They were really in love and lived exemplarily. Yes, in spirit (forgiven by God, with fruit, and controlled by the Holy Spirit), in attitudes, in demeanor and in their deeds.
The Bible says, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9
"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." —Paul, 1 Corinthians 13:4–7
Charlie Kirk's most profound contributions to those of Gen Z was the godly joyous example he set, in word and deed, as a husband, father, political activist and soul-winner for Christ.
He lived all this. So what are some of the things that this couple told young people?
“Having children is more important than having a good career … my kids matter more than how many social media followers I have,” ~ Kirk said three days before his death
"Having a family will change your life in the best ways, so get married and have kids. You won’t regret it."
"Get married.
Have children.
Build a legacy.
Pass down your values.
Pursue the eternal.
Seek true joy."
~ Charlie Kirk
What more did Charlie Kirk say...
1.)
CK: “If you believe in something, you need to have the courage to fight for those ideas - not run away from them or try and silence them.”
Scripture: “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.” (1 Corinthians 16:13)
Reflection: Faith in Christ calls us not to retreat when truth is challenged, but to stand boldly and with love. Charlie’s words echo Paul’s reminder that courage is a mark of true discipleship.
2.)
CK: “Never give up, never surrender, and always go for the win.”
Scripture: “Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith.” (Hebrews 12:1–2)
Reflection: Perseverance is the heartbeat of the Christian life. Victory is not about worldly gain but about finishing strong in Christ.
3.)
Quote: “When you deliberately distort and selectively present the truth, you lie.”
Scripture: “Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor.” (Ephesians 4:25)
Reflection: Truth is not relative — it is rooted in God’s Word. Charlie’s conviction reminds us that honesty is a sacred duty for those who follow Jesus.
4.)
CK: “Greatness, on the other hand, requires the liberty and the drive to make the most of yourself.”
Scripture: “To one he gave five talents, to another two, to another one, to each according to his ability… Now after a long time the master of those servants came and settled accounts with them.” (Matthew 25:15,19)
Reflection: The Lord calls us to steward our gifts well. True greatness is found in using our talents faithfully for His glory.
5.)
CK: “One of the most horrifying and surprising evolutions… is the rapid movement away from tolerating opposing ideas and respectful debate.”
Scripture: “Preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching.” (2 Timothy 4:2)
Reflection: Even when the world seeks to silence dialogue, debate and discussion, real Christians must be ready to tactfully proclaim God’s truth with patience, courage, and grace. Unless it's your time and God allows the haters to take you out.
For the glory of the Lord, keep on speaking truth in love while you still have breath (blog posts on this):
Please don't hate, just appriciate.. give love to God, to Christians, and other people too.
More importantly: Come to Christ here and now just as you are.. willing to be changed by Him.
Do you want knowledge? Go for knowing the Lord and having His godly wisdom first. Then have all the true facts ..instead of some fake facts and half truths. "The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, and he who wins souls is wise." Proverbs 11:30
THEN Wisely Mirror Who He Really Is. Charlie Did That!
Erika Kirk Said...
1.)
EK: “He knew that faith was a habit. The more you live it, the more it grows. But know this too, the seed has only just been planted.”
Scripture: “Faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.” (Romans 10:17)
Reflection: Faith is not static. It grows as we walk with Jesus daily, nourished by His Word.
2.)
EK: “All of you who are already believers, it is your job to shepherd these people. Do not take that lightly. Water the seed of their faith, protect it and help it grow.”
Scripture: “Shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight… being examples to the flock.” (1 Peter 5:2–3)
Reflection: Erika’s words carry the heart of a disciple-maker. Every believer is called to encourage and build up others in Christ.
3.)
EK: “Jesus said, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross and follow me.’ He said he would be persecuted. He said we would be persecuted.”
Scripture: “Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.” (2 Timothy 3:12)
Reflection: Suffering is not strange to the Christian. But in carrying the cross, we walk in the footsteps of Jesus.
4.)
EK: “Charlie died far too early, he was also ready to die. There was nothing… he left this world without regrets.”
Scripture: “For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.” (Philippians 1:21)
Reflection: A life surrendered to Jesus removes the sting of death. Like Paul, Erika testifies that Charlie was prepared to meet the Lord.
5.)
EK: “Women, I have a challenge for you too. Be virtuous. Our strength is found in God’s design for our role. We are the guardians. We are the encouragers. We are the preservers.”
Scripture: “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” (Proverbs 31:25)
Reflection: Godly womanhood is a calling to strength, virtue, and faith. Erika calls women back to the biblical beauty of their design.
6.)
EK: “In our home… I made sure that when Charlie returned from work, it was his sacred landing place away from the worries of the world.”
Scripture: “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” (Proverbs 14:1)
Reflection: Your home should be a refuge shaped by love and wisdom. Erika’s words reflect Proverbs’ picture of a woman who builds her house in God’s fear.
In Christ, you can live courageously as well.
Like this couple did, come to Christ (individually) on His terms not your own.
Each of the Kirks made the choice to come to Jesus and put Him first. You can right here and now!
Charlie’s bold words and Erika’s steadfastness of faith together became a blessing for so many young people -- may they clearly be echoed to this generation and to the next generation as well.
There are no perfect marriages, but there are some married people being perfected (sanctified) in Christ. Got some questions about how to have a Christ-centered marriage?
You know that marriage is not like a lottery ticket where some luckily win and others lose—no, no.. it is a covenant not to be lightly entered into.
A marriage is to start and stay as a Christ-centered friendship. It's to be prayerfully cultivated, like a nice vineyard that yields fruit only through wise and patient tending. A thriving marriage is not “made in heaven” but it's built on earth, through obedience to the Word of God and daily choices of selfless love and sacrifice.
As Martin Luther observed, “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.”
One couple married for fifty years said, “We just never stopped forgiving.”
A forgiven people ought to live as a forgiving people.
Easier said than done, but Jesus can grace you to do what He did.. what Erika decided to do. (Charlie's killer will still face the consequences for his extremely cruel choice. I pray he get's right someday before his life ends).
We're all flawed people. Married life here is about forgiving and staying best friends.
The husband added, “And we never stopped laughing together.”
Love that is patient, kind, not easily provoked, bearing all things. These were not poetic lines to them but daily practices that kept their covenant alive.
Jesus made God’s view unmistakable: “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6).
Covenant commitment means permanence. It's from a good decision followed up by many good decisions.
Winston Churchill once said wars are not won by evacuation; neither are marriages strengthened by escape routes.
A marriage with divorce as a backup plan will falter, but one rooted in God's word, love, and holy vows becomes resilient through hardship.
Scripture provides the blueprint for you and me. Ephesians 5 teaches/commands husbands to love sacrificially and wives to respect and honor.
When both obey, joy flourishes. Research by the George Barna Group shows couples who pray together daily face less than a 1% chance of divorce, compared with nearly 40% nationally.
D.L. Moody wisely said, “If I wanted to find out whether a man was a Christian, I wouldn’t ask him to tell me his experience. I’d go and ask his wife.”
Yet marriage is also a spiritual battlefield. Paul warns in 1 Corinthians 7:5 that neglect of intimacy opens the door to Satan. Peter exhorts husbands to dwell with their wives in understanding “that your prayers be not hindered” (1 Peter 3:7).
Every quarrel, every silence, can become either a foothold for the enemy or an opportunity for God’s grace.
Elisabeth Elliot once wrote, “The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances.”
Unhappiness alone is not grounds for divorce.
It can be God’s summons to deeper sanctification in a relationship with Christ. Paul, writing Philippians from a Roman cell, spoke of joy sixteen times.
The world's type of happiness fluctuates, but joy in Christ is immovable. As the old lyrics remind us, “The soul that on Jesus hath leaned for repose, I will not, I will not desert to his foes.”
One husband had confessed, “We were ready to quit. But when we both bowed before Christ and admitted our pride, it was like life came back into our home.” Today, their restored marriage ministers to younger couples making an impact, living proof that reconciliation glorifies God far more than dissolution.
Charlie and Erika were two best friends who prayed together, making an impact in the world, and she still is doing that.
And what if one spouse is not a believer? Scripture still holds out hope. Peter writes that a wife’s respectful conduct may win her husband “without a word” (1 Peter 3:1). Paul tells us the believing spouse sanctifies the home (doesn't save a person, but sets it apart for God's grace to work. 1 Corinthians 7:14). Here, even in mismatched unions, the gospel light can shine.
If you are single then purpose in your heart now to only (so-called) date.. and only marry a growing reborn Christian. Not merely a carnal, religious or worldly Christian. You know one who can voice "Praise the Lord" cuz he's feeling warm to your form. Some people are adept at faking their so-called Christian walk for personal gain. Take your time and be more than sure what God's will is.
God will guide you via his discernment.
Marriage is not only about personal happiness—it is a divine picture of Christ’s covenant with His Church (Ephesians 5). Broken vows fracture (hurt) families and societies alike, but steadfast marriages preach a clear sermon no pulpit can match.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer explained from prison (separated, then martyred. His execution took place in the Flossenbürg concentration camp on April 9, 1945, just weeks before the end of World War II): “It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, your God-graced marriage that sustains your love.”
So glad I met Liney! I chose to love Liney and I keep choosing her -- she has been such a blessing to me. It's never been hard to love her. Perhaps because we love to casually and earnestly pray about everything together. I say do it His way, according to the Bible. Choose to love Jesus most cuz then you will love each other best.
More can be said, and so I think I will say more on this soon.
C.S. Lewis said it well: “Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. What will sustain a marriage is the promise, the covenant.” A covenant kept—anchored in Jesus and in Scripture, prayed over again and again in faith, and shaped by Christ-like love—becomes not just a blessing to the couple, but a testimony to a watching, carefully listening world that indeed “the joy of the Lord is your strength” (Nehemiah 8:10).
