Godly Men And Women Keep Their Word. They Won't Yield To Any Pushy Selfish Fool.
We all need God's help to follow through and live right before the Lord.
Please don't be a serial flake. Do you under promise and over deliver or quite the opposite?
Godly men aren’t flaky, fear-driven (like I am losing control of them. They might become end up doing this or that! Scary!). They aren't lazy-passive or manipulative. They lead with courage, integrity, and devotion—both in the home and in the church. Their strength flows from Christ, not ego.
People Get So Strange When They Isolate Like Some Religious Cloistered.
Men, Please Become Authentic Instead Of Flakey And Weird Away From God. You've Got This If You Want To -- Get Grounded In The Word.
No matter your generation, have these values of authenticity, practicality, and cutting through all the religious "Fuff and Fufu."
Responsible adults do what they say and close the circle of follow-up. By God's power, you can keep your commitments like you should, believer, no matter how many others won't. Are you a real believer? Do you keep your word? With a humble heart attitude, minus the deceptions making others selfishly demanding. Be honest always and be involved in prayerfully building up the church. Make good wise promises and keep all of them. Don't make stupid promises, but if you do then repent of that and apologize. God can help you live right and make it right when you are forgiven. Godly men don't lie. They take responsibility for their decisions and actions. They protect the innocent. If you aren't sure you can keep your commitment to be there on time, then don't say it all that you'll be there. Commit wisely and then trust the Lord to help you be a little early. Keep all your promises and don't make stupid ones. If you've messed up in a major way then just work on getting that in order rather than running from it for your whole life. Simplify and focus on the basics rather than getting all caught up in craziness and fake news information from all over the web. Don't get caught up in nonsense.
Did Jephthah sacrifice his daughter to the Lord?
No pushy preachiness, no pressuring or performative stuff. Your walk should match your talk.
Be a mentor, not a guru: Live exemplary with others in mind. Guide the younger crew; don't just "preach at them".
Own your faith, flaws and all: It's okay to say "I don't know" or "That's what I believe, others believe differently". Authenticity over having all the answers.
Truth and grace are a package deal: Fight sin with one hand, hold out mercy with the other. It's about balance.
The basics don't change: The core message (is the "gospel"), it is the same, even if the tech (overhead projector vs. Insta or TikTok) is different.
Living a life guided Jesus as Lord by faith can involve various aspects, regardless of the generation. Here are some approaches:
Seeking Understanding and Purpose: Exploring the core beliefs and principles of your faith and understanding how they can provide meaning and direction in life.
Building Community: Connecting with others who share similar beliefs can offer support, encouragement, and a sense of belonging.
Integrating Faith into Daily Life: Finding ways to apply the values and teachings of your faith to everyday situations and interactions.
Serving Others: Engaging in acts of service and contributing to the well-being of your community, motivated by your faith.
Openness to Growth and Learning: Continuously seeking to deepen your understanding of your faith and how it relates to the world around you.
WHAT GODLY MEN DO
• They take responsibility for their dishonest accusations, ditching their lame excuses and word salad mumbo jumbo!
“Quit you like men, be strong” (1 Cor. 16:13–14).
Bonhoeffer said, “The man who is afraid of taking responsibility is no true leader.”
• They lead with courage, not bravado to prove something to a fool.
Joshua 1:9; Psalm 27:1.
Tozer wrote, “A scared world needs a fearless church.” Fear never gets the last word -- we don't have time to reason with those unreasonable.
• They protect what’s been entrusted to them spiritually.
1 Tim. 6:20—“Guard the deposit.”
Real men defend truth, purity, marriage, and the vulnerable.
• They pursue purity in a pornographic world.
2 Tim. 2:22; Psalm 101:3.
Studies show over 60% of Christian men report battles with impurity—godly men fight it, not excuse it.
• They serve sacrificially.
Mark 10:45; Philippians 2:3–5.
Keller: “A real man uses his strength for the good of others, not himself.”
• They keep their word.
Psalm 15:4—“He swears to his own hurt and does not change.”
Integrity is consistency between what you say and what you live.
• They love deeply and tenderly.
Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 3:19.
Lewis: “To love at all is to be vulnerable.” Strength and tenderness walk hand-in-hand.
• They repent quickly and honestly.
Psalm 51; 1 John 1:9.
Piper: “The most mature men are the quickest repenters.”
• They build others up.
1 Thess. 5:11; Proverbs 27:17.
Godly men lift, not belittle.
• They steward their emotions instead of burying them.
Jesus wept (John 11:35).
Maturity is feeling with control, not feeling without restraint.
• They work hard without complaining.
Colossians 3:23; Proverbs 12:24.
Wiersbe: “A believer’s work is an act of worship.”
• They stay rooted in Scripture.
Psalm 1; Joshua 1:8.
Research shows Bible-engaged Christians are 228% more likely to share their faith and 407% more likely to memorize Scripture.
WHAT GODLY MEN DO NOT DO
• They don’t quit when it’s hard.
Galatians 6:9. Godly men endure.
• They don’t let fear dictate decisions.
2 Tim. 1:7. Fear may whisper; it never rules them.
• They don’t play the victim.
Romans 8:37—“More than conquerors.”
Responsibility replaces self-pity.
• They don’t speak before thinking.
James 1:19. Wisdom slows the tongue and quickens the ears.
• They don’t live double lives.
Matthew 6:24; Proverbs 10:9.
Duplicity destroys; integrity endures.
• They don’t follow the crowd.
Romans 12:2. They stand alone if truth demands it.
• They don’t use strength to harm.
1 Peter 3:7. Strength protects, never intimidates.
• They don’t isolate themselves or their family.
Proverbs 18:1. Lone wolves lose battles; brothers win people if they can.
• They don’t drift spiritually.
Hebrews 2:1. Vigilance keeps them anchored.
• They don’t tolerate passivity.
Ezekiel 22:30. Real men stand in the gap.
• They don’t settle for emotional immaturity.
1 Cor. 13:11—men put away childish things.
• They don’t treat faith as optional.
Matthew 6:33. Christ is first, not some leftover priority.
THE BIBLICAL SNAPSHOT
Godly men stand firm, lead well, love deeply, work diligently, repent quickly, protect faithfully, and live courageously. They reject fear, passivity, impurity, duplicity, and childishness. They are strong, humble, anchored, dependable, repentant, servant-hearted, and Scripture-shaped.
They don’t whine—they enjoy fellowship upwards in a close relationship with the living Word and grow.
They don’t flake—they enjoy a personal relationship with Christ and finish strong.
They don’t collapse—they prayerfully enjoy a close relationship with Jesus as Lord stand.
As Tozer said, “God is looking for men in whose hands His glory is safe.”
1. Biblical Qualifications for Church Leadership
Elders/Bishops/Christian Leaders
Scripture: 1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6–7
Key Traits: Blameless, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, gentle, not quarrelsome, faithful to God and family.
Focus: Moral and sexual purity is foundational—Paul repeatedly stresses a “one-woman man” (literally “husband of one wife” in Greek), meaning devotion and fidelity if married. Children, if present, must be raised faithfully.
Quote: Dietrich Bonhoeffer: “The man who is afraid of taking responsibility is no true leader.”
Clarification: Being single is not a disqualifier. Paul himself (1 Cor. 7:32–35) highlights that unmarried men can serve the Lord fully, focusing on God’s affairs without divided attention.
Deacons
Scripture: 1 Timothy 3:8–13
Key Traits: Worthy of respect, sincere, temperate, honest, faithful to wife, manage household well, hold deep truths of the faith.
Role: Acts 6:2–6 shows deacons as servants—practical leaders ensuring care and ministry continue while elders shepherd the flock spiritually.
Quote: John Piper: “A man’s strength is measured by how faithfully he serves others, not how much he gains for himself.”
2. What Godly Men Do (Biblical Leadership in Action)
Trait | Scripture | Insight/Quote |
Lead courageously | Joshua 1:9; 1 Cor. 16:13 | “God is looking for men in whose hands His glory is safe.” – Tozer |
Take responsibility | 1 Timothy 3:4–5 | Lead home and church well; accountability is non-negotiable. |
Protect the vulnerable | 1 Peter 5:2–3 | Shepherd the flock gently; protect with strength and care. |
Pursue purity | 2 Tim. 2:22; Psalm 101:3 | Resist sexual temptation; maintain integrity in thought and deed. |
Serve sacrificially | Mark 10:45; Philippians 2:3–5 | Deacons serve tables; elders serve souls. |
Keep promises & integrity | Psalm 15:4 | Words and actions must align—trustworthiness is king. |
Love deeply | Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 3:19 | Leadership flows from love, not authority. |
Repent honestly | 1 John 1:9; Psalm 51 | Quick to acknowledge sin, quick to return to God. |
Build others up | 1 Thess. 5:11; Proverbs 27:17 | Discipleship, mentoring, and encouragement are essential. |
Manage emotions | John 11:35; Galatians 5:22–23 | Strong men feel and respond with Spirit-led self-control. |
Work diligently | Colossians 3:23; Proverbs 12:24 | Labor as worship, not complaint. |
Rooted in Scripture | Psalm 1; Joshua 1:8 | Steady, anchored, and equipped for spiritual warfare. |
3. What Godly Men Don’t Do.. Like Allow Liberal Deceptions In And Act On Those. They Don't...
Let fear of losing control over others.. dictate choices (2 Tim. 1:7)
Play the victim (Romans 8:37)
Speak without thinking (James 1:19)
Lead double lives (Matthew 6:24; Proverbs 10:9)
Follow the crowd blindly (Romans 12:2)
Use strength to harm (1 Peter 3:7)
Isolate themselves spiritually or relationally (Proverbs 18:1)
Drift from God’s Word (Hebrews 2:1)
Settle for passivity (Ezekiel 22:30)
Tolerate immaturity (1 Cor. 13:11)
Treat faith as optional (Matthew 6:33)
4. The Heart of a Godly Man Leads Him to Keep His Word
A godly man is firm, loyal, disciplined, humble, and servant-hearted. He is “one-woman” faithful, emotionally mature, spiritually alert, and committed to God’s Word.
Bonhoeffer: “The man who is afraid of responsibility is no true man.”
Tozer: “The man who fears God fears nothing else.”
Lewis: “To love at all is to be vulnerable; to lead in love is to be strong.”
Godly men stand, they serve, and they shepherd—whether in marriage, singleness, family, or church. They live so that Christ’s glory is evident in all they do.
Be Faithful And Fruitful To The End:
Should a Christian make a promise?
What does the Bible say about keeping your promises, vows, and oaths?
What does it mean to let your yes be yes and your no be no?
Will God forgive me for breaking a really stupid vow I made to Him?
Read Some More About Promise-keepers And Promise-breakers In Scripture... Part B
