The Truth About God’s Deep, Lasting Care From His Love
Here's a fresh biblical reflection for those hurting, for those who have been passed up, for the lonely, and for the overlooked.
Sometimes we hear people say, “No one cares about me!”
And it might feel true—when phone calls go unanswered, when people stop checking in on you, when your presence or absence seems unnoticed. It can happen.
You know, some people stop going to church or to so-called recovery meetings because no one follows up with them. Don't do that, keep going for all the right reasons. Follow up on yourself if you need to, please. I've known some who told me why they quit. It's heartbreaking.
Some people then retreat inwardly. Others have taken their own lives. But feelings, though powerful, are not always accurate. That cry—“No one cares for my soul” (Psalm 142:4)—is a biblical one. Even King David, God's anointed, once felt abandoned, without refuge, and unseen.
"Although my spirit grows faint within me, You know my way. Along the path I travel they have hidden a snare for me. Look to my right and see; no one attends to me. There is no refuge for me; no one cares for my soul. I cry to You, O LORD: 'You are my refuge, my portion in the land of the living. Listen to my cry, for I am brought quite low. Rescue me from my pursuers, for they are too strong for me.'” Psalm 142:3-6 bsb
- "Look and see, there is no one at my right hand": The right hand symbolizes support and protection. David feels vulnerable and without support.
- "no one is concerned for me.": David feels that no one cares about his situation or offers any support. This highlights the emotional and spiritual pain of feeling forgotten and unsupported by others.
- "I have no refuge": David feels there is no safe place to escape his troubles.
- "no one cares for my life.": Those words convey his profound sense of neglect and the feeling that his life is of zero concern to anyone ..anywhere.
- God unequivocally knows your heart and hears your honest prayers (Psalm 142:1–2). There are times, and will be more times, when prayer is worship unto your heavenly Father (Ps. 141:1), and there are times when prayer and praise are indeed spiritual warfare. In the heat of the battle, pour out your heart to the Lord and tell Him how you feel and what you need. Turn the cave into a Holy of Holies.
- God unequivocally knows your path (v. 3). Where have you been walking and where will you go in the future? David walked in God’s will, but the enemy lied about him and set traps to catch him.. to kill him. Walk with the Lord Jesus one step at a time and He will care and see you through it all (Ps. 16:11; Prov. 3:5–6).
- God unequivocally knows your pain (v. 4). David felt completely abandoned, but he knew the Lord was stronger than all and still with him (2 Tim. 4:16–18). When you feel like nobody cares, remember that He is there and cares for you (1 Pet. 5:7).
- God unequivocally is your portion (v. 5). If you have God, what more do you need? One with God is a majority, so be wholly satisfied with Him. Memorize this verse via verbal repetition. Yes, out loud. "Whom have I in heaven but You? And besides You, I desire nothing on earth. My flesh and my heart may fail, But God is the rock and strength of my heart and my portion forever." Psalm 73:25-26 amp
- God unequivocally will be praised (vv. 6–7). Circumstancially, it may not look like it now (be practical and spiritual--look up away from those to the Lord). One day all your trials will turn out for your good and God’s glory. Start thanking and praising Him in (not for) those circumstances now—by faith—and you will be “tuned up” when His answer comes. Memorize Romans 8:28-29. Psalm 150, explicitly call for praise, urging believers to express joy and gratitude to God through music, instruments, and vocal expressions.
> Psalm 150 - This Psalm calls for a red-hot passionate and various honest expressions of praise from the heart, using instruments and vocal expressions to honor God.> Psalm 145 - This Psalm emphasizes that God is "greatly to be praised" and that his greatness is unsearchable.> Psalm 34 - This Psalm highlights the importance of praising God, even through difficult times, and reminds believers of God's provision and faithfulness.
The Bible Wasn't Written To Us, But It Was Written For Us As Well. Let's Follow The Author's Original Intent. Let's Think About His Original Audience Too.
Read the chapter in one sitting and prayerfully repeat with some good questions. Identify the subjects. Compare your subject divisions with different translations. Paragraphing is not inspired, but it is a key to following the original author's intent, which is the heart of interpretation. Every paragraph has one and only one subject. I love good hermeneutics and a wise application. What does God want us to know.. and what does He want us to do in our situation?
God is well acquainted with the lives of all His faithful followers. Why do we get problems, sickness, trials, tests, rejection, and attacks? All this is a mystery (I feel for Job a lot), but the Bible teaches us God (YHWH) is always SO for us, close with us, and He will never leave us or forsake us. We can face tough circumstances with faith in Him!
The psalmist was surprised that no one cares enough to come to his aid (cf. Psalm 142:4), not even God (YHWH). Note the imperatives.
1. look - BDB 613, KB 661, Hiphil imperative
2. see - BDB 906, KB 1157, Qal imperative
How sad! He felt SO alone, yes, all alone! He felt his situation was SO hopeless (i.e., Job)!
In the LXX, it is apparently following the DSS understanding, made the imperatives into simple statements, "I look.. I see," referring not to YHWH, but to the psalmist. This is followed by the Aramaic Targums and the Vulgate. I think the imperatives fit the context best (i.e., the psalmist is addressing God, Ps. 142:1-3).
- "soul" This is the Hebrew term nephesh; see note at Gen. 35:18.
- "No one cares for my soul" The participle (BDB 205, KB 233, Qal participle) is literally "seek" and the phrase could easily be translated "no one seeks my life," but this is easily misunderstood in English. So guess what the NASBible well caught the meaning.
- What does it mean that all things work together for good?
- What does the Bible say about spiritual warfare?
- Biblical spiritual warfare is much different from what many TV preachers say it is.
- What does it mean to be called according to His purpose?
- Do we need to be aware of the spiritual battle that is taking place around us? Yes. Perhaps you've seen a lot of lawfare or physical warfare going on around you?
- What can I do when I am hunted, stalked, abused or harmed? Call some decent police, and no, church leaders are not the police. Some will do well at counseling you (not all. Do they properly use the Bible?) What can you do when you are under spiritual attack?
- If angels and demons can't die, what is the point of their engaging in that sort of thing?
- How can I overcome in and through those times of testing, persecution, trials (with the suffering and horrible feelings)..and over the spiritual apathy?
- I wonder if the Bible says anything about loneliness?
- Why are there times in my life when finding God is so SO difficult?
- What does the Bible say about loneliness?
- Could a real Christian experience levels of depression?
- Is loving God an emotion, a feeling, or a decision?
- What if there are times when I really don't feel saved?
- Why does the psalmist ask, “Why have you forsaken me” (Psalm 22)?
- What God's Word speak to those feelings of being overwhelmed? Yes!
- What even is spiritual warfare? What are some keys to victory?
But here's the truth: it’s really a lie that no one cares. God does indeed care. Yes, He cares more deeply than anyone ever could. He sees every ache in your heart, every unspoken word, every tear you’ve cried. And He doesn’t just observe—He acts in love. His love is so real, He gave His Son. And if you belong to Him, He will never forsake you.
Jesus showed us the heart of God when He took up a towel and knelt to wash the feet of selfish, confused disciples (John 13). He loved them “to the end”—to the fullest, the uttermost (Greek: eis telos). They failed Him. Yet He loved them. That’s divine love: holy, unconditional, unflinching.
Your value isn’t based on how useful you are to society, your job title, or who remembers to call you. It’s rooted in the fact that God made you, and Christ died for you. You are not invisible to Him. While people may forget you after retirement, or overlook you in a crowded room, God never does. He loved you before you were born and will love you beyond the grave.
Yes, His work will continue when we’re gone—God doesn’t need us—but in His grace, He chooses to use us. That should humble us and set us free. We are not indispensable, but we are deeply loved. We are not the center, but we are called to center our lives on Him.
So instead of chasing validation from others, live to give love, not just get it. Be the one who notices, who reaches out, who cares. Because God’s love doesn’t stop with us—it moves through us.
And when you feel forgotten, remember:
Jesus sees you.
Jesus knows you.
Jesus loves you.
Not because of what you’ve done, but because of who He is.
He is the refuge David cried out for. He is the Savior who offers living water to dry souls. He is the God whose gospel goes to the ends of the earth, inviting anyone to come—and whose love especially rests on His children, eternally and without measure.
So, yes—God really cares.
He’s never been indifferent. He’s always been near.
Taste and see that the Lord is good (Psalm 34:8).
Come to Him. Be loved. Be found. Be whole.
And then—go and love others the way He loved you.
Does God really care about you? Yes He does -- he feels compassion, and he extends this compassion towards you. He cares deeply inside. What is the truth about God’s love? God is love.
What's this love of God about? First off, God loves himself (The Bible clearly teaches there is an intra-trinitarian Love. Yes, the Father has a love for the Son. There is a love in the Son for the Father. The Father and Son indeed have a love towards the Holy Spirit too). And it’s from this springs God’s love for all humanity ..for all people enough to give each of us common grace, enough to feel compassion and to extend it to people (anyone willing to receive it). He gives us incessant warnings in love. He gives people gospel opportunities in love ..that really should appeal to all of our minds and consciences inside (his love has no limit in extent, but it has a limit in degree. Yes, it’s limited in degree). God the Father provided a sufficient Savior in love for you and me.
Oh taste and see that the Lord is good!!! God is love, but love is not God. Feelings come and go and can be fickle. There's sort of a path in the human heart that when properly followed, leads to truth and points us to Jesus (every single sinner who repents and believes in him will be pardoned and saved we to the ends of the Earth are to go tell em all. Jesus said, "For this is the will of my Father, that everyone who looks on the Son and believes in him should have eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day.” Jn. 6:40 The Savior is revealed to sinners indiscriminately, In an unlimited fashion, to the ends of the globe ..extensively with his message/offer. He is the light that can lighten every man).
So we each need to choose to love him as responders when he is the loving initiator. God's love is revealed to us sinners indiscriminately! There is a generous, extensive gospel offer manifesting God's love to all of humanity. Sadly some are still unwilling to come to him on his terms. Here's another aspect of his love: God generally loves the world but especially loves his own children. Not all are his children. He loves and saves in a temporal physical sense all people.. but he especially loves and saves believers. God's love for his own children is limited in extent, but it's eternal, and it's unlimited in degree. His love is conditional and it is uninfluenced. It's based on sovereign determination. Jn 13.
He love them eis telos to the end, to the max of his max (on a cross til dead) -- He loved them to the end of his capacity to love them.. with his Divine love displayed (for those blockhead disciples who were disloyal, inconsistent, arguing, scattered, embarrassed and ashamed to associate with him, fickle, doubting.. but Jesus loved them.
Peter, do you love me? ..he was asked three times. Jesus loved by obedience to the Father, but these guys didn't always do that. In fact Peter, after receiving a directive, just went back to his old career in disobedience. That eis telos can't be said of those who rejected him unto their death (which is called blasphemy of the Holy Spirit a.k.a. the unforgivable sin)
"No One Cares for My Soul" — A Call to Love Beyond the Meeting
Some people take their own lives not because they don’t want to live—but because they feel like no one cares. I’ve watched people stop going to AA, church, or support groups—not because they didn’t need it, but because no one called them. No one reached for them outside the meeting. The silence was louder than their pain.
God in Psalm 142:4 gives words that speak to that ache:
"Look to the right and see: there is none who takes notice of me; no refuge remains to me; no one cares for my soul." (esv)
From this place of obscurity and abandonment, the psalmist cries not just for help—but for connection.
So let me ask you:
Do you go to give love—or go to get love?
Because love that only gives when it’s returned… isn’t love. Jesus gave love away, not as a transaction—but as a lifeline.
The Tragic Facts Suicide Reality. Everyone Needs Jesus ASAP.
According to the CDC (2023), over 49,000 people in the U.S. died by suicide in a single year—that's one person every 11 minutes.
And behind almost every one of those tragic deaths is a similar refrain: “No one noticed… no one cared… no one called.”
As Casting Crowns sings:
“Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see?
Or does anybody even know she’s going down today?”
(—“Does Anybody Hear Her”)
Your Role And Calling In Christ Really Matter… And So Does Obedince, Faith And Humility
You have a role. You’re not here by accident. But don’t think for a moment that God needs any one of us to keep His Kingdom going.
“When you die, it’s like pulling your hand out of a bucket of water—the space fills in quickly.”
That humbles us.
Yet, in that humility, we discover something greater: God chooses to use you. Not because He must—but because He loves to. That’s grace.
Quotes to Anchor This Truth:
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“God buries His workmen but continues His work.” — Charles Spurgeon
“God’s servants pass over.. but His work goes on.” —Kurt v.S.
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“We are all pencils in the hand of a writing God.” — M. Teresa
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“It is not what we do, but what God does through us that matters.” — Corrie ten Boom
The Call: Be Salt. Be Light. Be Present.
Jesus said we are salt and light (Matt. 5:13–16). That means preserving, flavoring, illuminating—not isolating.
“Like branches connected to the Vine,” we flourish when connected to Christ—and when we carry His life to others. So:
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Check on someone.
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Make the call.
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Sit beside the person no one sees.
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Invite them outside of the meeting.
Those old song lyrics continue to tell us:
“If we are the body, why aren't His arms reaching?
Why aren't His hands healing? Why aren't His words teaching?” (—Casting Crowns, “If We Are the Body”)
A Closing Reminder
You are unique—but not irreplaceable.
You are greatly cherished—but not central. Jesus is.
Yes, only Jesus and His purposes are indispensable.
Only His Kingdom is eternal.
“All men are like grass… the grass withers and the flowers fall, but the Word of the Lord stands forever.” —Isaiah 40:6–8
So don’t seek importance in the eyes of others—seek to please the Lord in faithfulness according to the Bible. His Spirit will assist you.
Give love away.
Notice the unseen.
Care for a soul today.
It's only God’s grace and love that give you and me another breath here.
I, Kurt, know that I haven't gotten what I deserved when I deserved it. See 1 Tim 4:10
That’s when Jesus rose from the table, set aside His outer garments, and tied a simple towel around His waist. “Then He poured water into the basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded” (John 13:5). Having willingly set aside the glory that was rightfully His, and in spite of the disciples’ appalling selfishness, Jesus’ main concern that night was to demonstrate His personal love to the twelve so that they might be secure in it.
John 13:1 says, “having loved His own who were in the world, He loved them to the end.” “To the end” in the Greek text is eis telos, meaning, literally, that He loved them to perfection. He loved them to the uttermost. He loved them with total fullness of love.
Do you go to give love away or to get love?
Some people commit suicide because they feel like no one cares. I've seen people quit going to AA and all kinds of meetings because no one followed up, no one called them, no one got with them outside the meeting. The silence was louder than words. The absence of care felt like abandonment.
Psalm 142:4 says it plainly—“Look to the right and see; there is no one who regards me; no escape remains to me; no one cares for my soul.” (bsb)
The words in the Amplified Bible sharpens the pain:
“Look to the right [the point of attack] and see; For there is no one who has regard for me [to act in my favor]. Escape has failed me and I have nowhere to run; No one cares about my life.”
We must ask ourselves—are we the kind of people who show up for others when it matters most? Do we love sacrificially, like Christ?
Jesus set the gold standard in John 13:1—“Having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end.” (niv)
In the original Greek, “to the end” (εἰς τέλος) means to the uttermost, to the full extent. Jesus didn’t just love in word—He loved in action, washing the disciples' feet (including Judas'), enduring betrayal, and facing the cross. Love went all the way.
“We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters.” —1 John 3:16 (nlt)
This is the same Peter who at first resisted being served, but finally cried:
“Then, Lord, not just my feet but my hands and my head as well!” —John 13:9 (nlt)
What does it mean that Jesus loved, protected and cared for His own... all the way to the end (John 13:1)?
John’s Gospel is rich with this theme of divine love. Jesus' washing of feet wasn’t just about hygiene—it was about humility, servanthood, and love to the uttermost. Even with full knowledge of Judas’ betrayal, Jesus extended love, grace, and a final opportunity for repentance. That is what divine love looks like.
“Though he was God… he gave up his divine privileges… and died a criminal’s death on a cross.” —Philippians 2:6–8 (nlt)
Jesus said: “Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.” —John 13:14 (nlt)
“Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.” —1 John 4:11 (nlt)
Even if your role in life seems small, and when you're gone it may feel like “pulling your hand out of a bucket of water,” know this: You matter to God. But also remember—
“God’s work goes on. You are not indispensable. You are valuable, but He is sovereign.” —KvS
Recognize God's Sovereignty:
“God’s plan is larger than any individual, and His work continues regardless of who is involved.”
“Each of us is valuable, but God can use anyone He chooses to accomplish His eternal will.”
Emphasizing Humility and Dependence:
“Don't see yourself as indispensable. You’re one piece in a divine puzzle.”
“Focus on God's grace and strength, not your own importance.”
Need Some More Biblical Imagery?
We are salt and light in a dark world. God even wants salt in worship.
“We are branches, and He is the vine.” (John 15)
Let us remain tight with the Lord and:
- Unbittered by neglect
- Forgiving of others’ failures
- Unspotted by the world
- Humble, because Christ stooped lower
Life is short, but love—God’s love—goes the distance. His work is eternal. Let’s go and love others like He did.. to the end.
That is the innate nature of Christ’s love, and He showed it repeatedly—even in His death. “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13).
When No One Seems to Care: The Lord Still Does. Finding God’s Love When You Feel Forgotten Can Happen Today. Come to Jesus as You Are.
Gain a Fresh, Biblical Reflection on Psalm 142:4
Sometimes, religious folk, or others, or the harsh circumstances of life push us into dark places—ever been hiding in isolated caves of the soul so to speak—where it feels like no one sees or joins you, or understands you, and no one even cares. That’s exactly where David found himself (and it was a real cave as well) when he penned the desperate words of Psalm 142:4:
“Look to my right and see; no one is concerned for me. I have no refuge; no one cares for my life.”
This wasn't mere poetic exaggeration. David was getting away from a killer by the skin of his teeth so to speak. He was out on the run, hiding from King Saul in a real lonely cave, betrayed by Saul and those he trusted. He had no sufficient human backup there, had no sufficient shelter from all types of danger, and no mortal strong enough to lean upon for protection. His words bleed raw, bleed honest pain—bleed utter abandonment. God sometimes allows real tough times for a reason. He wants us real and stronger.
This passage isn’t merely about David’s despair. It’s a mirror for our own moments of heartache and heartbreak. Maybe you've been mistreated by those who were supposed to protect you. Maybe church—the very place that should radiate Christ's love—has felt cold or even harmful. And maybe you're reading this with a heart that feels bruised, empty, or numb.
If that’s you, you're not alone. David’s psalm teaches us a vital truth: when refuge fails and people forget, God still sees.
When no one else cares for your soul—He does. More than you and I know!
That’s not churchy fluff. It’s rock-solid Scripture. Over and over again, the Bible reveals a God who draws near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), who binds up wounds (Psalm 147:3), and who never leaves or forsakes His children (Hebrews 13:5). Jesus knows what it’s like to be betrayed, abandoned, and alone. He gets it—and He meets us there.
But here's the twist: even when we feel depleted, God doesn’t just fill us for ourselves. He wants to love through us. That’s grace—flowing to us and through us.
So what if you’re running on empty? What if the love tank is bone dry?
Then pray. Honestly. Humbly. Desperately:
“Lord Jesus, I’ve got nothing left. I’m drained. I’ve been wounded, and I don’t want to fake it anymore. Fill me again—not so I can hoard Your love, but so I can give it away. Show Your care through me when I have none of my own.”
That’s not weakness. That’s strength surrendered to Christ. Power under control--His. Got all rights yielded? That's meekness.
Let’s be honest: some local churches have failed people. Sometimes, badly. But God hasn’t. Many Christians and leaders have failed. We've all failed and fallen short of God's glory and standards. I hate that, but it's true. When any of us sin, we're basically a hypocrite at that moment, but that doesn't mean we must stay that way. We can repent, get back up and walk forwards with the Lord! And He calls each of us to advance spiritually with Him as Lord—not to gloss over the mess or pain—but to carry one another’s burdens with sincere compassion (Galatians 6:2), especially when the world or even fellow Christians don’t. He cares and calls us to prayer--so we'll really care.
So, if you’ve been hurt, hunted, repeatedly harmed.. there’s healing in Christ. If you’ve become empty, there’s filling. There are free refills as well. Do you not feel like you care anymore? He understands. Let's see Him fix that!
And if no one here seems to care for your soul—remember: Jesus always does (He's never not cared about you). He still steps into the darkest and loneliest of caves to help. Still walks beside the abandoned. Still whispers, “I see you. I care.”
Are you sure that you've gotten right with God.. on His terms? You can be sure.
"No one cares.."
Man, those words convey David's profound sense of neglect and the feeling that his life is of zero concern to anyone ..anywhere. Was that exaggerated in his mind?
Sometimes one really does feel like no mere mortal gives a flip about them or cares at all. And they might be true when it comes to people, but God cares. If your parents are still alive, one or two them probably care.
May I say it again? We Christians are called at times to go show God's care to others regardless of how we feel.
But what if you've been treated harshly.. or treated that way over and over again by so-called Christians or even by Christian leaders? What if you now feel like your tank is empty when it comes to God's caring kind of love?
Do you feel like you have PTSD from past spiritual abuse? Some have that or what I call spiritual jandace.
Many people venture out to a local church expecting to receive tender loving care (local Christian churches, though all are flawed to dif degrees.. some more than others.. really need to show care for the lost and saved sinners like Jesus did/does).
Been let down by others? Refocus on Jesus, He'll never let you down. Have you been disappointed before? Do you go to church to worship the Lord.. yes, to give upwards, and outwards or merely just to get?
Some feel so empty it's just scary if they don't soon receive some love!
Would you pray something like: Lord Jesus, I know you're God so I repent in the best way I know how and simply ask you to come on in. Live in and through me please. I feel desperate for You. I had some doubts, but I really believe your gospel message about the cross and the empty grave. Come take over in me right now. Forgive and wash me clean. I choose to change--please change me. I'm needy and have nothing left to give away. Please help me love you more, to forgive, and to care for others like now, when I've run completely out of love. Show genuine care through me because my spiritual tank seems totally empty. Thanks God. Amen.
In a world that for the most part doesn't care, God the Father calls us to Himself.. and to care like He cares. It starts with His Son Jesus and prayer, and His Great Commission.
Perhaps some feel like nobody cares because they have done more than live separated from the world -- they, or their jobs, or their religion, or their poor health status, have isolated themselves away from fellowship with the body of Christ.
Gettin' alone to pray is one thing, but you and I really don't have the time for any inverted, poor-me type of pity parties. We've got a task to bring closure on as the Spirit leads.
Let’s not be mere spectators of someone else’s struggle or pain. Let’s recieve and then become the answer to someone else’s prayer. Because in Christ, the wells of loving care and joy never run dry.
