Godly Men And Women Keep Their Word. They Won't Yield To Any Pushy Selfish Fool.
We all need God's help to follow through and live right before the Lord.
Don't be a serial flake. Do you under promise and over deliver or quite the opposite?
Godly men aren’t flaky, fear-driven, or passive. They lead with courage, integrity, and devotion—both in the home and in the church. Their strength flows from Christ, not ego.
People Get So Strange When They Isolate Like Some Religious Cloistered.
Men, Please Become Authentic Instead Of Flakey And Weird Away From God. You've Got This If You Want To -- Get Grounded In The Word.
- Responsible adults do what they say and close the circle of follow-up. By God's power, you can keep your commitments like you should, believer, no matter how many others won't. Are you a real believer? Do you keep your word? With a humble heart attitude, minus the deceptions making others selfishly demanding. Be honest always and be involved in prayerfully building up the church. Make good wise promises and keep all of them. Don't make stupid promises, but if you do then repent of that and apologize. God can help you live right and make it right when you are forgiven. Godly men don't lie. They take responsibility for their decisions and actions. They protect the innocent. If you aren't sure you can keep your commitment to be there on time, then don't say it all that you'll be there. Commit wisely and then trust the Lord to help you be a little early. Keep all your promises and don't make stupid ones. If you've messed up in a major way then just work on getting that in order rather than running from it for your whole life. Simplify and focus on the basics rather than getting all caught up in craziness and fake news information from all over the web. Don't get caught up in nonsense.
- Be a mentor, not a guru: Live exemplary with others in mind. Guide the younger crew; don't just "preach at them".
- Own your faith, flaws and all: It's okay to say "I don't know" or "That's what I believe, others believe differently". Authenticity over having all the answers.
- Truth and grace are a package deal: Fight sin with one hand, hold out mercy with the other. It's about balance.
- The basics don't change: The core message (is the "gospel"), it is the same, even if the tech (overhead projector vs. Insta or TikTok) is different.
- Seeking Understanding and Purpose: Exploring the core beliefs and principles of your faith and understanding how they can provide meaning and direction in life.
- Building Community: Connecting with others who share similar beliefs can offer support, encouragement, and a sense of belonging.
- Integrating Faith into Daily Life: Finding ways to apply the values and teachings of your faith to everyday situations and interactions.
- Serving Others: Engaging in acts of service and contributing to the well-being of your community, motivated by your faith.
- Openness to Growth and Learning: Continuously seeking to deepen your understanding of your faith and how it relates to the world around you.
WHAT GODLY MEN DO
• They take responsibility for their dishonest accusations, ditching their lame excuses and word salad mumbo jumbo!
“Quit you like men, be strong” (1 Cor. 16:13–14).
Bonhoeffer said, “The man who is afraid of taking responsibility is no true leader.”
• They lead with courage, not bravado to prove something to a fool.
Joshua 1:9; Psalm 27:1.
Tozer wrote, “A scared world needs a fearless church.” Fear never gets the last word -- we don't have time to reason with those unreasonable.
• They protect what’s been entrusted to them spiritually.
1 Tim. 6:20—“Guard the deposit.”
Real men defend truth, purity, marriage, and the vulnerable.
• They pursue purity in a pornographic world.
2 Tim. 2:22; Psalm 101:3.
Studies show over 60% of Christian men report battles with impurity—godly men fight it, not excuse it.
• They serve sacrificially.
Mark 10:45; Philippians 2:3–5.
Keller: “A real man uses his strength for the good of others, not himself.”
• They keep their word.
Psalm 15:4—“He swears to his own hurt and does not change.”
Integrity is consistency between what you say and what you live.
• They love deeply and tenderly.
Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 3:19.
Lewis: “To love at all is to be vulnerable.” Strength and tenderness walk hand-in-hand.
• They repent quickly and honestly.
Psalm 51; 1 John 1:9.
Piper: “The most mature men are the quickest repenters.”
• They build others up.
1 Thess. 5:11; Proverbs 27:17.
Godly men lift, not belittle.
• They steward their emotions instead of burying them.
Jesus wept (John 11:35).
Maturity is feeling with control, not feeling without restraint.
• They work hard without complaining.
Colossians 3:23; Proverbs 12:24.
Wiersbe: “A believer’s work is an act of worship.”
• They stay rooted in Scripture.
Psalm 1; Joshua 1:8.
Research shows Bible-engaged Christians are 228% more likely to share their faith and 407% more likely to memorize Scripture.
WHAT GODLY MEN DO NOT DO
• They don’t quit when it’s hard.
Galatians 6:9. Godly men endure.
• They don’t let fear dictate decisions.
2 Tim. 1:7. Fear may whisper; it never rules them.
• They don’t play the victim.
Romans 8:37—“More than conquerors.”
Responsibility replaces self-pity.
• They don’t speak before thinking.
James 1:19. Wisdom slows the tongue and quickens the ears.
• They don’t live double lives.
Matthew 6:24; Proverbs 10:9.
Duplicity destroys; integrity endures.
• They don’t follow the crowd.
Romans 12:2. They stand alone if truth demands it.
• They don’t use strength to harm.
1 Peter 3:7. Strength protects, never intimidates.
• They don’t isolate themselves or their family.
Proverbs 18:1. Lone wolves lose battles; brothers win people if they can.
• They don’t drift spiritually.
Hebrews 2:1. Vigilance keeps them anchored.
• They don’t tolerate passivity.
Ezekiel 22:30. Real men stand in the gap.
• They don’t settle for emotional immaturity.
1 Cor. 13:11—men put away childish things.
• They don’t treat faith as optional.
Matthew 6:33. Christ is first, not some leftover priority.
THE BIBLICAL SNAPSHOT
Godly men stand firm, lead well, love deeply, work diligently, repent quickly, protect faithfully, and live courageously. They reject fear, passivity, impurity, duplicity, and childishness. They are strong, humble, anchored, dependable, repentant, servant-hearted, and Scripture-shaped.
They don’t whine—they enjoy fellowship upwards in a close relationship with the living Word and grow.
They don’t flake—they enjoy a personal relationship with Christ and finish strong.
They don’t collapse—they prayerfully enjoy a close relationship with Jesus as Lord stand.
As Tozer said, “God is looking for men in whose hands His glory is safe.”
1. Biblical Qualifications for Church Leadership
Elders/Bishops/Christian Leaders
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Scripture: 1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6–7
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Key Traits: Blameless, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, gentle, not quarrelsome, faithful to God and family.
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Focus: Moral and sexual purity is foundational—Paul repeatedly stresses a “one-woman man” (literally “husband of one wife” in Greek), meaning devotion and fidelity if married. Children, if present, must be raised faithfully.
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Quote: Dietrich Bonhoeffer: “The man who is afraid of taking responsibility is no true leader.”
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Clarification: Being single is not a disqualifier. Paul himself (1 Cor. 7:32–35) highlights that unmarried men can serve the Lord fully, focusing on God’s affairs without divided attention.
Deacons
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Scripture: 1 Timothy 3:8–13
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Key Traits: Worthy of respect, sincere, temperate, honest, faithful to wife, manage household well, hold deep truths of the faith.
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Role: Acts 6:2–6 shows deacons as servants—practical leaders ensuring care and ministry continue while elders shepherd the flock spiritually.
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Quote: John Piper: “A man’s strength is measured by how faithfully he serves others, not how much he gains for himself.”
2. What Godly Men Do (Biblical Leadership in Action)
| Trait | Scripture | Insight/Quote |
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| Lead courageously | Joshua 1:9; 1 Cor. 16:13 | “God is looking for men in whose hands His glory is safe.” – Tozer |
| Take responsibility | 1 Timothy 3:4–5 | Lead home and church well; accountability is non-negotiable. |
| Protect the vulnerable | 1 Peter 5:2–3 | Shepherd the flock gently; protect with strength and care. |
| Pursue purity | 2 Tim. 2:22; Psalm 101:3 | Resist sexual temptation; maintain integrity in thought and deed. |
| Serve sacrificially | Mark 10:45; Philippians 2:3–5 | Deacons serve tables; elders serve souls. |
| Keep promises & integrity | Psalm 15:4 | Words and actions must align—trustworthiness is king. |
| Love deeply | Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 3:19 | Leadership flows from love, not authority. |
| Repent honestly | 1 John 1:9; Psalm 51 | Quick to acknowledge sin, quick to return to God. |
| Build others up | 1 Thess. 5:11; Proverbs 27:17 | Discipleship, mentoring, and encouragement are essential. |
| Manage emotions | John 11:35; Galatians 5:22–23 | Strong men feel and respond with Spirit-led self-control. |
| Work diligently | Colossians 3:23; Proverbs 12:24 | Labor as worship, not complaint. |
| Rooted in Scripture | Psalm 1; Joshua 1:8 | Steady, anchored, and equipped for spiritual warfare. |
3. What Godly Men Don’t Do.. Like Allow Liberal Deceptions In And Act On Those. They Don't...
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Let fear of losing control over others.. dictate choices (2 Tim. 1:7)
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Play the victim (Romans 8:37)
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Speak without thinking (James 1:19)
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Lead double lives (Matthew 6:24; Proverbs 10:9)
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Follow the crowd blindly (Romans 12:2)
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Use strength to harm (1 Peter 3:7)
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Isolate themselves spiritually or relationally (Proverbs 18:1)
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Drift from God’s Word (Hebrews 2:1)
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Settle for passivity (Ezekiel 22:30)
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Tolerate immaturity (1 Cor. 13:11)
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Treat faith as optional (Matthew 6:33)
4. The Heart of a Godly Man Leads Him to Keep His Word
A godly man is firm, loyal, disciplined, humble, and servant-hearted. He is “one-woman” faithful, emotionally mature, spiritually alert, and committed to God’s Word.
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Bonhoeffer: “The man who is afraid of responsibility is no true man.”
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Tozer: “The man who fears God fears nothing else.”
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Lewis: “To love at all is to be vulnerable; to lead in love is to be strong.”
Godly men stand, they serve, and they shepherd—whether in marriage, singleness, family, or church. They live so that Christ’s glory is evident in all they do.
Faithful to the End: Promise‑Keepers and Promise‑Breakers in Scripture
“He who swears to his own hurt and does not change.” — Psalm 15:4
Scripture treats faithfulness not as a personality trait but as a moral weight. God esteems men and women who keep their word, and He exposes the cost of broken vows, delayed obedience, and unreliable character. What follows is a carefully organized, Scripture‑anchored survey of those who kept their commitments, those who failed to do so, and the unshakable truth that God always keeps His promises.
I. GOD: THE ULTIMATE PROMISE‑KEEPER
Core Truth
God’s faithfulness is the foundation of all covenant, trust, and hope.
Key Scriptures
Numbers 23:19
Joshua 21:45
1 Kings 8:56
Psalm 89:34
Isaiah 55:10–11
Lamentations 3:22–23
2 Corinthians 1:20
Hebrews 10:23
Titus 1:2
Summary Every human promise rests on God’s character. Scripture repeatedly affirms that not one word of all He promised ever failed.
Christian Voices
Charles Spurgeon: “God is too good to be unkind and too wise to be mistaken. When you cannot trace His hand, trust His heart.”
A.W. Tozer: “Faith is the gaze of a soul upon a saving God.”
II. MEN AND WOMEN WHO KEPT THEIR PROMISES
A. Covenant Faithfulness (Long‑Term Obedience)
Abraham — trusted God’s covenant over decades
Genesis 12:1–4; 15:6; 22:1–18
Sarah — believed God’s promise despite delay
Genesis 21:1–7; Hebrews 11:11
Noah — obeyed fully before results were visible
Genesis 6:22; Hebrews 11:7
Joshua — finished the task God assigned
Joshua 24:14–15, 31
B. Integrity Under Pressure (Promises Kept at Personal Cost)
Joseph — remained faithful despite betrayal and imprisonment
Genesis 39–41; 50:20
Daniel — would not compromise prayer or loyalty
Daniel 6:4–23
Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego — faithfulness even unto death
Daniel 3:16–18
Nehemiah — completed the work despite opposition
Nehemiah 2–6
C. Loyalty to People (Relational Commitments)
Ruth — covenant loyalty to Naomi
Ruth 1:16–17; 4:13–17
Jonathan — faithful friend despite personal loss
1 Samuel 18:3–4; 20:13–17
David — honored covenant with Jonathan
2 Samuel 9:1–7
D. Keeping One’s Word to God
Scripture distinguishes between faithful vows and foolish vows. Not every vow honors God, and not every promise should be kept.
Hannah — fulfilled a wise, God-centered vow
1 Samuel 1:11, 27–28
Jephthah — made a rash, unbiblical vow
Judges 11:30–40
Jephthah promised God what God never asked for. His vow reflected ignorance of the Law (Deuteronomy 12:31; 18:10), not faith. Scripture records the event soberly, not approvingly. The tragedy was not obedience, but foolishness.
God never commanded the vow, never affirmed it, and never required its fulfillment.
E. Faithful Servants in the New Testament
Mary (Mother of Jesus) — surrendered to God’s will
Luke 1:38, 46–55
Joseph (husband of Mary) — obedient protector
Matthew 1:24; 2:13–15
Paul the Apostle — finished his course
Acts 20:24; 2 Timothy 4:7–8
III. PEOPLE WHO BROKE PROMISES OR PROVED UNTRUSTWORTHY
A. Delayed or Partial Obedience
King Saul — obedience only when convenient
1 Samuel 13:8–14; 15:22–23
Lot — compromised convictions
Genesis 13; 19
B. Flaky Character and Broken Trust
Samson — repeated vows broken by appetite
Judges 14–16
Esau — despised covenant responsibility
Genesis 25:29–34; Hebrews 12:16
Ananias and Sapphira — false commitment
Acts 5:1–11
C. Betrayal and Faithlessness
Judas Iscariot — betrayal masked as loyalty
Matthew 26:14–16; 47–50
Demas — abandoned ministry for the world
2 Timothy 4:10
Israel as a Nation (Repeatedly)
Judges 2:10–19
Hosea 6:4–7
IV. BIBLICAL WARNINGS ABOUT BROKEN COMMITMENTS
God does not measure faithfulness by intensity of words but by truthfulness of heart. Scripture is blunt with those who speak rashly, vow foolishly, or promise more than obedience requires.
What God Says
Ecclesiastes 5:2–6 — God warns against being quick with the mouth and declares that fools multiply words before Him.
Proverbs 20:25 — A vow made rashly becomes a snare.
Matthew 5:33–37 — Jesus condemns oath-inflation and calls for simple, truthful speech.
James 5:12 — Anything beyond honest yes or no invites judgment.
God is not impressed by dramatic vows. He desires obedience, humility, and repentance more than performative commitment.
V. CHARACTER, CONSEQUENCES, AND MODERN PARALLELS
The Bible’s teaching on vows and faithfulness lands squarely in modern leadership, marriage, ministry, and everyday Christian living. Scripture does not condemn commitment; it condemns careless commitment.
A. Leadership: Overpromising and Underdelivering
Modern leaders often fall not from malice but from mouthiness.
Biblical Parallel
Saul promised obedience but delivered excuses (1 Samuel 15:13–24).
Jephthah promised what God never required (Judges 11).
Modern Reality
Leaders promise vision without counting cost (Luke 14:28).
Pastors vow unsustainable workloads and burn out families.
Executives make commitments to please stakeholders rather than honor truth.
Biblical Principle
Proverbs 25:14 — “Whoever boasts of gifts never given is like clouds and wind without rain.”
Luke 16:10 — Faithfulness is tested in small promises before large ones.
Christian Insight
Peter Drucker (often quoted in leadership circles): “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” Scripture would add: create it with integrity.
God values leaders who say less and finish more.
B. Marriage: Covenant, Not Careless Vows
Marriage vows are sacred—but Scripture never endorses foolish, unrealistic, or manipulative promises.
Biblical Guardrails
Ecclesiastes 5:4–5 — Better not to vow than to vow and not fulfill.
Matthew 19:6 — Marriage is God-joined, not self-defined.
Modern Distortions
“I’ll make you happy” (only God can do that).
“I’ll never struggle again.”
“Love alone will sustain us.”
These are sentimental vows, not biblical ones.
Biblical Model
Ephesians 5:25 — Love is sacrificial, not performative.
Malachi 2:14–16 — God witnesses marriage vows and judges treachery.
Christian Insight
Dietrich Bonhoeffer: “It is not love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains the love.”
Faithful spouses do not promise perfection; they practice repentance, forgiveness, and perseverance.
C. Ministry Commitments and Spiritual Talk
Ministry culture can reward bold declarations more than quiet obedience.
Biblical Warning
Matthew 23:5 — Doing things to be seen by others.
James 3:1–2 — Teachers judged more strictly.
Modern Examples
Saying yes to every opportunity instead of obeying God’s assignment.
Public commitments made under emotional pressure.
Spiritual language used to cover lack of follow-through.
Biblical Wisdom
Colossians 3:17 — Do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, not ego.
Zechariah 4:6 — God’s work is sustained by His Spirit, not human bravado.
D. Personal Integrity in Everyday Life
Faithfulness is rarely tested on a stage. It is tested in calendars, conversations, finances, parenting, and unseen decisions.
Scriptural Anchors
Psalm 15:1–4 — God honors those who keep their word even when it hurts.
Proverbs 11:3 — Integrity guides the upright.
Luke 12:48 — Faithfulness is measured by stewardship, not intention.
Modern Application
Keep fewer commitments, but keep them fully.
Say no without apology when wisdom requires it.
Repent quickly when words outrun discernment.
Timeless Observation
John Stott: “The Christian life is not about convenience but about faithfulness.”
VI. REPENTANCE IS BETTER THAN FOOLISH FAITHFULNESS
God’s View of Stupid Vows
God consistently prefers repentance over reckless follow-through:
Leviticus 5:4–6 — Provision is made for repentance from rash oaths.
Psalm 51:16–17 — God delights in a broken and contrite heart, not ritual sacrifice.
Hosea 6:6 — Mercy over sacrifice.
To keep a sinful vow is not integrity; it is stubbornness baptized as devotion.
Christian Insight
Matthew Henry: “It is better to repent of a rash vow than to persist in it to the dishonor of God.”
What Happened to Jephthah’s Daughter?
Judges 11 records a tragic narrative, not a model to follow. Most faithful scholars agree on one of two views:
She was literally sacrificed, exposing Israel’s moral decay during the Judges era.
She was dedicated to lifelong virginity and service, illustrating the severe cost of foolish leadership.
Either way, the text condemns Jephthah’s ignorance, not celebrates his resolve.
God’s Final Word on Character
Obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22).
Wisdom restrains speech.
Faithfulness begins with truth, not theatrics.
VI. A DIAGNOSTIC CHECKLIST: TESTING YOUR COMMITMENTS
Before making, keeping, or repenting of a commitment, Scripture invites sober self-examination.
1. Is This Commitment Biblical?
Does Scripture command or clearly commend it? (Micah 6:8; Matthew 22:37–40)
Does it align with God’s revealed will, not just my emotions? (Psalm 119:105)
Will it honor God and serve others, not merely enhance my image? (1 Corinthians 10:31)
If yes: pursue it with humility and perseverance.
2. Is This Commitment Foolish?
Was it made hastily or under emotional pressure? (Ecclesiastes 5:2–3)
Does it promise what God never asked for? (Judges 11)
Does it contradict wisdom, Scripture, or godly counsel? (Proverbs 12:15)
If yes: repent early. God provides mercy for rash vows (Leviticus 5:4–6).
3. Is This Commitment Pride-Driven?
Am I trying to impress people or secure approval? (Galatians 1:10)
Did I speak to be seen as spiritual or indispensable? (Matthew 23:5)
Would I still keep this commitment if no one noticed? (Colossians 3:23)
If yes: withdraw humbly, confess honestly, and realign motives.
A Final Test
Can I say a simple, truthful yes—and a clean, honorable no? (Matthew 5:37)
Does this commitment increase faithfulness or feed self-importance?
God is not glorified by reckless promises kept stubbornly. He is honored by wise obedience, honest repentance, and steady faithfulness.
FINAL SUMMARY
God always keeps His promises.
