what comes next. 

"And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment.." Hebrews 9:27 

Live each minute, each hour, each day as if it's your last because it just might be. 

Photo by Susan Wilkenson

Why does the Apostle Paul call our difficulties here a momentary, light affliction(2 Corinthians 4:17)?

You know Christians experience trials that work for them, as they keep turning to the Lord with their needs. Unbelievers have problems that work against them. Life can be hard on earth at times. Devils like to harras and tempt. Disease, debt, depression, death, and difficulties abound here on earth. Do you have a need? What will you do?

In Romans 5:3–5, Paul reminds us that we believers can “glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” 

When we trust Christ the Ultimate Overcomer through our suffering, we allow Him to shape our faith and character. Even when it does not fully make sense to us why we are going through difficulties, believers have hope that their pains and suffering are not purposeless.

Through our momentary, light affliction, we can choose to draw near to God and even thrive (on multiple levels) in the hardships, filled with the hope that our troubles grow our character and faith even more. We remember that this world is not our final home. 

There’s something far better coming, “surpassing all comparisons, a transcendent splendor and an endless blessedness!” (2 Corinthians 4:17 amp).

When we have blessings or trials, pleasures or pains, let us “fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal” (2 Corinthians 4:18). 

Let's each choose to walk by faith in Christ and simply draw near to God the Father, who is “our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1).

“What is your life?” What's up with James 4:14?

God has never been some sadist who enjoys causing pain and suffering in people. Never has been, never will be. He ain't anything like that. 

What does the Bible say about dealing with chronic pain?



What should be the Christian response to pain?



What about married folk?  

"Christian hedonism" -- that sounds like an oxymoron! After all, if “hedonism” is the pursuit of pleasure, then how can it be Christian? But, as John Piper points out, pleasure per se is not anti-God. Pleasure, in one sense, is a gauge of how much importance we place on what we value. Piper coined the term Christian hedonism as a provocative way to express a timeless truth: God is not glorified in us as He ought to be when He is not our greatest joy. Or to put it positively, in the words of Piper, “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him.”

There are righteous pleasures to be enjoyed. Pleasure (not the unholy type) is a gift from God (James 1:17). When we trust God to supply all we need, we can enjoy His good gifts without guilt or reservation. Godly gratification provides a lasting joy that includes wisdom, maturity, and a clear conscience.








"Lord, You have been our dwelling place our refuge, our sanctuary, our stability in all generations. Before the mountains were born or before You had given birth to the earth and the world, even from everlasting to everlasting, You are the eternal God. You turn man back to dust, and say, 'Return to the earth, O children of mortal men!' For a thousand years in Your sight are like yesterday when it is past, or as a watch in the night. You have swept them away like a flood, they fall asleep forgotten as soon as they are gone; in the morning they are like grass which grows anew—in the morning it flourishes and springs up; in the evening it wilts and withers away." vv. 1-6


A real place called Hell will be the place of anguish, remorse, pain, and misery. Heaven will be a place where God eventually “will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away" (Revelation 21:4). The misery that causes the gnashing of teeth will be unknown in heaven, and there will be no weeping, no wailing, and no tears.

Sadly, those who reject God will realize in hell what they have truly lost, and the realization that there is no “second chance” will cause them to feel the full weight of the pain that goes with that knowledge. The anguish of being separated from God does not go away. It is eternal and unrelenting. We all deserve that kind of punishment: “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Rom. 3:23), but God, in His mercy, made it possible for us to avoid that eternal pain and suffering. Paul explains, “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom. 6:23).

What’s done for the pleasure and glory of.. what's done with Jesus.. as your Lord leading you, what's obediently done right smack dab in the middle of God's will for you.. to bless Him.. will last.

Live ready, help others be. Need perspective? Hear Studd:

"Two little lines I heard one day, Traveling along life’s busy way; Bringing conviction to my heart, And from my mind would not depart; Only one life, twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, yes only one, Soon will its fleeting hours be done; Then, in ‘that day’ my Lord to meet, And stand before His Judgement seat; Only one life, ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, the still small voice, Gently pleads for a better choice Bidding me selfish aims to leave, And to God’s holy will to cleave; Only one life, ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, a few brief years, Each with its burdens, hopes, and fears; Each with its clays I must fulfill, living for self or in His will; Only one life, ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

When this bright world would tempt me sore, When Satan would a victory score; When self would seek to have its way, Then help me Lord with joy to say; Only one life, ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Give me Father, a purpose deep, In joy or sorrow Thy word to keep; Faithful and true what e’er the strife,Pleasing Thee in my daily life; Only one life ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Oh let my love with fervor burn, And from the world now let me turn; Living for Thee, and Thee alone, Bringing Thee pleasure on Thy throne; Only one life, “twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, yes only one, Now let me say,”Thy will be done”; And when at last I’ll hear the call, I know I’ll say “twas worth it all”; Only one life, ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last. ” ..extra stanza..

Only one life, ’twill soon be past,

Only what’s done for Christ will last. And when I am dying, how happy I’ll be, If the lamp of my life has been burned out for Thee." ~ Charles Thomas Studd (missionary to India, Africa, and China. The husband to Pricilla, and father to four daughters: Grace, Dorothy, Edith, Pauline..and two sons died in infancy)

Thursday, March 31, 2022

Ouch.. no, more than ouch!!!

It hurts to see people hurting, scared, in danger, and suffering illness. Have you felt some of that? Some seem so mature in dealing with it. I ain't there yet but want to learn from the One who suffered for me. 

“O Joy that seekest me through pain, I cannot close my heart to thee; I trace the rainbow through the rain, And feel the promise is not vain That morn shall tearless be.” —George Matheson

Is there anything to gain from pain? Not so sure, but we can grow spiritually and get close to the Lord.. we can even learn what is really so during this hard time. Remember there is zero spiritual growth apart from the living Word. 

"As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby: If so be ye have tasted that the Lord is gracious." 1 Peter 2:2-3

Trials, tribulations, temptations and testings come and go. We can even praise, pray and glorify Him while in it. Now that would seem counterintuitive. How could I? 

“Speak to the suffering, and you will never lack an audience. There is a broken heart in every crowd.” ~ Joseph Parker

Remember those who are suffering in hospital rooms or all alone in a dank sorta home. Many don't have any family members or friends left.

Seems Like There's Pain In Every Pew. Yeah, In There Too Sits A Broken Lonely Heart. But In Christ There's Hope for the Hurting.

“They preached the gospel to that city and made many disciples. Then they returned to Lystra, Iconium, and Antioch, strengthening the souls of the disciples and encouraging them to continue in the faith. ‘We must endure many hardships to enter the kingdom of God,’ they said. Paul and Barnabas appointed elders for them in each church, praying and fasting as they entrusted them to the Lord, in whom they had believed.” Acts 14:22-23

"Rejoice always and delight in your faith; be unceasing and persistent in prayer; in every situation no matter what the circumstances be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Jesus (God the Son) works when we turn to, trust in, THANK AS AN ACT OF THE WILL, and even praise Him in all things. Not for all things.  

We believers have trials that work for us as we turn to the Lord in them, but those of this world have troubles that sadly work against them as they reject or forget the Lord. 

Do you have a friend or loved one, a mom dad, son or daughter that is sick? I just lost my young son Nathan-Michael, and almost lost my mom and some dear friends to Covid 19 (a plague, a last days birth pang so to speak). Perhaps you've lost some dear ones as well. So SO Sorry about that

Got some pain and don't get it? Have you been ill? Is your life being threatened (call the police). Do you have no so long to live according to the doc? Got cancer, high blood pressure, heart disease, kidney failure, or some other critical illness that is destroying your body? We are living in a fallen world. 


Pain and disease are in this world because of sin, and though we’ve all sinned the one suffering might not be suffering due to their own sin. I’ve seen people beaten and robbed and they didn’t nothing wrong at all. They were simply in a bad location and the wrong time when a selfish greedy violent thug came by. 

Does he or she feels alone and forsake, I mean the one you encounter? Who else has known pain like this.. have you met anyone like this? Successively, though not necessarily chronologically, he or she feels: 

• Denial (“This can’t be happening to me.”) 
• Anger (“Why me, Lord?”) 
• Depression (“There’s no hope.”) 
• Bargaining (“Lord, get me out of this and I’ll do whatever You say.”) 
• Acceptance (“May God’s will be done.”) 

These feelings are not experienced once and then forgotten, but return again and again. They are not abnormal feelings, but are generally characteristic of those facing the “valley of the shadow.” 

What do you say to such a person? How do you respond? 

How can you really identify with and help someone who is experiencing a level of suffering and a sense of finality that is probably beyond what you have personally experienced? 

You and I wanna help them right? What can we do, believer? 

1. The first thing to do is simply to listen! Listen with empathy to the feelings that are shared. Encourage the person to talk. You may want to probe gently for feelings, some of which lie close to the surface while others may be more deeply submerged. 

2. Pass no judgment on the feelings that are shared, even though they may be expressed in anger, self-pity, or bitterness. Just let the inquirer know that you are hearing what he or she says. Don’t appear to be arrogant by saying that you understand the depth of his or her feelings. You can’t possibly understand! But you may tell the person that you care. This can be put into words and also conveyed by the tone of your voice, your gentleness, and your capacity for feeling and identifying: 

“Think too of all who suffer” (Hebrews 13:3 phillips) as if you share their pain. We might not share it, but we can listen well and try to grasp what they are going through. This is probably no time for you to introduce your own experience of pain and suffering; just stay the course in the Spirit. Keep the focus on Jesus, prayer (even perhaps silent for a bit) and what the hurting one is feeling and needing most. 

3. Do not try to be some sort of “spiritual Pollyanna.” Listen, ask a few questions, find out, evaluate more. Avoid the cliches and all the typical platitudes. Don’t tell the person to “keep a stiff upper lip,” or to be an example in suffering. Do not offer false hopes about healing, or tell the individual that all illness is of the devil and with sufficient faith he or she could be healed. God may or may not heal. These are matters for the Sovereign will. What we can be sure of is that God will spiritually heal those who put their faith in Jesus Christ. 

4. Don’t discourage any reference he or she may make about death. This may be a healthy conditioning of the mind for that which is inevitable. References to death can prepare the way for you, as a helper, to ask if there might be any unfinished business to attend to. 

This is why we witness: to help prepare people for eternity. In a gentle spirit of kindness and concern, you may ask the inquirer, “If you were to find yourself at the gates of heaven confronted with the question, ‘On what grounds do you seek admission to God’s heaven?’ what would you say?” If indicated, explain the gospel message clearly. 

If the needy hurting person aka the inquirer responds affirmatively, share “How to have assurance.” You might also read other portions of Scripture, such as Psalm 23, John 14:1–6, or 1 Thessalonians 4:13–18. 

5. The commitment to Christ should prepare the way to ask whether the person has any other unfinished business, such as relationships (family, friends), financial matters (a will, perhaps), handling of details in regard to the process of dying, death itself, funeral arrangements, and disposal of the body. Encourage the inquirer to take care of all these matters, seeking either pastoral or professional advice in the process. 

6. Suggest that the hurting one, or inquirer find out if his or her community has a hospice agency. These agencies specialize in providing reinforcement to patients whose diseases are considered terminal, and to their families. 

Thanks for the pic Milada Vigerova

LIFE HERE ON EARTH, I MEAN IN THE PHYSICAL, IS TERMINAL. UNTIL THE RAPTURE HAPPENS 1 IN EVERY 1 PERSON WILL PASS AWAY PHYSICALLY. GOTTA BE READY FOR THAT. 

DO YOU HAVE THAT KIND OF PAIN AND ILLNESS.. TERMINAL? SO SO SORRY! I HATE THAT. WE EACH CAN GAIN ETERNAL LIFE IN THE SON. RIGHT NOW IS GOOD. 

Jesus is the ultimate solution for us all. God loves you and He still has a good plan. Where else or to who else will you go? He can forgive anyone and raise them from the dead. Did it before and can do it again. Check it out in the Bible.  

7. Pray earnestly for the hurting worried person in need, or that inquirer that he or she might have courage and strength to be victorious in pain, committing himself or herself to Him who bore our griefs and our sorrows. 

Spend some time in the Scriptures: Psalm 23 John 14:1–6 Philippians 1:21 1 Thessalonians 4:13–18.

What is the difference between God causing suffering and God allowing suffering?
What is the Christian response to the problem of suffering?
Why does God allow some believers to suffer so painfully before death?
Was there any purpose in the horrible torture that Jesus endured?
Is suffering a universal fact of the Christian life?
Why does God allow Christians to suffer? Why does God allow suffering among His people?
Is Isaiah chapter 53 the clearest prophecy about Jesus’ atoning sacrifice?
I don’t understand why God allows the innocent to be hurt.
Are there any that I need to memorize? 
How long did Job suffer? How much time passed between Job’s losing everything and God’s restoration?
God has never been cruel even one time. Does God have callous indifference to, or take pleasure in, causing pain and suffering?
What are some of the possible reasons why God would allow someone to get sick?
Can we ask God to take our lives so we can go to heaven?
Can a Christian cope while suffering HOW?.. I mean with a degenerative disease such as Alzheimer’s (Alzheimers / Alzheimer), dementia, ALS, or palsy? Why do...
Why is Jesus referred to as a man of sorrows? What is the meaning of Isaiah 53:3?
Why is the suffering that Christ endured referred to as His passion?
What does Colossians 1:24 mean when Paul says he fills up in his flesh what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions. Huh?
Is God impassible or passible? What are the implications of the impassibility vs...
One thing, it means you have some opposition from the evil one who knows his time to hassle you is short. Doesn't have much time to work.